Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Reid2Achieve]

I want to keep it 100 with you. The odds aren't looking to good for you as far as salvaging the situation. once you've type-casted yourself in a certain role, it's hard to all of a sudden switch it up on her and for her to actually take you serious...

what exactly happens when you try to initiate sex? what's the exact status of the relationship right now as far as titles are concerned?

the first thing you need to do is get your mind right. stop thinking she's so great and so amazing and blablabla. this is actually fukking up your state of mind because then you start thinking "no one wins the lotto twice, i'm never gonna be lucky enough to get another chick as amazing, i better do everything i can to appease her and hope she still wants me" and she can smell it on you like cheap cologne...start getting at other chicks, socializing with other chicks, desiring and spending time with other chicks. startt spending time with yourself, occupy yourself with stuff that's important to you. stop thinking about her.

also, NEVER be ashamed of your manhood or your desires. if a chick tells you she feels like you care too much about sex, if you do care about sex never act like you don't care or deny your desires (especially if she already gave up the ass). The chick isn't dumb. She can feel you're horny as fukk. by lying to her, you just proved to her you'd do anything (including lying to her if under pressure) in order to have sex.

You should have told her something like "Listen babe, i won't lie to you. I do care about sex and it's something i enjoy, i'm not ashamed of it. When i'm alone with you I do get this desire for you and at this point i don't feel like i should have to pretend with you. Now i hope my honesty doesn't make you uncomfortable, but if it does, i'll understand if you want us to take a little distance/break from eachother..."

same idea but in your own words and way of talking. also at this point, you have to be ready for her to completely dissapear out of your life. Most likely she'll try to shame you once more for valuing sex with her more than her friendship/her or whatever. DO NOT back down stand your ground. Tell her that it's not that you don't care how she feels but at the same time that's just what's in your gut and you felt like she deserved sincerity out of respect. now the ball is in her court, she has the options of either accepting how you feel and appeasing you OR take her distance from you. again be ready for the latter. To pull this off you really have to believe it and it has to be sincere. and it also has to be at the right time, not out of nowhere. Plus it could still sound goofy if you're already that deep in simpville in her eyes. that's why i said the odds are kind of against you. not impossible though...

thing is, some girls are not used to a guy boldly challenging their opinion on sex and openly risking not getting p*ssy from them ever again even if you're obviously attracted. It's hard to compute for some of them (except if she feels like it's a bluff on your part, that's why it can't be a bluff). It's almost like she was holding her p*ssy for hostage and instead of letting her leave with the money and arranging a plane for her, you tell her "i don't want you to shoot it but if you must, go ahead..." her robbery plan didn't include that part, now she has to improvise in a panic. all of a sudden now the robber tells you "wait hold up, we don't have to act drastic, let's talk..." and now you've flipped the script on her and can establish your terms

EDIT: if you leave things as they are, it's robbery in broad daylight...

This has only happened one time, but it's just made everything all awkward and frustrating the last couple of days. That night I told her I wanted her, I was horny, yadda yadda before she even came over and she played along with it. We chilled for hours, it got late and I went for it. Once it started really getting hot she denied and I expressed my disappointment.. that's when she started saying she was disappointed I would act this way. I didn't apologize, i frankly said sex is important to me, I'm not having a relationship without sex and a lot of the same things you said in your post.. and we talked about it. Basically she didn't want to do it because she wants to take it slow and really get to know me before things get too deep yadda yadda because she's been hurt before. I understand her viewpoint, but I still stood by mine. I havent backed down from that....

her problem is she is a busy body who doesn't know how to treat a man, because of such few relationships, and by being "the princess" her whole life. I give her credit for being motivated on her career, and focusing on her and her future, but something's gotta give...and we're both really stubborn

and I think you've painted some kind of picture of me breh lol...I'm not hopeless or depressed, nor do I think I will never find better, and I have women I can hit up to fukk every day of the week if i wanted to...I'm not an every day simp, I'm just slippin

as I've said earlier, I've walked away before...twice already lol (and if you thought this was extreme simpville... the first time we dated... )...and she keeps coming back at me. The girl obviously likes me, I think she just is clueless with modern relationships...but it looks like the cycle will start again

 

[Jason B]

you gotta understand though women have vaginas. if you lived as a women you'd live in a world where men bent to your will because you poses a vagina. in and of itself a vagina isn't worth much. the power is actually in the possession of the man not the vagina. the man gives her the power for the vagina. because he perceives it to have a high value.

men give their power away so often and in such great numbers women now live in a world where having a vagina means they think they are powerful. its nothing for a woman to get a man to simp because to them simpin is the trick you get a dog to do while you wave a biscuit in its face. when you have that level of power no matter how you obtain it the power will corrupt you and warp your thinking. so in closing women treat men that way because its the way men have conditioned them to think about them.

Alot of truth in this post. It is just that I am baffled at how a man who does not give his power away(not simping,putting on p*ssy on a pedestal) BUT does not treat a female (in the event she has been respectful out the gate) poorly at the same time is still viewed as simpish/weak/soft by the said female. This shyt is assbackwards.

