It's not about what you think... It's about what she thinks. And for many women raised in this feminist Western society the results will be badI actually disagree,once you are married or have kids with a woman you have to treat her as if you do own her. Maybe "own" is a bad word,but you have to treat her like she is your child. Would you not do your best to protect your child from bad influences?Would you not do your best to protect your child from potential molesters?If your child was acting weird,would you not invade your childs privacy to find out whats really going on? This is your investment now and it is your job to keep it together,and protect your woman from herself for her own protection,your protection,and the family as a whole. Men have gotten too afraid to seem "controlling" because we have been brainwashed to think its a sign of abuse. Or that you are a simp for "cuffing" your woman,keyword YOUR woman which is subjective,so please know who is your woman and who ain't. Being possesive is the healthy alternative, as opposed to letting your woman run wild and loose out here in a hellhound playing field.
Note-A man who is possessive can be a sign of abusiveness,but I think it would be easy to spot the difference based on his reasoning for being controlling.
Marriage can only work with submissive women. I guess every woman has the potential to be submissive so men have to find a woman that will or at the very least one that will follow their lead. Otherwise don't bother