Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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anyone hear of this jodi arias case?
this chick was upset that her boyfriend dumped her andd didnt want to go back to her
Travis Alexander was the victim of a brutal attack. His throat was slashed, he was shot in the head, and he had at least 29 knife wounds.
The Jodi Arias Murder Trial: Everything You Need to Know About the Case - Celebuzz
this chick was upset that her boyfriend dumped her andd didnt want to go back to her
Travis Alexander was the victim of a brutal attack. His throat was slashed, he was shot in the head, and he had at least 29 knife wounds.
The Jodi Arias Murder Trial: Everything You Need to Know About the Case - Celebuzz
Reid2Achieve
Superstar
I'm dating this Egyptian Arab gal, who so far seems amazing (by far the most impressive all-around girl that I've 'dated'), but damn she has two things about her that already piss me off:
-She always hangs with her sisters and girl friends..ALL THE TIME...of course they're mostly all single, older, and bitter. I hate that I feel like I have to compete for her attention
-She gave up the ass one time, so in my eyes..."we're fukkin!"...but apparently I've given off vibes that I care too much about sex ....different cultural values??? idk
I figure both of these would get better over time, but am I wrong in feeling like they're emergency red flags? lol
Being single and not caring about these things when dealing with women are sooo much easier. I feel like I'm the one that's high maintenance when I try to have a relationship.
Any tips would be appreciated...
-She always hangs with her sisters and girl friends..ALL THE TIME...of course they're mostly all single, older, and bitter. I hate that I feel like I have to compete for her attention
-She gave up the ass one time, so in my eyes..."we're fukkin!"...but apparently I've given off vibes that I care too much about sex
....different cultural values??? idkI figure both of these would get better over time, but am I wrong in feeling like they're emergency red flags? lol
Being single and not caring about these things when dealing with women are sooo much easier. I feel like I'm the one that's high maintenance when I try to have a relationship.
Any tips would be appreciated...
CrossBones
Louder than words
I know we talk about how a good number of the music today is corrupt, but I was just listening to this classic and the intro caught me off guard.
Atlantic Starr - Secret Lovers - YouTube
She talking about late night creeping
youre right, and if you listen to a lot of older love songs, they usually have a make up song in there too. its usually along the lines of "I miss you, I dont care that you left me and ran off with him ... I'll do anything to get you back ... I cant live without your lovin girl etc etc"
I understand that they were catering to a certain crowd with it, but it says what a lot of us know already. too much simpin and too much fukkery from some females, and its been happening. the women are much bolder these days, however.
I'll tell you like mack 10 told me
"Before big ballin, sex, cars and loot
its like bytches been scandalous, biting forbidden fruit"
i don't know you or your girl but if i had to guess, the whole thing about her being amazing and the best girl you've ever dated...she got you under her spell.I'm dating this Egyptian Arab gal, who so far seems amazing (by far the most impressive all-around girl that I've 'dated'), but damn she has two things about her that already piss me off:
-She always hangs with her sisters and girl friends..ALL THE TIME...of course they're mostly all single, older, and bitter. I hate that I feel like I have to compete for her attention
-She gave up the ass one time, so in my eyes..."we're fukkin!"...but apparently I've given off vibes that I care too much about sex
I figure both of these would get better over time, but am I wrong in feeling like they're emergency red flags? lol
Being single and not caring about these things when dealing with women are sooo much easier. I feel like I'm the one that's high maintenance when I try to have a relationship.
Any tips would be appreciated...
she gave up the ass once and it seems like you became needy. she sensed weakness so she's using p*ssy to make you fall under her spell. had you played it a little cooler she'd be the one clingy on you because she'd want you to wife her. are you already in a committed relationship with her?
if a chick gave you the ass once and is now STILL playing games with the puss, you already know where you need to throw her ass no matter how "amazing" she is
. You better go out and meet 2 other amazing girls and replace her overrated ass. add to that, she'd rather spend time with her girls than you? don't take offense to this my breh but as the late great Patrice would say, she sees you as her time-hoe. think about this. If she's not giving up the ass anymore, and if you're competing for her attention with her fellow girls, what exactly is she doing for you? what role do you think you have in her life (in her eyes)?
