Shoutout to this black Sista for being honest and direct.

[Action Mike]

You lost if you wifed any grown woman who constantly refers to black men as nikkas

Unrated

 

[MischievousMonkey]

I got no real issues with what she said generally...

But the fact is, some women want that "grandma and grandpa" type love "ol school" whatever you wanna call it. But don't/didn't realize how grandma and pop pop relationship dynamic really was...

They ready to have dinner hot and cooked when that man gets home? Ready to keep up and maintain the house, children and bills without COMPLAINT? Basically, daddy make the bacon and bring it home, mama handle everything else minus mowing the lawn and housework (fixing plumbing, being handy, etc)

My grandparents lived like this. My grandfather worked hard and came home damn near EVERY DAY to a hot meal and clean house. Grandma paid all the bills and kept the house moving. I did not hear her EVER ask my grandfather to do any of that kind of work. He never did dishes, swept a floor, cleaned a bathroom, etc...he was working 80+ hours a paycheck to bring the money home. Grandma never tripped off vacations or going out (which they did occasionally) she raised 6 children to the best of her ability...

Times have changed. Seems like SOME women want the best of both eras without understanding or taking into account how lifestyles, prices, and times have changed for both better and worse...

Nothing wrong with wanting a provider. As a man, I look for women (that I want to date) that are self-sufficient. They work and maintain themselves without looking for handouts. I have no problems treating my woman as the Queen she is, but paying for EVERYTHING while she keeps her money isn't a relationship, that's a child. I can do that by myself. This a PARTNERSHIP. We do for EACH OTHER. I want a woman that wants to spoil me just as much as I spoil her. A woman who understands that the burden shouldn't always be on the man, traditional or not. Will at least OFFER to pay or take you out. THOSE are REAL women who are down to ride or hell, drive if need be, not just a passenger.

I would think it's an insult. You fight so hard for equality and to be viewed as an equal, but want to be the "damsel in distress" in the relationship. Weird but okay.

Like some have said earlier, focus on what YOU can bring to the relationship, not what the OTHER person brings. If you get YOURSELF right, you're bound to attract like spirits... that's all I got

This is exactly how I look at it, word for word.

 

[ItzRailT]

Now if only these chicks start walking that talk because most of the time the men these chicks having kids by and giving the puss up to ain't shyt and broke.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

@Serious

These the type men that tell us how we should be

I would clown that nikka every chance I get No self respect, no character compass, nothing. Straight up disgrace on some you have dishonored your family type shyt

 

[Serious]

I've dated dudes with money and it's overrated. They can be cool but like we mentioned they will use it to control you especially because so many women are pressed about it.

So now even if a guy pays I always find a way to spend something. I'm leaving a tip, I'm buying ice cream bringing a bottle of wine etc. Funny enough a lot of men hate it when I do it...and we both know why. lol Good way to get a measure of a man.

You gotta make these women hip to game.

I'm not a player, but it's so easy for me to move like one, by doing just enough. A lot of women with the must be a "provider"(aka looking peacocking dudes with money) checklist don't even know what traits to look out for. Someone like me with a sense of taste, class and disposable income can easily have them in a manipulative treadmill situationship, without breaking a sweat at night.

Real talk though, I hate when a date tries to pay for dinner, but I love it when they take initiative towards paying for other minimal charges like parking or the movies afterwards.

 

[fkthisgaysite]

#NoLiteBrites

fukk you

Also did not watch but if I'm assuming correctly about tha content: Idk why everyone...cant...pay...for themselves....? Where did this whole shyt even come from?

Why should I take my money I earned and spend it on you instead of me? And vice versa. I dont want my bytches giving me money or buying me shyt i make my own bread.

I just never got around to understanding that concept mane i really cant wrap my head around it.

Then they say they want to be with a "Man" tho. Well, last time I checked, children want others to buy shyt for them.

Stupid ass shyt.

 

[Serious]

@Serious

These the type men that tell us how we should be

I would clown that nikka every chance I get No self respect, no character compass, nothing. Straight up disgrace on some you have dishonored your family type shyt

I only got a quarterway through before I had to stop reading it.
But real talk dude was in undergrad, dealing with his first experience of dating.

shyt happens, people are shady. Some people like trying savage issues and make things work. For someone at a young age, I get it. Young people are allowed to make mistakes. Now if duke was 30+ years old, writing about consistently being cheated on and staying, then that's a problem.

 

[hu3ypdadon]

Capitalism turned ppl brain dead..ppl need to put more energy into changing the system instead of judging the ppl being played by the system..Wombmen and Men have to work together to take care of a Family in this devilish system that tries to divide the Black Man Black Wombman And Black Child..Together we win Apart we lose

 

[Serious]

Capitalism turned ppl brain dead..ppl need to put more energy into changing the system instead of judging the ppl be played by the system

I think about this alot.

Imagine all the degrading shyt people do for money. What would they and do how would the feel about themselves tomorrow, if dollars lost all their value overnight.

 

[The Collie]

She is cute!

 

[UberEatsDriver]

She apparently doesn’t know what a gold digger is so her rant was pretty useless because she’s offended at something that is very self explanatory.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

If a lady wants me to provide I’m going to test her cooking, cleaning and home making skills.

But this is where the trap starts cause if you screw up thats half your salary.

 

[paperbag]

Perhaps she isn't scooped up yet because partime tricks are the ones that are really offering

It is atlanta, so maybe

Ummmm the nails and hair is evidence of her being hood

I disagree

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You gotta make these women hip to game.

I'm not a player, but it's so easy for me to move like one, by doing just enough. A lot of women with the must be a "provider"(aka looking peacocking dudes with money) checklist don't even know what traits to look out for. Someone like me with a sense of taste, class and disposable income can easily have them in a manipulative treadmill situationship, without breaking a sweat at night.

Real talk though, I hate when a date tries to pay for dinner, but I love it when they take initiative towards paying for other minimal charges like parking or the movies afterwards.

Women are too egotistical to put on to game. They really be thinking they are better than every woman out there but it's the way we're raised to be. Once I got that out my haed and started working on my personality, being considered, positive and pleasant to be around my success with men went through the roof.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

what is she saying? I can't see the link.

I'm wary of people who make demands without presenting what they bring to the table as well.
I assume any smart man feels the same way about chicks.

I agree with the sentiment of not allowing dudes who ain't bout shyt to take advantage of you which is basic common sense and doesn't require a PSA announcement...but, some chicks wear this shyt out.
Bum dudes will filter themselves out if you about your shyt as a female in a lot of cases. Some of this stuff doesn't need to be said...
Its like those dudes going on and on about submission. If you gotta say it...
I dunno. If you an ass...there's a high likelihood of you dealing with shyt...

Dating is hard but if u consistently surrounded by these types then something is up.