This thread really makes me feel like there’s no hope for black love or marriage.
The epidemic of women marrying 'provider' men while cheating on the side with men they are really
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Man if somebody gonna cheat they gonna cheat...I been with my wife since I was 17, I never cheated and she hasn’t that I know of...in the event she ever does...
Imma probably cry like a lil bihh
And imma keep it pushing...life goes on...I’m not changing who I am just to keep someone that I’m not even sure wants to be there.
Imma probably cry like a lil bihh
And imma keep it pushing...life goes on...I’m not changing who I am just to keep someone that I’m not even sure wants to be there.
Since you was 17? How old are you? You might do more than cry 
@hotbeezie
@hotbeezieevery girl has red flags
i had a girlfriend who was bi polar...and had daddy issues. there was turbulence as a result of that but there isnt a woman whos treated me better...ever
so you cant just go off red flags lol
This thread reeks of cheap drinks and somber convos in a dive bar.
men need to adjust their mentalities to understand we dont own these women. we merely lease them
you can find the perfect girl and be the perfect man for her...but you cant forecast whether or not in 5, 10 , 15 years a switch will go on in her head. its a matter of luck. and the same goes for the risk a woman takes getting into a relatiosnship with a man. the only difference is that men have more to lose if marriage ends in divorce. so fukk all that you gotta choose better shyt. obviously there are values and stuff you gotta vet for...but ppl change
nikkas gotta stop being possessive as bad as it sounds. honestly an open marriage might even be a healthy alternative. not sure i could do it though
you can find the perfect girl and be the perfect man for her...but you cant forecast whether or not in 5, 10 , 15 years a switch will go on in her head. its a matter of luck. and the same goes for the risk a woman takes getting into a relatiosnship with a man. the only difference is that men have more to lose if marriage ends in divorce. so fukk all that you gotta choose better shyt. obviously there are values and stuff you gotta vet for...but ppl change
nikkas gotta stop being possessive as bad as it sounds. honestly an open marriage might even be a healthy alternative. not sure i could do it though
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Since you was 17? How old are you? You might do more than cry
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My dude she loved a nikka when he was riding a rusty ass beach cruiser back in ‘05 and didn’t have no damn car
In college I had to bum rides from my homies to see her in grambling
She gave me them food stamps when I lost my work study job.
We used to have to ride the city bus together in Shreveport just to go out to eat.
Fast forward to now we both getting bread and making moves out here.
But even with life as it is, if she decides to leave me, I’ll have to accept it and I’ll appreciate that it was a good run... and keep it moving...I can’t let nobody make me lose my happiness...control is all on me
Women who don't need attention don't grow on trees,where your attention ranks on her list is key. For many men it goes something like this
1.Random men
2.The man/men who got away,male "friends"
3.Her boyfriend/husband
The boyfriend and husbands have a nice run for the first couple years though,but then again when you exchange vows to be together forever,maybe not
Men need to grow up and find women who are grateful to be with them for the right reasons. When you are righteously attached you don't have these types of problems.
1.Random men
2.The man/men who got away,male "friends"
3.Her boyfriend/husband
The boyfriend and husbands have a nice run for the first couple years though,but then again when you exchange vows to be together forever,maybe not
Men need to grow up and find women who are grateful to be with them for the right reasons. When you are righteously attached you don't have these types of problems.
While this is 100% true, it also make a lot of women insecure.
I mean @Deacon Frye got cheated on. His ex wife had to know that women, were throwing themselves at ol boy every time he left the crib.
I'm not bad looking either, so I've dealt with insecure women who've said as much and probed for bs.
well said.Women who don't need attention don't grow on trees,where your attention ranks on her list is key. For many men it goes something like this
1.Random men
2.The man/men who got away,male "friends"
3.Her boyfriend/husband
The boyfriend and husbands have a nice run for the first couple years though,but then again when you exchange vows to be together forever,maybe not
Men need to grow up and find women who are grateful to be with them for the right reasons. When you are righteously attached you don't have these types of problems.
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Be the best man that you can be and hope for the best... That's literally all you can do.
I actually disagree,once you are married or have kids with a woman you have to treat her as if you do own her. Maybe "own" is a bad word,but you have to treat her like she is your child. Would you not do your best to protect your child from bad influences?Would you not do your best to protect your child from potential molesters?If your child was acting weird,would you not invade your childs privacy to find out whats really going on? This is your investment now and it is your job to keep it together,and protect your woman from herself for her own protection,your protection,and the family as a whole. Men have gotten too afraid to seem "controlling" because we have been brainwashed to think its a sign of abuse. Or that you are a simp for "cuffing" your woman,keyword YOUR woman which is subjective,so please know who is your woman and who ain't. Being possesive is the healthy alternative, as opposed to letting your woman run wild and loose out here in a hellhound playing field.
Note-A man who is possessive can be a sign of abusiveness,but I think it would be easy to spot the difference based on his reasoning for being controlling.
It sound good lol but if it did happen I wish you the best31
My dude she loved a nikka when he was riding a rusty ass beach cruiser back in ‘05 and didn’t have no damn car
In college I had to bum rides from my homies to see her in grambling
She gave me them food stamps when I lost my work study job.
We used to have to ride the city bus together in Shreveport just to go out to eat.
Fast forward to now we both getting bread and making moves out here.
But even with life as it is, if she decides to leave me, I’ll have to accept it and I’ll appreciate that it was a good run... and keep it moving...I can’t let nobody make me lose my happiness...control is all on me