Reid2Achieve
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Thanks, I needed to hear this. I think I already know I fukked up by getting excited and shyt. We have been talking/dating on and off for months mostly due to me not willing to go through the whole process and her going to school in another city (graduating this spring though). We been through something similar months back before I even got to second base. I just stopped talking to her and taking it serious..doing my own thing, until she got back home for the holidays and started engaging me again... and then after we finally fukked (NYE) and everything looked rosy I decided to try and commit to her. She is a dime, has all the personality traits, values, all the building blocks, I would bet money she hasn't been with even 5 guys up to this point, etc.i don't know you or your girl but if i had to guess, the whole thing about her being amazing and the best girl you've ever dated...she got you under her spell.
she gave up the ass once and it seems like you became needy. she sensed weakness so she's using p*ssy to make you fall under her spell. had you played it a little cooler she'd be the one clingy on you because she'd want you to wife her. are you already in a committed relationship with her?
if a chick gave you the ass once and is now STILL playing games with the puss, you already know where you need to throw her ass no matter how "amazing" she is
add to that, she'd rather spend time with her girls than you? don't take offense to this my breh but as the late great Patrice would say, she sees you as her time-hoe. think about this. If she's not giving up the ass anymore, and if you're competing for her attention with her fellow girls, what exactly is she doing for you? what role do you think you have in her life (in her eyes)?
I have little problem meeting women and all that, but I think i have a recent history of fukking up like this, since I pretty much know my type and apparently go overboard trying to prove/explain myself to the point that I'm giving up too much control.
Basically turn in to a... simp...under this "spell" you speak of
I'll probably just play it casual from here on out and if it works out, great, if not...live and learn. This game is stressful though, and I would like to salvage this situation
Thanks, I needed to hear this. I think I already know I fukked up by getting excited and shyt. We have been talking/dating on and off for months mostly due to me not willing to go through the whole process and her going to school in another city (graduating this spring though). We been through something similar months back before I even got to second base. I just stopped talking to her and taking it serious..doing my own thing, until she got back home for the holidays and started engaging me again... and then after we finally fukked (NYE) and everything looked rosy I decided to try and commit to her. She is a dime, has all the personality traits, values, all the building blocks, I would bet money she hasn't been with even 5 guys up to this point etc.
I have little problem meeting women and all that, but I think i have a recent history of fukking up like this, since I pretty much know my type and apparently go overboard trying to prove/explain myself to the point that I'm giving up too much control.
Basically turn in to a... simp...under this "spell" you speak of
I'll probably just play it casual from here on out and if it works out, great, if not...live and learn. This game is stressful though, and I would like to salvage this situation
She must have the g.o.a.t. p*ssy to have you like this
I want to keep it 100 with you. The odds aren't looking to good for you as far as salvaging the situation. once you've type-casted yourself in a certain role, it's hard to all of a sudden switch it up on her and for her to actually take you serious...Thanks, I needed to hear this. I think I already know I fukked up by getting excited and shyt. We have been talking/dating on and off for months mostly due to me not willing to go through the whole process and her going to school in another city (graduating this spring though). We been through something similar months back before I even got to second base. I just stopped talking to her and taking it serious..doing my own thing, until she got back home for the holidays and started engaging me again... and then after we finally fukked (NYE) and everything looked rosy I decided to try and commit to her. She is a dime, has all the personality traits, values, all the building blocks, I would bet money she hasn't been with even 5 guys up to this point, etc.
I have little problem meeting women and all that, but I think i have a recent history of fukking up like this, since I pretty much know my type and apparently go overboard trying to prove/explain myself to the point that I'm giving up too much control.
