Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Votti]

I sent her a text (there was no way of telling her in person) that I was interested and it seems a lil simpish in retrospect. I never even got up in the drawers . See, the situation is, me and this chick were flirting over texts and we were talking to each other, she started dressing up for me, etc etc but then I sent her a text that she gets mad about (I don't even know what I said wrong), and I purposely give her the cold shoulder, to give her some space/let her know she did something wrong in case she didn't know. Some time passes and I re-initiate contact in person, but then she tells me later "she was leading me on" and "can't date right now". So I'm like ok, then I ask her why and she doesn't reply. Then I get at her again via text telling her how I feel (I said "I really do care for you" and that I "really do like you" ) and she replies "awkward" and reiterates that she don't wanna date. Then I just said "You still didn't tell me why, but it's cool if you don't *insert crying emoticon*" and she replied back but I ignored it.

I'm no good with this texting flirting bullshyt

lol you fukked up historically. kiss any chance with this broad goodbye. but bytches aint shyt anyway playa. keep it pushing.

whatever you do next, don't let these broads know how you feel about them. you shouldnt even have feelings for em anyway. you have to see all women as disposable no matter how pretty or smart.

 

[Votti]

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[45123]

lol you fukked up historically. kiss any chance with this broad goodbye. but bytches aint shyt anyway playa. keep it pushing.

whatever you do next, don't let these broads know how you feel about them. you shouldnt even have feelings for em anyway. you have to see all women as disposable no matter how pretty or smart.

I've been getting a lot of advice and a bunch of people who've heard all the details say she might come back I kept my post in this forum abridged, but I don't know to be honest the shyt hurts my ego more than it hurts my heart. Like damn I don't think I've fukked up like this before

 

[Votti]

I've been getting a lot of advice and a bunch of people who've heard all the details say she might come back I kept my post in this forum abridged, but I don't know to be honest the shyt hurts my ego more than it hurts my heart. Like damn I don't think I've fukked up like this before

stop worrying about this broad my bruh. keep it pushing. try working out and sweat it out. you'll feel better when your testosterone levels are higher.

 

[kevm3]

On the real, spend less time strategizing and trying to 'figure' women out and more time trying to figure out how to get your life in order and to really excel. Think about the situation that occurred with Miss NYC or whoever she was, and how she was on the dating site and saying she couldn't find no 'decent men'. Then some simp-mentality brother saw that and rushed in with flowers and attempted to get a date. After she was all smiles and said yes, she never heard from him. All of a sudden Shaq steps into the picture and she rushes to him. Anyone getting the picture here? You're wasting time trying to figure out magic techniques to attract women to you when in the process of you handling your life business and getting to where you need to get, you will get them coming to you. Guys who spent their whole lives trying to impress women and wasted all their young, prime years chasing them around look back and wonder why they aren't anywhere in life.

Now the point of this isn't to say, "Attract women with your money and material possessions." It's to say to put your priorities in order, and as has been stated numerous times in this thread, never make women a number one priority. How many guys have invested countless time and energy dealing with some woman and giving her your best only for her to walk out for no reason for some guy who didn't do any of that? Invest your time and energy into something more productive and the attention of the women come with that.

 

[Votti]

On the real, spend less time strategizing and trying to 'figure' women out and more time trying to figure out how to get your life in order and to really excel. Think about the situation that occurred with Miss NYC or whoever she was, and how she was on the dating site and saying she couldn't find no 'decent men'. Then some simp-mentality brother saw that and rushed in with flowers and attempted to get a date. After she was all smiles and said yes, she never heard from him. All of a sudden Shaq steps into the picture and she rushes to him. Anyone getting the picture here? You're wasting time trying to figure out magic techniques to attract women to you when in the process of you handling your life business and getting to where you need to get, you will get them coming to you. Guys who spent their whole lives trying to impress women and wasted all their young, prime years chasing them around look back and wonder why they aren't anywhere in life.

