Basically women get married, and sit and be quiet while their husbands cheat with the non-marriageable women. That’s how it was back in the day. We know because some of us heard our moms, aunts and grandmas fussing or saw the woman no one knew show up to the funeral. LOL
Should the black community adopt arranged marriages (patriarchy)?
- Thread starter Un-AmericanDreamer
- Start date
Someone up thread mentioned essentially high level match-making, which is an amazing idea.
He said women are killed OR disowned by their families. In a lot of those spots if you're disowned you might as well be dead because it is impossible for a woman to support herself outside of prostitution. Your family refuses to take you back because the act of leaving your husband dishonors your family. Due to property rights the husband keeps all the property and has the right to keep the kids so the woman leaves with nothing. Most employers will refuse to hire single women who don't live with their family. Landlords won't even rent to them because everyone will whisper that the woman is a prostitute, since they don't expect a single divorced woman to be able to support herself any other way. And there are fukk-all chances for her to get remarried because no other family will arrange a marriage with a divorced girl unless the husband has something wrong with him (if he's a criminal, or he already had previous wives leave him, or if he has a disability of some sort).
My wife has worked with women like this, their lives are shyt. Getting kicked out of one apartment after another, barely making ends me with shyt jobs, having to go to charity groups for handouts just to keep their kid alive. And the cops won't listen to any complaints because a divorced woman has no honor, so if a landlord kicks them out without returning the rent or an employer stiffs them the paycheck or someone molests them on the street, nothing is done. It's one step short of slavery.
In terms of some places where honor killings do happen and are used as a real threat to women who step out of line:
RareHunter
All Star
No one said that. Cheaters should be exiled.
RareHunter
All Star
What’s your suggestion? Everyone fk and suck their way into a fake little degree and by 30-35, the men and that range don’t even want those women? Be a bachelor? Marry single mothers? What’s your suggestion? Or are you just good in your neck of the woods, so it’s whatever? What’s the solution?
Reminds me of Fiddler on the roof. Just saw the musical play recently with my son and fam and it was about old traditions for Jews. One of them was arranged marriage which took place with matchmaking—it was the neighborhood old lady who would set up potential matches by putting feeler out there to the parents of the daughter and the man. if the man was interested then he would talk to the father to ask for permission, if the father said yes, marriage happened.Someone up thread mentioned essentially high level match-making, which is an amazing idea.
It was more so a matter of finances. They wanted to marry their daughters off to men in good financial positions, especially if the family was poor. The bad part was typically the men chosen were unattractive, much older then the girl, and no one cared how the woman felt about it.
Anyway in the play, all three of his five oldest daughters said “fukk this”. I don’t want to marry the man they want me to, he’s ugly, fat, or isn’t compatible with me. And they all rebelled against the tradition, begging their father to let them marry the men they loved. And the father gave in for two of his daughters, but the third one he disowned because she married a nonjew. the father was in an arranged marriage himself and he and his wife got along but weren’t really in love.
But these discussions get silly for me because the most people are going to do is sit at their keyboard and have these circular discussions about this solution. Then they log off and step back into their reality.
Because this isn’t a community solution that is going to get executed by anyone on here. There is no one size fits all simple solution that can be realistically carried out across the entire community to address the enormity of issues that need to be worked out. It’s going to take a lot of different solutions to address the complexity of our issues and even then it would a be while before you see the fruits. At this point the only realistic solution that anyone here can implement and control is doing what works for themselves and their families…
Last edited:
RareHunter
All Star
You haven’t even mentioned solutions. I guess the white/Roman way of debauchery is good enough huh?
RareHunter
All Star
80+ % of our ppl aren’t married and have kids out of wedlock. What’s respectful about that?So you’re encouraging the rape of our womenyou’re a goddamn demon. If you, your family or anyone in your dusty ass culture still believes in archaic shyt like arranged marriages, you aren’t worthy of respect.Water seeks its own level. If youre a subpar man in every way you deserve a subpar woman and y’all will find each other. Better yourself as a man and you will get quality women, without having to steal their autonomy as human beings.
RareHunter
All Star
The solution is when white gov collapses and our women can’t run to them, order will be restored, of course at that point their would only be a remnant left. Repent and turn to The Most High your Elohim.
Kyle C. Barker
Migos VERZUZ Mahalia Jackson
And yet another made up stat to go along with your "jails only existed after slavery" bullshyt.
It’s too late for me. Good luck though.
RareHunter
All Star
It’s true. And the 20-30% married probably includes interracial and “exoticals”. And I proved my point with the prisons, u thought u had one.
Cobalt Sire
All Star
Women are impatient. They need you to already be fully established. It has become exceedingly hard for college aged men to have their own place, a car, and money to spend. A guy in college working part time is considered a loser in their eyes. When that guy becomes established, most of the women his age are single moms and are finished. He's going to date someone younger or someone from another race.
This post is weird as hell when there's all sorts of threads telling 30+ year old women who focused on their own career or education first that they're too old and done.
So women are too impatient because they want a guy to be established before they commit....but if the woman is patient and establishes herself before she commits, then she's too old and considered spoiled product?
Cause I was staying on topic. OP wasn't bringing up a "solution" to anything, there's no world in which children just suddenly go along with arranged marriages in a culture where all their peers are getting to make their own decisions on that shyt.
If you can't pick a woman who wants to stay faithful with you and build, that's honestly on you. There are still such women out there but 99% of the threads on women around here ain't looking for that shyt, they keep focusing on attributes that don't have jack shyt to do with raising a family together.
If you want families to be more likely to stay together, then we need to work on improving the financial situation of Black men. Get folk back into the Black church, and churches that actually build and maintain community rather than the megachurches and telegrifters. Keep black men out of the justice system, which is a combination of education reform, justice reform, and economically diversifying communities so the worst-off and most dysfunctional aren't all stuck together with no peers in a better situation. And work really fukking hard on mentorship, which means every man whose worth a fukk getting involved in relationships with young men and helping build them up. Same thing for the women too, of course.
It's no easy solution, and it doesn't fit in with your apocalyptic fascist fantasies, but unlike your hopes it actually has a chance of working.