Basically turn in to a... simp...under this "spell" you speak of
I'll probably just play it casual from here on out and if it works out, great, if not...live and learn. This game is stressful though, and I would like to salvage this situation
what exactly happens when you try to initiate sex? what's the exact status of the relationship right now as far as titles are concerned?
the first thing you need to do is get your mind right. stop thinking she's so great and so amazing and blablabla. this is actually fukking up your state of mind because then you start thinking "no one wins the lotto twice, i'm never gonna be lucky enough to get another chick as amazing, i better do everything i can to appease her and hope she still wants me" and she can smell it on you like cheap cologne...start getting at other chicks, socializing with other chicks, desiring and spending time with other chicks. startt spending time with yourself, occupy yourself with stuff that's important to you. stop thinking about her.
also, NEVER be ashamed of your manhood or your desires. if a chick tells you she feels like you care too much about sex, if you do care about sex never act like you don't care or deny your desires (especially if she already gave up the ass). The chick isn't dumb. She can feel you're horny as fukk. by lying to her, you just proved to her you'd do anything (including lying to her if under pressure) in order to have sex.
You should have told her something like "Listen babe, i won't lie to you. I do care about sex and it's something i enjoy, i'm not ashamed of it. When i'm alone with you I do get this desire for you and at this point i don't feel like i should have to pretend with you. Now i hope my honesty doesn't make you uncomfortable, but if it does, i'll understand if you want us to take a little distance/break from eachother..."
same idea but in your own words and way of talking. also at this point, you have to be ready for her to completely dissapear out of your life. Most likely she'll try to shame you once more for valuing sex with her more than her friendship/her or whatever. DO NOT back down stand your ground. Tell her that it's not that you don't care how she feels but at the same time that's just what's in your gut and you felt like she deserved sincerity out of respect. now the ball is in her court, she has the options of either accepting how you feel and appeasing you OR take her distance from you. again be ready for the latter. To pull this off you really have to believe it and it has to be sincere. and it also has to be at the right time, not out of nowhere. Plus it could still sound goofy if you're already that deep in simpville in her eyes. that's why i said the odds are kind of against you. not impossible though...
thing is, some girls are not used to a guy boldly challenging their opinion on sex and openly risking not getting p*ssy from them ever again even if you're obviously attracted. It's hard to compute for some of them (except if she feels like it's a bluff on your part, that's why it can't be a bluff). It's almost like she was holding her p*ssy for hostage and instead of letting her leave with the money and arranging a plane for her, you tell her "i don't want you to shoot it but if you must, go ahead..." her robbery plan didn't include that part, now she has to improvise in a panic. all of a sudden now the robber tells you "wait hold up, we don't have to act drastic, let's talk..." and now you've flipped the script on her and can establish your terms
EDIT: if you leave things as they are, it's robbery in broad daylight...
perhaps i'm saying this as a man that has been irreparably damaged by women to the point that i am no longer capable of romantic love anymore but the whole concept of romantic love is worthless.
romantic love is nothing more than an egotistical desire to posses another human being. that's my girl and she only sleeps with me because she's mine. if i tell her i love her then i'm entitled to hear her say it in return.
when you break love down to its core its nothing more than being seduced by your own ego into irrational and stupid behavior while chasing an emotional high that you project onto another being then credit them for causing the feeling when really its just something you created yourself.
i'm not even gonna say romantic love is a chemical reaction, its a delusional state. some of the dumbest things i've ever done in life were done because i surrendered my rational mind to love and did things i rationally knew better than to do.
you can be around people and enjoy their company and never desire to possess them. you don't really need romantic love.
Although I do not believe in cherishing any woman outside of certain respectable women in my family, it seems like you cannot even treat a woman with an ounce of respect and decency because the woman will attempt to come at you as if you are a simp, which is fukked up and unfortunate. And these women have the nerve to wonder why men treat them poorly. What they fail to acknowledge is that men in general do not necessarily want to treat them badly and with disrespect. It is just that many men feel, based on experience, that doing so seems to be the only way to get respect from the women they are dealing with.