Now the point of this isn't to say, "Attract women with your money and material possessions." It's to say to put your priorities in order, and as has been stated numerous times in this thread, never make women a number one priority. How many guys have invested countless time and energy dealing with some woman and giving her your best only for her to walk out for no reason for some guy who didn't do any of that? Invest your time and energy into something more productive and the attention of the women come with that.

exactly. Women are attracted to men who live an ACTIVE lifestyle. Pick up some hobbies; it can be anything from exercising, biking, sports, painting, hiking, drawing, playing an instrument, etc. if she finds out that too much of your focus is on her, she's gonna think that you dont have much to live for other than being dependent on her.

 

[Turbulent]

Call her once (no voicemail,she SEES your #).If you contact or communicate more then her,its a problem.

I never leave voicemessages even when I call family, I hate how my voice sounds.

ok so i called, its been 30 minutes and she hasnt called back, I actually left a voicemessage how long should i give before if she does call back i dont answer the phone. She knew I was calling tonight because i told her earlier today. Damn maybe i got burned. Also it was the generic vm thing that came up on her phone, so I didnt hear what her voice or anything sounds like

well too late for that, she doesnt know my number which is why i left it, because i never call numbers back i dont recognize unless they leave a message. Atleast this way i know she knows that i call, whereas if i just called all she knows is a number she doesnt know called her. Its been about 37 minutes, im thinking im either not going to answer the phone and hit her up tomorrow

ok, so almost 2 hrs later after i called her and left a vm, she just sent me a text saying "Hey, its pretty late. Talk tomorrow?" What should i say?

this may sound harsh but we're all brehs so we might as well keep it real with each other.

No one can tell you for sure what happened on her side and in her mind and you'll go crazy trying to figure that out. don't even think about what happened in her mind. could be anything. I'll tell you what happened on your side though. For some reason, this girl has you acting out of character, doing things you don't normally do, and doubting what you should do. Keep it real with yourself first and foremost. She was expecting your call. you called at the time you said you would. If she was interested in you, there is no way she wouldn't have known it was your number and you know this. I think you know why you left her a message deep down...

personally, i wouldn't even have answered her text. This girl doesn't respect you. she knew you were gonna call, didn't pick up when you called (which is no big deal in itself) but didn't even acknowledge that you called let alone apologize? it's like Makaveli25 said, you're not a priority to her. Some would say I'm petty but fukk it, i wouldn't even reply until she acts right (and if that moment never comes that just means we'd never talk again). By not replying, you're giving her the space needed to think about this and question whether or not she acted right and if not to correct herself. by replying something that lets her know you are going along with her dynamic of talking tomorrow, you're confirming to her that she did nothing wrong. PLUS now who's suppose to call who? and at what time? everything is fuzzy now, she may have tricked you into a waiting game. thank God you said you have another chick lined up or else you'd be in purgatory today...

We need to respect their choices a little more. Let them choose. Give clear instructions and follow through with no game playing. If she doesn't follow clear and simple instructions on how to get with you, that means she's not feeling you like that and we need to respect that. but too many times our ego doesn't want to accept she's not feeling us so we make excuses for them or give them other opportunities. we convince ourselves that its our fault, that we weren't clear but we're trying to avoid reality. And they can sense it. they sense the fear you have of them rejecting you. they see how fiercely you're trying to avoid their rejection and that's when they know they have power over you and will start playing silly games and you're fukked. When they start showing signs of being difficult (not following simple instructions and not apologizing when they should) don't try to hold on. Cause if you do, she'll think "im being a bytch to him and he's trying even harder to keep me. if i keep being a bytch to him he'll try even harder! " Just let them choose what they want in their life and keep doing you. she may come back or she may not

 

[Turbulent]