 

[DaRealness]

When Good Men Go Bad

 

[Turbulent]

This has only happened one time, but it's just made everything all awkward and frustrating the last couple of days. That night I told her I wanted her, I was horny, yadda yadda before she even came over and she played along with it. We chilled for hours, it got late and I went for it. Once it started really getting hot she denied and I expressed my disappointment.. that's when she started saying she was disappointed I would act this way. I didn't apologize, i frankly said sex is important to me, I'm not having a relationship without sex and a lot of the same things you said in your post.. and we talked about it. Basically she didn't want to do it because she wants to take it slow and really get to know me before things get too deep yadda yadda because she's been hurt before. I understand her viewpoint, but I still stood by mine. I havent backed down from that....

her problem is she is a busy body who doesn't know how to treat a man, because of such few relationships, and by being "the princess" her whole life. I give her credit for being motivated on her career, and focusing on her and her future, but something's gotta give...and we're both really stubborn

and I think you've painted some kind of picture of me breh lol...I'm not hopeless or depressed, nor do I think I will never find better, and I have women I can hit up to fukk every day of the week if i wanted to...I'm not an every day simp, I'm just slippin

as I've said earlier, I've walked away before...twice already lol (and if you thought this was extreme simpville... the first time we dated... )...and she keeps coming back at me. The girl obviously likes me, I think she just is clueless with modern relationships...but it looks like the cycle will start again

my bad then. seems like you handled it good then. i can tell now that i,m not telling you anything new or that you didn't know.

but that girl is playing you and your making excuses for her in this post. "she's busy, she's not used to relationships" etc. Seems to me you're somewhat giving her the benefit of the doubt. Peep this though, you fukked her once, then not long after you tell her you're horny, she goes along with it, comes to your place, uses up your time and companionship knowing damn well why you invited her over (and it's not like you weren't honest with her) then when you made your move she denies you and flips it on you trying to guilt trip you? and you're still kinda defending her... all that stuff about "she doesn't know how to treat a man because she doesn't have experience..." trust me, she knows what she's doing, she's not that innocent. matter of fact, that's probably some game she got from her older female friends.

I definitely had the wrong idea about you though. i can tell you know how to handle this cause you know something's gotta give and you stood up to her.
but again, she's not as clueless as she wants to appear, trust me on that.

 

[Liquid]

you gotta understand though women have vaginas. if you lived as a women you'd live in a world where men bent to your will because you poses a vagina. in and of itself a vagina isn't worth much. the power is actually in the possession of the man not the vagina. the man gives her the power for the vagina. because he perceives it to have a high value.

men give their power away so often and in such great numbers women now live in a world where having a vagina means they think they are powerful. its nothing for a woman to get a man to simp because to them simpin is the trick you get a dog to do while you wave a biscuit in its face. when you have that level of power no matter how you obtain it the power will corrupt you and warp your thinking. so in closing women treat men that way because its the way men have conditioned them to think about them.

there is a whole lot of truth to this. I might have mentioned it here before, but I have had a couple of women tell me straight out that they have the puss so they make the rules.

I was like you won't get far with me.

As I said before you need to call them out on it IMMEDIATELY. Never give them that idea that they make the rules just because they are a female or else they will run all over you. This is not even a female thing...its how we are as humans. We continue to push as far as we possibly can in any given situation.

 

[winb83]

there is a whole lot of truth to this. I might have mentioned it here before, but I have had a couple of women tell me straight out that they have the puss so they make the rules.

I was like you won't get far with me.

As I said before you need to call them out on it IMMEDIATELY. Never give them that idea that they make the rules just because they are a female or else they will run all over you. This is not even a female thing...its how we are as humans. We continue to push as far as we possibly can in any given situation.

to quote Captain Planet "The power is yours" that's how it really is for men.

i went through my whole life almost thinking that women had power. in a way they do but its not really their power its the power that men give them. its like the proposition most men in the world are making is "here's my personal power, you can have this if you'll give me some vagina in return."

the thing that really blows my mind is women don't really even want a man's personal power. they'll give him the vagina for free. still men everywhere are going "no no no, you take my power and in return i want vagina from you." woman goes "You sure about this?"
man goes "yeah take it."

after a certain number of times this happens the woman realizes that these guys will do anything for this vagina she has. so she's trading it for everything she wants. then after that happens so often she realizes she doesn't even have to give up the vagina just let the guy think he has a shot at it and men will hand over their power.

the final realization is she doesn't even have to imply this deal men assume it on their own with no formal offer made. that's the point where women start walking up to men on some "give me your power" shyt.