Reid2Achieve
Superstar
http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/showthread.php?tid=7430
These are some interesting and truthful quotes by Malcolm X that I found on the link above:
"As a young minister I wouldn’t have considered it possible for me to love any woman. I had too much experience that women were only tricky, deceitful, untrustworthy flesh. I had seen too many men ruined or tied down, or in some other way messed up by women. Women talk too much, and to tell a woman not to talk too much, would be like telling Jesse James not to carry a gun, or telling a hen not to cackle. Can you imagine Jesse James without a gun, or a hen that didn’t cackle, and for anyone in leadership or position as I am. The worst thing in the world that a man could have, is the wrong woman. Samson was destroyed by the woman that slept in his arms. It had been 10 years since I thought anything about a woman or a mistress, and as a minister now I was thinking even less about getting a wife------"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"In my years as a Muslim minister, I had always taught so strongly on moral issues. That many Muslim sisters accused me of being anti-woman. I had not even touched a woman for 12 years------"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"I love Sister Betty, she’s the only woman that I ever thought about loving. She’s one of the very few women that I have ever trusted. She’s a good Muslim woman and wife. With me trying to wake up this brainwashed black man, and telling this arrogant white man the truth. Betty knows this is a full time job. I am only home 2 or 3 days a week, but if I have to do work while I’m home she allows me to have that quiet time that I need to work in---"
MALCOLM X ( from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"While in Beirut I went walking, and I could clearly see the European influence upon their women. It showed me how any country’s moral strength, or it’s moral weakness is quickly measurable by the street attire and attitude of it’s women, especially it’s young women-----"
MALCOLM X
"Look at the women in America , young and old. Hardly any moral values are left in them. You can measure this by their dress and attire. Their spiritual values are almost destroyed, because of their emphasis on material things---"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"Our young girls, our daughters, and our baby sisters are becoming unwed mothers before they are hardly out of their teens. Our community has 1000’s of unwed mothers, that has no hope of ever getting a husband. Our community has 10’s of 1000’s of little black babies who have no father to act as their provider---"
MALCOLM X (speaking at the University of California , 1963)
These are some interesting and truthful quotes by Malcolm X that I found on the link above:
"As a young minister I wouldn’t have considered it possible for me to love any woman. I had too much experience that women were only tricky, deceitful, untrustworthy flesh. I had seen too many men ruined or tied down, or in some other way messed up by women. Women talk too much, and to tell a woman not to talk too much, would be like telling Jesse James not to carry a gun, or telling a hen not to cackle. Can you imagine Jesse James without a gun, or a hen that didn’t cackle, and for anyone in leadership or position as I am. The worst thing in the world that a man could have, is the wrong woman. Samson was destroyed by the woman that slept in his arms. It had been 10 years since I thought anything about a woman or a mistress, and as a minister now I was thinking even less about getting a wife------"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"In my years as a Muslim minister, I had always taught so strongly on moral issues. That many Muslim sisters accused me of being anti-woman. I had not even touched a woman for 12 years------"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"I love Sister Betty, she’s the only woman that I ever thought about loving. She’s one of the very few women that I have ever trusted. She’s a good Muslim woman and wife. With me trying to wake up this brainwashed black man, and telling this arrogant white man the truth. Betty knows this is a full time job. I am only home 2 or 3 days a week, but if I have to do work while I’m home she allows me to have that quiet time that I need to work in---"
MALCOLM X ( from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"While in Beirut I went walking, and I could clearly see the European influence upon their women. It showed me how any country’s moral strength, or it’s moral weakness is quickly measurable by the street attire and attitude of it’s women, especially it’s young women-----"
MALCOLM X
"Look at the women in America , young and old. Hardly any moral values are left in them. You can measure this by their dress and attire. Their spiritual values are almost destroyed, because of their emphasis on material things---"
MALCOLM X (from the Autobiography of Malcolm X)
"Our young girls, our daughters, and our baby sisters are becoming unwed mothers before they are hardly out of their teens. Our community has 1000’s of unwed mothers, that has no hope of ever getting a husband. Our community has 10’s of 1000’s of little black babies who have no father to act as their provider---"
MALCOLM X (speaking at the University of California , 1963)
you gotta understand though women have vaginas. if you lived as a women you'd live in a world where men bent to your will because you poses a vagina. in and of itself a vagina isn't worth much. the power is actually in the possession of the man not the vagina. the man gives her the power for the vagina. because he perceives it to have a high value.
men give their power away so often and in such great numbers women now live in a world where having a vagina means they think they are powerful. its nothing for a woman to get a man to simp because to them simpin is the trick you get a dog to do while you wave a biscuit in its face. when you have that level of power no matter how you obtain it the power will corrupt you and warp your thinking. so in closing women treat men that way because its the way men have conditioned them to think about them.