Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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RealAssanova
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this may sound harsh but we're all brehs so we might as well keep it real with each other.
No one can tell you for sure what happened on her side and in her mind and you'll go crazy trying to figure that out. don't even think about what happened in her mind. could be anything. I'll tell you what happened on your side though. For some reason, this girl has you acting out of character, doing things you don't normally do, and doubting what you should do. Keep it real with yourself first and foremost. She was expecting your call. you called at the time you said you would. If she was interested in you, there is no way she wouldn't have known it was your number and you know this. I think you know why you left her a message deep down...
personally, i wouldn't even have answered her text. This girl doesn't respect you. she knew you were gonna call, didn't pick up when you called (which is no big deal in itself) but didn't even acknowledge that you called let alone apologize? it's like Makaveli25 said, you're not a priority to her. Some would say I'm petty but fukk it, i wouldn't even reply until she acts right (and if that moment never comes that just means we'd never talk again). By not replying, you're giving her the space needed to think about this and question whether or not she acted right and if not to correct herself. by replying something that lets her know you are going along with her dynamic of talking tomorrow, you're confirming to her that she did nothing wrong. PLUS now who's suppose to call who? and at what time? everything is fuzzy now, she may have tricked you into a waiting game. thank God you said you have another chick lined up or else you'd be in purgatory today...
We need to respect their choices a little more. Let them choose. Give clear instructions and follow through with no game playing. If she doesn't follow clear and simple instructions on how to get with you, that means she's not feeling you like that and we need to respect that. but too many times our ego doesn't want to accept she's not feeling us so we make excuses for them or give them other opportunities. we convince ourselves that its our fault, that we weren't clear but we're trying to avoid reality. And they can sense it. they sense the fear you have of them rejecting you. they see how fiercely you're trying to avoid their rejection and that's when they know they have power over you and will start playing silly games and you're fukked. When they start showing signs of being difficult (not following simple instructions and not apologizing when they should) don't try to hold on. Cause if you do, she'll think "im being a bytch to him and he's trying even harder to keep me. if i keep being a bytch to him he'll try even harder!" Just let them choose what they want in their life and keep doing you. she may come back or she may not
realeast shyt i neva wrote.
I've been getting a lot of advice and a bunch of people who've heard all the details say she might come backI kept my post in this forum abridged, but I don't know
to be honest the shyt hurts my ego more than it hurts my heart. Like damn I don't think I've fukked up like this before
Damn b, rule #1 never tell a chick how you feel ... you fukked up OD. I've been in the same situation but I learned SO MUCH from it. I told a girl I like her in person and shyt just wasn't the same and it was awkward...
My advice to you is just to ignore her for a while. The one chick I told her I like her I ignored her for a while then she hit me up again out of the blue.. Just ignore her ..
this may sound harsh but we're all brehs so we might as well keep it real with each other.
No one can tell you for sure what happened on her side and in her mind and you'll go crazy trying to figure that out. don't even think about what happened in her mind. could be anything. I'll tell you what happened on your side though. For some reason, this girl has you acting out of character, doing things you don't normally do, and doubting what you should do. Keep it real with yourself first and foremost. She was expecting your call. you called at the time you said you would. If she was interested in you, there is no way she wouldn't have known it was your number and you know this. I think you know why you left her a message deep down...
personally, i wouldn't even have answered her text. This girl doesn't respect you. she knew you were gonna call, didn't pick up when you called (which is no big deal in itself) but didn't even acknowledge that you called let alone apologize? it's like Makaveli25 said, you're not a priority to her. Some would say I'm petty but fukk it, i wouldn't even reply until she acts right (and if that moment never comes that just means we'd never talk again). By not replying, you're giving her the space needed to think about this and question whether or not she acted right and if not to correct herself. by replying something that lets her know you are going along with her dynamic of talking tomorrow, you're confirming to her that she did nothing wrong. PLUS now who's suppose to call who? and at what time? everything is fuzzy now, she may have tricked you into a waiting game. thank God you said you have another chick lined up or else you'd be in purgatory today...
We need to respect their choices a little more. Let them choose. Give clear instructions and follow through with no game playing. If she doesn't follow clear and simple instructions on how to get with you, that means she's not feeling you like that and we need to respect that. but too many times our ego doesn't want to accept she's not feeling us so we make excuses for them or give them other opportunities. we convince ourselves that its our fault, that we weren't clear but we're trying to avoid reality. And they can sense it. they sense the fear you have of them rejecting you. they see how fiercely you're trying to avoid their rejection and that's when they know they have power over you and will start playing silly games and you're fukked. When they start showing signs of being difficult (not following simple instructions and not apologizing when they should) don't try to hold on. Cause if you do, she'll think "im being a bytch to him and he's trying even harder to keep me. if i keep being a bytch to him he'll try even harder!
ok, so tonight im calling girl number 2, who I have yet to talk to on the phone (just got her number last night). If the first girl who I was suppose to talk to last night calls or text wondering why i didnt call her today, do I ignore it, or tell her that she disrespected me yesterday by how she handled the whole situation.
Kenny West
Veteran
id ignore it. you got another bytch. act like it.
besides you already said you only communicate with the chick every other day. by replying to her call or text today you broke your own rule
NobleDrewAli
Superstar
Fellas....I need some help with this situation. My daughter's mom and I have been trying to work things out and she's ok to be around sometimes BUT she can be rude and slightly disrespectful. Now, I've checked her on that BS in the past but today she went back to her old ways. We were on the phone and this broad just hung up in my face. When I checked her on this in the past, she acted like she didn't see anything wrong with it and gave an half assed apology. This is on top of the random, out-of-nowhere attitudes when things don't go her way. I'm really leaning towards droppin her after she crossed the line again today. What yall think?
Good to see this thread still going strong. But I've got a question for the older heads in here. When you're out & about at places like the Mall & stores what are some of the best lines & ways to approach women without sounding "thirsty"?
not really an older head but I'm in my early 20's and I use the 'i noticed you/you caught my eye/ive seen you around, i'd just like to introduce myself'......... don't sound thirsty to me and I use it and it works so try it
DaRealness
I think very deeply
where did you get the every other day thing from. The first chick and I had been sending messages back and forth for like 4 days. The every other day pertains to usually when i first start talking to a chick i dont call on consecutive days. I doubt the first girl will hit me up today...im about to call the second chick in about 15 minutes and see where it goes
it feels good to be at the point of no longer caring at all.
women nowadays are so gassed they dont want to be bothered.
at best if i were to holla at a broad in a public place like a mall, i would say nice shoes or nice purse and then from there you can carry on the conversation if shes smiling and says thanks etc.
she won't change breh, people are set in their ways and you know that.
let me ask you how old is your daughter? and how many times have you guys trieed to work things out etc.
i notice this with a few single parents i see why no offense, everyone can tell tis not going to work out, deep down they know tis not going to work out but they keep trying over and over and over again and he same issues come back.
if you drop her make it be final