 

[Turbulent]

to quote Captain Planet "The power is yours" that's how it really is for men.

i went through my whole life almost thinking that women had power. in a way they do but its not really their power its the power that men give them. its like the proposition most men in the world are making is "here's my personal power, you can have this if you'll give me some vagina in return."

the thing that really blows my mind is women don't really even want a man's personal power. they'll give him the vagina for free. still men everywhere are going "no no no, you take my power and in return i want vagina from you." woman goes "You sure about this?"
man goes "yeah take it."

after a certain number of times this happens the woman realizes that these guys will do anything for this vagina she has. so she's trading it for everything she wants. then after that happens so often she realizes she doesn't even have to give up the vagina just let the guy think he has a shot at it and men will hand over their power.

the final realization is she doesn't even have to imply this deal men assume it on their own with no formal offer made. that's the point where women start walking up to men on some "give me your power" shyt.

and this is why you see arrogance and cockyness from women in threads titled http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...-get-laid-anytime-they-want.html#.UOkAWKw2eBk

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Yeah that thread is pretty crazy. However, based on the thread topic their arrogance is justified. Dudes are in fact, thirsty. Another reason why this thread is so valuable.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah that thread is pretty crazy. However, based on the thread topic their arrogance is justified. Dudes are in fact, thirsty. Another reason why this thread is so valuable.

the facts are undeniable but their arrogance is pathetic. they're bragging about their p*ssy power and are arrogant about being able to get undesirable men to them. That's the equivalent of me being arrogant because i could easily get a precious lookalike. their p*ssy is a chump magnet. and they're cocky, buying into their own p*ssy hype. that's why it hurts them even more when they get smutted. humility would have kept them in check and wouldn't have allowed them to get into the situation. I try to kick game to help them but they'd rather ride their own clits and clown on simps like they can't get got. so i say fukk em.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

the facts are undeniable but their arrogance is pathetic. they're bragging about their p*ssy power and are arrogant about being able to get undesirable men to them. That's the equivalent of me being arrogant because i could easily get a precious lookalike. their p*ssy is a chump magnet. and they're cocky, buying into their own p*ssy hype. that's why it hurts them even more when they get smutted. humility would have kept them in check and wouldn't have allowed them to get into the situation. I try to kick game to help them but they'd rather ride their own clits and clown on simps like they can't get got. so i say fukk em.

You make very valid points. I see quite a few of you guys in other threads trying to give people a different perspective. I commend that. Unfortunately, some people have no desire to hear a viewpoint that isn't in line with their own. That Brazil thread was very disconcerting but it is what it is.

 

[winb83]

and this is why you see arrogance and cockyness from women in threads titled http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...-get-laid-anytime-they-want.html#.UOkAWKw2eBk

with a bit of know how and a computer and lastly internet access you can download just about any album out now that you want whenever you want. despite this fact you can't create an album you want to listen to out of thin air and download it then enjoy it. you still depend on the musicians to create the quality music you wanna hear.

i guess its like that for woman. they can more than likely spark off the act of sex whenever they want with random guys but is that sex they'd actually want?

if you can download the Barney and Friends soundtrack does that mean you will or even want it? easy access doesn't mean desirably by default.

 

[Lil' Kartwheel]

perhaps i'm saying this as a man that has been irreparably damaged by women to the point that i am no longer capable of romantic love anymore but the whole concept of romantic love is worthless.

romantic love is nothing more than an egotistical desire to posses another human being. that's my girl and she only sleeps with me because she's mine. if i tell her i love her then i'm entitled to hear her say it in return.

when you break love down to its core its nothing more than being seduced by your own ego into irrational and stupid behavior while chasing an emotional high that you project onto another being then credit them for causing the feeling when really its just something you created yourself.

i'm not even gonna say romantic love is a chemical reaction, its a delusional state. some of the dumbest things i've ever done in life were done because i surrendered my rational mind to love and did things i rationally knew better than to do.

you can be around people and enjoy their company and never desire to possess them. you don't really need romantic love.

I literally just printed and pasted that whole post. Too much truth right there, breh.

 

[CASHAPP]

I'm dating this Egyptian Arab gal, who so far seems amazing (by far the most impressive all-around girl that I've 'dated'), but damn she has two things about her that already piss me off:

-She always hangs with her sisters and girl friends..ALL THE TIME...of course they're mostly all single, older, and bitter. I hate that I feel like I have to compete for her attention


-She gave up the ass one time, so in my eyes..."we're fukkin!"...but apparently I've given off vibes that I care too much about sex ....different cultural values??? idk


I figure both of these would get better over time, but am I wrong in feeling like they're emergency red flags? lol


Being single and not caring about these things when dealing with women are sooo much easier. I feel like I'm the one that's high maintenance when I try to have a relationship.

Any tips would be appreciated...

Do EXACTLY what @Turbulent said to do and then come back to us after a while and tell her reactions and how she starts acting. As predictably expected, there is a 90 something percent chance she will put on the fake bullshyt act when she sees she does not have the power and try and get you back.

When she tries the nonsense, be STRONG and hold your ground and do not listen to the "sorry" and all the other nonsense or if she decides to be sexy all of a sudden.

 

[sixsixtwo]

and this is why you see arrogance and cockyness from women in threads titled http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...-get-laid-anytime-they-want.html#.UOkAWKw2eBk

That thread was too much of an easy lay-up for their over-arching egos, it should've been titled "Can girls get laid by WHOM they want at anytime?" or "Can girls get commitment by WHOM they want at anytime?"

MAYBE the thread(s) would've had some substance but I still highly doubt it..

 

[kevm3]

that whole trend of posting the animated gif of a woman laughing or something after every post is really starting to irk me.