Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Just watched the Cosby show, and it sparked some interesting thoughts. I'll try to put it all together while I watch the AFC championship game.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
So watching the Cosby show caused me to come to a bit of a disheartening realization. I used to love the show growing up because I thought it was a depiction of a strong, black family unit that anyone would aspire to attain. The realization is that something like this just isn't feasible in the type of society we live in today. I haven't given up all hope or anything like that but my rosey colored glasses have been long removed and discarded.
Take a look at Claire, you have a beautiful woman working for a prestigious law firm but yet her kids, and husband are always a top priority. She doesn't moan and groan about having to clean up, or cook for her family. Her husband also happily helps out when he can, and shows his appreciation for all the things she does. I know this was just a show but let's not pretend that television doesn't heavily influence generations of people whether it be positively or negatively. I've made peace with the fact that I may just end up only having women for periods of time in my life rather than a wife per se. Any of you fellas come up watching as well thinking you'd find your Claire Huxtable?
Take a look at Claire, you have a beautiful woman working for a prestigious law firm but yet her kids, and husband are always a top priority. She doesn't moan and groan about having to clean up, or cook for her family. Her husband also happily helps out when he can, and shows his appreciation for all the things she does. I know this was just a show but let's not pretend that television doesn't heavily influence generations of people whether it be positively or negatively. I've made peace with the fact that I may just end up only having women for periods of time in my life rather than a wife per se. Any of you fellas come up watching as well thinking you'd find your Claire Huxtable?
The only closure a man needs to give to woman is to let her know that the relationship is over.
The biggest mistake you could make is explaining to her why you don't want to be with her. Unless you want to stay and make it work, it makes no sense to explain it to her.
Women know why it didn't work. They just want to start that conversation so that they could express all the things that they didn't like in the relationship. No need to be exposed to that negativity if you are planning to move on with your life.
Ignoring a woman and moving on with your life is the strongest weapon you have against a bitter woman.
The biggest mistake you could make is explaining to her why you don't want to be with her. Unless you want to stay and make it work, it makes no sense to explain it to her.
Women know why it didn't work. They just want to start that conversation so that they could express all the things that they didn't like in the relationship. No need to be exposed to that negativity if you are planning to move on with your life.
Ignoring a woman and moving on with your life is the strongest weapon you have against a bitter woman.
CrossBones
Louder than words
youre right, and a lot of todays women are more keen to say that they feel bored, complain to her girlfriends about how its not the same when it started, get lazy and fat, and do anything but put more into the relationship/family in order to make it work. so many "princesses" are more into the whole line of thinking "I feel bored with my life" "I dont feel loved anymore" "times are hard" (usually more so for him) "I dont want to settle" (but then how do you find stability?) or that they need someone who will make them feel brand new to get her groove back.
the thing is, obtaining longevity and establishing strong roots cant happen unless you sacrifice a little, learn to put more effort into a relationship and family, and remain stable in your place in life. you cant go all around town ignoring YOUR responsibilities while claiming that you honor your home. chasing dreams and trading your life just for something that isnt there can be actually be a selfish thing. in some cases it can be right to leave an unhealthy relationship, but to end everything just because you hope theres some one out there who can spoil you and make you feel worshipped is a terrible thing. at its roots its based in greed and a strong lack of humility.
Lil' Kartwheel
The Chicken Box Man
I did. You got plenty dudes out here that would love to have a Florida Evans-type chick instead of a Superhead/Montana de Leon chick. Those are the ones that are always wifed up too.
Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Yeah I hear you. Those types get snatched fast. I know a few of them. As much grief that us guys get for not committing, I say you put a woman of value in front of any sane man and see if he doesn't hold her down. I'm 26, and with each year it's less likely I'm going to enter that marriage world. All these single mothers out here, and the numbers just increase each year. These could be great women, but I'll never know because I'm not willing to go down that road. Ever. My advice to the younger guys in this thread is if you have a young woman that's down for you, with no baggage and she feels you the man you are and your future potential do what you need to do.
Lil' Kartwheel
The Chicken Box Man
I feel on that advice. Had a chick like that but she came at the worst time (junior year of high school to freshman year of college). Been searching for those same qualities for the past 7 years but I'm going my own way now. Too many benefits to pass up as a single black male with no kids.
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
A lot of single mothers are super chill and cool now because they have to be. They can't afford to be snotty and rude to guys anymore because they know that they've got that baggage.
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
Damn I've been on a losing streak lately with the last 5 or six I've talked to...either they got a dude or rejected.
Keep up your efforts, do some self-evaluation, and don't let it get you down. We all experience setbacks in life and things like this are just in place to build character.
To my youngns out there, absorb this knowledge and it will take you far. As you age, you will find your options will actually INCREASE if you've made sense to keep yourself up physically and mentally, handle your financial priorities, dress well, and have your head on straight. When you near 30, you will be well built, experienced, have financial resources the younger guys won't, etc. If you haven't managed to snag a solid chick by then, don't fret since you will be at the perfect crossroads of not being too old to grab a chick who is, say, 24, while also being pursued by the 30 year old women who are rushing to find someone before their ship sinks.
A lot of the knowledge we've been kicking to you is 'defensive game', aka how to avoid getting in a situation where your life is ruined because you've tethered yourself to some unscrupulous woman, and you are paying out all of this money to support your former woman dealing with another man and towards paying off kids that aren't even yours. In a fight, having great defense is critical to avoid getting knocked out. The same thing on this dating scene. You have the knowledge to avoid being swindled. Once you have that, you can start working on your offense.
Keep yourself up and you will accumulate the knowledge, experience, resources, and attitude to be in the marketplace and find what you are looking for. You have the buying power and you simply have to realize it. Remember, keep yourself on that straight and narrow and the women will come. Never throw your life in a loop trying to chase one particular woman.
A lot of the knowledge we've been kicking to you is 'defensive game', aka how to avoid getting in a situation where your life is ruined because you've tethered yourself to some unscrupulous woman, and you are paying out all of this money to support your former woman dealing with another man and towards paying off kids that aren't even yours. In a fight, having great defense is critical to avoid getting knocked out. The same thing on this dating scene. You have the knowledge to avoid being swindled. Once you have that, you can start working on your offense.
Keep yourself up and you will accumulate the knowledge, experience, resources, and attitude to be in the marketplace and find what you are looking for. You have the buying power and you simply have to realize it. Remember, keep yourself on that straight and narrow and the women will come. Never throw your life in a loop trying to chase one particular woman.
