I got no real issues with what she said generally...
But the fact is, some women want that "grandma and grandpa" type love "ol school" whatever you wanna call it. But don't/didn't realize how grandma and pop pop relationship dynamic really was...
They ready to have dinner hot and cooked when that man gets home? Ready to keep up and maintain the house, children and bills without COMPLAINT? Basically, daddy make the bacon and bring it home, mama handle everything else minus mowing the lawn and housework (fixing plumbing, being handy, etc)
My grandparents lived like this. My grandfather worked hard and came home damn near EVERY DAY to a hot meal and clean house. Grandma paid all the bills and kept the house moving. I did not hear her EVER ask my grandfather to do any of that kind of work. He never did dishes, swept a floor, cleaned a bathroom, etc...he was working 80+ hours a paycheck to bring the money home. Grandma never tripped off vacations or going out (which they did occasionally) she raised 6 children to the best of her ability...
Times have changed. Seems like SOME women want the best of both eras without understanding or taking into account how lifestyles, prices, and times have changed for both better and worse...
Nothing wrong with wanting a provider. As a man, I look for women (that I want to date) that are self-sufficient. They work and maintain themselves without looking for handouts. I have no problems treating my woman as the Queen she is, but paying for EVERYTHING while she keeps her money isn't a relationship, that's a child. I can do that by myself. This a PARTNERSHIP. We do for EACH OTHER. I want a woman that wants to spoil me just as much as I spoil her. A woman who understands that the burden shouldn't always be on the man, traditional or not. Will at least OFFER to pay or take you out. THOSE are REAL women who are down to ride or hell, drive if need be, not just a passenger.
I would think it's an insult. You fight so hard for equality and to be viewed as an equal, but want to be the "damsel in distress" in the relationship. Weird but okay.
Like some have said earlier, focus on what YOU can bring to the relationship, not what the OTHER person brings. If you get YOURSELF right, you're bound to attract like spirits...
that's all I got
But the fact is, some women want that "grandma and grandpa" type love "ol school" whatever you wanna call it. But don't/didn't realize how grandma and pop pop relationship dynamic really was...
They ready to have dinner hot and cooked when that man gets home? Ready to keep up and maintain the house, children and bills without COMPLAINT? Basically, daddy make the bacon and bring it home, mama handle everything else minus mowing the lawn and housework (fixing plumbing, being handy, etc)
My grandparents lived like this. My grandfather worked hard and came home damn near EVERY DAY to a hot meal and clean house. Grandma paid all the bills and kept the house moving. I did not hear her EVER ask my grandfather to do any of that kind of work. He never did dishes, swept a floor, cleaned a bathroom, etc...he was working 80+ hours a paycheck to bring the money home. Grandma never tripped off vacations or going out (which they did occasionally) she raised 6 children to the best of her ability...
Times have changed. Seems like SOME women want the best of both eras without understanding or taking into account how lifestyles, prices, and times have changed for both better and worse...
Nothing wrong with wanting a provider. As a man, I look for women (that I want to date) that are self-sufficient. They work and maintain themselves without looking for handouts. I have no problems treating my woman as the Queen she is, but paying for EVERYTHING while she keeps her money isn't a relationship, that's a child. I can do that by myself. This a PARTNERSHIP. We do for EACH OTHER. I want a woman that wants to spoil me just as much as I spoil her. A woman who understands that the burden shouldn't always be on the man, traditional or not. Will at least OFFER to pay or take you out. THOSE are REAL women who are down to ride or hell, drive if need be, not just a passenger.
I would think it's an insult. You fight so hard for equality and to be viewed as an equal, but want to be the "damsel in distress" in the relationship. Weird but okay.
Like some have said earlier, focus on what YOU can bring to the relationship, not what the OTHER person brings. If you get YOURSELF right, you're bound to attract like spirits...
that's all I got
