That's how they became the way they are in the first place. They had bad encounters and then go to the "redpill" spaces for answers. Even more so, encounter other people with similar experiences making introspection hard and making blaming other people easy. Why do that? Why not some introspection? Because introspection will tell them they followed all the rules that other people previously told them and when they put that into practice, but because people are not perfect robots, it doesn't work. The fact that people aren't perfect robots eludes some of them. It eludes them because no one was ever really honest with them in the first place and sold them a lie. It's not women they view as the enemy so much as it is people, dudes included, who sold them the ideas that did not work for them and continue to do so (or ignore their issues in the first place).
That said, the best way to fix a lot of this is for them to get out of this mindset of doing things or following rules to get some result that comes from someone else's cooperation. The cooperation (or submission) of someone else is never guaranteed so the best thing for someone to do is to be the best version of themselves and set themselves up for a decent outcome, wherever that may lay. Avoiding certain kinds of people helps in this, as well as avoiding the feeling of being taken advantage of, which is another thing they are trying to avoid and something non-redpill people never address, futhering redpill dudes' disdain for these people.