The OFFICIAL Red Flags When Dating Men Thread

[m0rninggl0ry]

Good. Cause i was gonna ask for story time lol

I don't find domestic violence isn't funny.

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

Men who ask "what do you bring to the table" should be avoided because they don't understand the value of a woman. Try to prove it if you want, but you'll only be draining yourself.

This is very true!

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

I just want to thank every person who’s posted something valuable in this thread.

I don’t have very much experience dating, but I met this guy a month ago and he’s shown A LOT of red flags.

Every time I try to distance myself from him, he starts sweet talking me and pulls me right back in.
I really like him but something feels off...
I might be overthinking it though.

Really like him or the image?

What do you know about this man? Besides the things he tells you.. What does he show you?

 

[malbaker86]

I don't find domestic violence isn't funny.

I dont either mama. I was just nvm

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

I dont either mama. I was just nvm

True story, if a man or a woman feels the need that they need to put their hands on you because you simply disagreed with an opinion like sports or music, GET OUT.


He or she will NEVER change

 

[malbaker86]

True story, if a man or a woman feels the need that they need to put their hands on you because ypu simply disagreed with an opinion like sports or music, GET OUT.


He or she will NEVER change

Hell yea i cosign. Me and @wonton87 said if we ever felt a disagreement/argument got to the point where we put our hands on each other, we just need to go ahead and end it and move on. I've never been angry with her ever ANYTHING to want to hit her

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

Hell yea i cosign. Me and @wonton87 said if we ever felt a disagreement/argument got to the point where we put our hands on each other, we just need to go ahead and end it and move on. I've never been angry with her ever ANYTHING to want to hit her

Good! And I advise women and men who were abused to seek counseling. It helps.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

I will say, a RED flag will be if he dates younger women and not women his age.

I'm in my 20s and If a man 40 and up is trying to talk to me, something is up. I remember this guy told me the reason why he doesnt date women his age is because he likes to be spontaneous

Hmmm idk bout this one.

I like older guys. I actually vibe well with them. So I wouldn't say all that. Only if he's like so adamant about dating younger but if he happens to date women from various age ranges but happened to be with younger hey if she legal have at it.

Men like younger women.
As a women I like older men.

IDC

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

Hmmm idk bout this one.

I like older guys. I actually vibe well with them. So I wouldn't say all that. Only if he's like so adamant about dating younger but if he happens to date women from various age ranges but happened to be with younger hey if she legal have at it.

Men like younger women.
As a women I like older men.

IDC

I'm the same way but if he sooo adamant about younger women, that's a flag

 

[Kokoro]

Holds traditional gender values but can't fulfill traditional male roles

Define. Yall be throwing shyt out there cuzz it sounds good, but cant explain yaself

If you have a disagreement and he gives you the silent treatment

This is me. Come correct next time

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple
Can name porn stars

Jordans/Timbs? Yall dont want men policing yall tho

Overly concerned about what you wear and tries to influence this

Double standard or naw?

lve got bad news for you in this digital age on the porn too

 

[Kokoro]

They view relationships and women as annoying.

Some of us men had to deal with parents that had a mentally, emotionally and physically traumatizing marriage

lmma need yall to get off yall high horse judging some of us because relationships and marriage scare us

Men who have never seen their father treat their mother well. You're asking for trouble dealing with this man.

Yeah cuz l could help things like this. lt was partially my fault right?

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Some of us men had to deal with parents that had a mentally, emotionally and physically traumatizing marriage

lmma need yall to get off yall high horse judging some of us because relationships and marriage scare us


Yeah cuz l could help things like this. lt was partially my fault right?

Same way I feel about my father being absent. That's not my fault and doesn't mean I can't treat a man right.

 

[Kokoro]

Same way I feel about my father being absent. That's not my fault and doesn't mean I can't treat a man right.

Exactly so you get it

We couldn't learn by example so we gotta test the waters, and We might fukk up but that doesn't mean our intentions weren't genuine

I guess it's a red flag tho over or I'm "broken" over things I couldn't control

 

[VFib]

Some of us men had to deal with parents that had a mentally, emotionally and physically traumatizing marriage

lmma need yall to get off yall high horse judging some of us because relationships and marriage scare us


Yeah cuz l could help things like this. lt was partially my fault right?

Would you advise your daughter to date someone who is scared of commitment? Would you advise her to spend 5+ years with someone who is scared of marriage?

 

[Colicat]

Define. Yall be throwing shyt out there cuzz it sounds good, but cant explain yaself

Wants a woman to be cook, a maid, a nanny, and a sex kitten and provide income for the household whilst you can't even follow IKEA directions.


Jordans/Timbs? Yall dont want men policing yall tho

Policing? Nawl, when you see him wearing them, just recognize that he ain't the one. There is no debate for you to change.

lve got bad news for you in this digital age on the porn too

Again, if you use porn to the point where you know their stage names, it is a