It's never wise to "tell girls how you feel" breh we've all been there and it rarely ever ends well especially if you come out with the feelings first. It's easy for us guys to fall for a good girl but in a woman's mind it comes off ingenuine and thirsty because she wants to "earn" your love. It comes down to the female psyche of her feeling like she was "better" than all the other women in your life and it's very selfish in actuality but we humans can be selfish at times. As far the "letting something go" phrase I've always found it to be B.S for example I remember when I dated a girl and she suggested we break up after a fight(which was a test I didn't then know of) It made things much worse when I nonchalantly agreed "yea maybe you're right" because I wasn't willing to "fight for her". Women are straaaaaange breh.

i agree with the first part.

the second part i disagree because it's not the same. she didnt "let go". she pushed you away. what else were you suppose to do? i think the saying is meant more like "if the one you love wants to leave, let it go, if it comes back, its yours." your ex was playing silly games she either saw in a movie, read from a magazine or got the advice from a member of their female advisory comity.

 

[Turbulent]

What this dude right her is saying is true, and sadly some men never understand this aspect of women's nature. A man's biggest mistake is in assuming men and women are exactly alike, we are two different animals. I've said it before, a man's inclination in female interaction is to prove to them he is worthy of sex. A woman's inclination is to prove to him she is worthy of love. Too many guys make the mistake of thinking that showing a woman a lot of love will lead to sex, if she already has your love then she doesn't have to give anything up. This isn't to say that you should be mean to women, TREAT WOMEN WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT LIKE YOU DO EVERYONE ELSE. But stop trying to emotionally connect with women, stop taking them so seriously, keep your heart in your chest. Until you have had sex with her you mean nothing, so until she has EARNED your love treat her like you would anybody else.

- Do not tell a woman she is beautiful unless you are having sex with her. Ego reassurance is the job of her mate, if you are earning none of the benefits of being her boyfriend why should she reap any rewards
- If you are not having sex with a women she is not special. Treat her like you would everybody else, if you wouldn't do something for a male friend of yours, then DO NOT do it for a women you are not hooking up with. Again, treat her with dignity and respect, but NO special favors for a woman who you have not consummated a relationship with, thats what we call a simp. I don't care if you have taken her on a hundred dates, until the relationship is consummated you mean nothing

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I sent her a text (there was no way of telling her in person) that I was interested and it seems a lil simpish in retrospect. I never even got up in the drawers . See, the situation is, me and this chick were flirting over texts and we were talking to each other, she started dressing up for me, etc etc but then I sent her a text that she gets mad about (I don't even know what I said wrong), and I purposely give her the cold shoulder, to give her some space/let her know she did something wrong in case she didn't know. Some time passes and I re-initiate contact in person, but then she tells me later "she was leading me on" and "can't date right now". So I'm like ok, then I ask her why and she doesn't reply. Then I get at her again via text telling her how I feel (I said "I really do care for you" and that I "really do like you" ) and she replies "awkward" and reiterates that she don't wanna date. Then I just said "You still didn't tell me why, but it's cool if you don't *insert crying emoticon*" and she replied back but I ignored it.

I'm no good with this texting flirting bullshyt

The underlined is what killed your chances with her. No offense, breh, but a crying emoticon? The fukk were you thinking?

 

[45123]

The underlined is what killed your chances with her. No offense, breh, but a crying emoticon? The fukk were you thinking?

Nah breh I was trying to play it off like it didn't affect me I used it in the same breath as or

 

[T-K-G]

Nah breh I was trying to play it off like it didn't affect me I used it in the same breath as or

you was already coming off as a pathetic ass nikka



the way I read it (and probably the way she read it) those tears were real

 

[DaRealness]

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Get married brehs.

 

[45123]

you was already coming off as a pathetic ass nikka



the way I read it (and probably the way she read it) those tears were real

I thought it was a cool way to play it off Just substitute it for a smiley like and you can imagine the effect I was going for, like "It's cool if you don't "

 

[Kartel13]

I don't invite smut's to my crib that easily, breh. especially if they are coming off type strong for me. Last I need is a crazy chick hanging around my apt complex.