The "Black women have limited options to pick from" narrative

[LadySimone]

What are you comparing?

If you are comparing the opportunities non-Black men have vis-a-vis Black men, that isn't a fair comparison for obvious reasons.

Comparing Black women's general passive approach to dating versus other women's more proactive approach isn't an unfair comparison.

Like so many other things in life many black men want a homie hook up and that includes sexual access.

 

[LadySimone]

The dating prospects of a ww in the Western World does not mirror those of a BW assuming that each woman wants to date only their own race of men.

You guys are always on this if BW were more like Asian women or white women tip the black community would be better off (not you persay mamba) as if BW are solely responsible for the black community being in the state it is in.

That is just cruel and untrue and kicking someone while they are down.

But suggest they be like white or Asian men and you'll get dragged.

 

[philmonroe]

I dont care if you dont believe me tho. That posts doesnt say that I care either.

I addressed you spreading rumors like a chatty patty.

Sounds good

 

[LadySimone]

Black women suffer in the dating world because they don't want to put any work in.

This coming from a black man that can't make it work with any woman?

Black men consider themselves successful when sex is the only objective. But these same women got the police, family and criminal court after his ass and black men stay getting snitched on. Yea real successful with women.

What's that divorce rate looking like?

@bcrusaderw

 

[LadySimone]

what is your idea of "average" looks for a black man, the typical guy thats getting passed up because women are too shallow?

Kent is average. Meanwhile If you're a black woman you can look like a young gabby union be called average and told your standards are too high.

 

[LadySimone]

Just based on the fact that there's more women than men in our race, the fact that men are more likely to be involved in gang activity or locked up, the fact that there are more women in college than men...and I have a hard time believing this statement.


On another note, a lot of y'all really lack empathy for what black women go through. Not talking to anyone in particular, but I see a lot of disassociating and misunderstanding on here. A lot of women are growing up without positive male influence, seeing things in the mainstream that don't reflect their image, lacking positive reinforcement, coming from tough communities, etc. And then y'all flip that and ask why can't they be more like white chicks or latinas. It's like damn, y'all not even relating to these women at all, even though we come from the same struggle.

End thread.

As black women we must have endless sympathy and empathy for black men but we get told survival of the fittest.

 

[LadySimone]

He is not whining he is telling the truth. black women are passing up good dudes based of silly Social ideas of what a black man should be.

Receipts!!!!!

 

[LadySimone]

Most of the dude get involved in gangs to get women or help support women.
Everything we do is mainly for black women.

Does this include calling us bytches and hos?

 

[LadySimone]

like somebody once told me attention is the new currency with women today

Actually tariq nasheed said that about black people. Only difference is men are really meant to move by stealth.

 

[Rawtid]

Just based on the fact that there's more women than men in our race, the fact that men are more likely to be involved in gang activity or locked up, the fact that there are more women in college than men...and I have a hard time believing this statement.


On another note, a lot of y'all really lack empathy for what black women go through. Not talking to anyone in particular, but I see a lot of disassociating and misunderstanding on here. A lot of women are growing up without positive male influence, seeing things in the mainstream that don't reflect their image, lacking positive reinforcement, coming from tough communities, etc. And then y'all flip that and ask why can't they be more like white chicks or latinas. It's like damn, y'all not even relating to these women at all, even though we come from the same struggle.

Black women as a whole are a severely neglected group of people. The obesity numbers alone tell that tale. As soon as we improve our relationships with each other...even if we just seek to understand and not agree, the better things will be.

 

[wild cherry blossom]

Lol

 

[Bless't]

Vast majority of women are not on social media.

I just HAD to quote this.

For the sheer audacity and utter ridiculousness of it.

 

[Samori Toure]

The same could be said for normal black woman being rejected for those same reasons. I know, I've been through it. I'm sure you have as well.

Normal black folks in general are being left behind.

No they are not. Normal Black folks just think that they are too good to date the other normal Black folks. When they get that dumb shyt out of their minds then they will find plenty of people to date.

 

[mamba]

You missing the Forrest for the trees. Ignore high school it could be college it could be an old job. It could be her ex that she chills with. The point is you don't know the origins of this chillin partner. We all have had them in our life. To act like they just turned up on her door and started chilling with her is due to your own hatred and suspicion of women. Yes news flash there are men in women's lives that they trust and are cool with that they can and will have casual sexual relatioships with. News fukking flash!

I don't care what the origin of the "chillin'" partner is. If a chick wants me to take her out on a date while she's still "chillin'" with some other nikka, she must be out her damn mind.

We can go Dutch on the date.

That's like a dude demanding a woman cook for him after date #1 when there are other chicks he's still seeing who he's simped and splurged on for years who've never gone as far as heating him up a tv dinner.

Most women would be like in that scenario.

I've had women literally leave from a restaurant with a nikka and come to my spot to chill with me afterward. Most women don't see anything wrong with that picture. Another nikka treating you to dinner and you then ending up at another nikka's crib who did as little as drop a text.

 

[FTBS]

We gotta call shyt what it is...women (not just black women) make horrible and myopic choices in regards to men. I know dudes with degrees and or good jobs that are about that settle down and have a family life that can't land a chick. On the other hand I don't know one street dude or ne'er do well ass nikka that has any issues in that department. And no all the street/lazy dudes don't all look like Omari Hardwick and all the regular dudes don't look like Jermaine Hopkins. Looks and physical condition vary across the board. One thing I have learned about women is that they never lack options as much as they lack options that they prefer. Any half decent looking chick has options. Shiiiit I see mud ducks pulling nikkas all the time. Chicks really screw themselves over with their selection process, attempts to imitate and/or compete with dudes, and their rejection of any insight or advice that goes against what they are thinking and feeling.