The "Black women have limited options to pick from" narrative

[agnosticlady]

I didn't ask you now did i. I trust more the person that knows him personally. Truth of the matter of is a lot of these"preachers" are full of it.

What they preach is not what they practice. Men need to focus on men and women need to focus on women.

You quoted me. Even if a good black man stepped to you correctly and respectfully you would find some measly reason to abort the mission. Secondly I said the same philmore said. Dude was one of those men who was focused on sex and not a committed relationship. That is the type of guy you do not waste time on or try to change. Instead you move on and get with a man that is serious and wants a committed relationship.

 

[Elle]

That's exactly what you were saying. Prove otherwise.

My original post that you half read proves otherwise. You're either remedial or being intentionally obtuse. Either way, you'll see what you want so you can call me some disrespectful name. But whatever....

 

[philmonroe]

Thank you...that's what I thought. But dude wants sit on pedestal and down talk on women lol.

Dude finally chose substance over superficiality. You were saying @mamba....

Dude needs to stick to mentoring men and teach them to pick better quality women, methinks,

I think he suffers from the same problem a lot of people suffer from speaking to their own gender they don't speak on what the men/women should do but the opposite gender when IMO we should focus moreso on what we control aka ourselves

 

[Yup]

I think he suffers from the same problem a lot of people suffer from speaking to their own gender they don't speak on what the men/women should do but the opposite gender when IMO we should focus moreso on what we control aka ourselves

Dude was a heathen I'm guessing a few years ago. But now he wants to act like Jesus of black female relationships, lol.

I believe women in successful relationship should mentor women and men should mentor men, mainly.

 

[William F. Russell]

Stop trying to always make it seem like BM are some angelic creatures that can do no wrong. Accept that part of the responsibility lies on the shoulder of your brethren.

Black men have inflated egos when they are broke...when they are educated with a decent job it's through the roof.

I'm not making BM seem to be like angels. All I'm saying is that ALL men learn early on that they, as pursuers, cannot regularly engage women who are above average and, thus, have to get in where they fit in.

 

[philmonroe]

Dude was a heathen I'm guessing a few years ago. But now he wants to act like Jesus of black female relationships, lol.

I believe women in successful relationship should mentor women and men should mentor men, mainly.

Basically he can tell you about them types of dudes because he was one but I can understand how some would look at him funny. If its a Tim Tebow dude telling you about religion you're not going to have the skepticism because that's all dude has lived is the life he preached out (to our knowledge) but this dude nah. He's honest about it though and I will say he still does give advice that I agree with most of the time. I wouldn't use that to discredit him just don't think dude focuses as much on males as he should. Sometimes other dudes will talk about their cheating ways and dude says nothing about it which is garbage if your supposed to be concerned about that stuff now. That's where it looks fugazy at

 

[Yup]

I'm not making BM seem to be like angels. All I'm saying is that ALL men learn early on that they, as pursuers, cannot regularly engage women who are above average and, thus, have to get in where they fit in.

Ok.

 

[philmonroe]

I'm not making BM seem to be like angels. All I'm saying is that ALL men learn early on that they, as pursuers, cannot regularly engage women who are above average and, thus, have to get in where they fit in.

If this was true wouldn't be so many people bytching even though they should stay in their "lane"

 

[YeLovesBoston]

She'a right though...you shouldn't have to chase a man. You can make yourself available to meet them but running after...no.

Either he is interested or he isn't and plus the same guy will start to lose interest or see you as desperate.

so no effort should be me? Not every girl who plays sleeping beauty is gonna have prince charming come save her.

 

[YeLovesBoston]

how did I end up in The Root?

 

[Yup]

Basically he can tell you about them types of dudes because he was one but I can understand how some would look at him funny. If its a Tim Tebow dude telling you about religion you're not going to have the skepticism because that's all dude has lived is the life he preached out (to our knowledge) but this dude nah. He's honest about it though and I will say he still does give advice that I agree with most of the time. I wouldn't use that to discredit him just don't think dude focuses as much on males as he should. Sometimes other dudes will talk about their cheating ways and dude says nothing about it which is garbage if your supposed to be concerned about that stuff now. That's where it looks fugazy at

Thats my problem with those types. It's like teaching women to aspire to marriage while teaching men to sleep around and never settle down.

I can get with a dude that holds both sees to the fire. He focuses too much on women. But I honestly think that a lot of these male relationship gurus are banking on the desperation of black women to push their product as a solution to their problems.

I mean you got Steve Harvey declaring himself a relationship expert and black women (as it is his target audience) actually falling for it.

 

[Yup]

so no effort should be me? Not every girl who plays sleeping beauty is gonna have prince charming come save her.

No where did I say no effort. I say chase/run after does not play out well for women or even men as a matter of fact.

 

[Blackout]

I'm not making BM seem to be like angels. All I'm saying is that ALL men learn early on that they, as pursuers, cannot regularly engage women who are above average and, thus, have to get in where they fit in.

True

Average women on the other hand would learn this early if playas werent filling their head with promises of commitment, so they end up aiming for the top and avoiding other average men.

Basically the answer to Mars question about why dont average men and average women go together.

 

[philmonroe]

Thats my problem with those types. It's like teaching women to aspire to marriage while teaching men to sleep around and never settle down.

I can get with a dude that holds both sees to the fire. He focuses too much on women. But I honestly think that a lot of these male relationship gurus are banking on the desperation of black women to push their product as a solution to their problems.

I mean you got Steve Harvey declaring himself a relationship expert.

Yeah this is the problem period both sexes don't really hold their owns feet to the fire. If this was a majority female messageboard you'd see the same shyt in reverse. That's one of the biggest problems with relationships and relationship advice. I try to be down the middle when giving out advice

 

[YeLovesBoston]

No where did I say no effort. I say chase/run after does not play out well for women or even men as a matter of fact.

but the original statement the other person said was that she felt she shouldn't have to make an attempt to go after guys. You don't need to be on a chase where the guy is playing hard to get, but if you see someone you like don't be afraid to make the first move or be a little aggressive in your pursuit.