Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Fellas, how would you feel about women who has an abortion in her past?

depends why she had it, how old she was how she sees it now...

 

[CrossBones]

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there have been studies out there showing that women produce oxycotin in their brain during birth, which is a called the "bonding horomone" and leads them to be even more attached to the baby at birth. and this is aside from the psychological, societal, and other regular habits that the woman has already undergone growing the baby inside of her. even more, theres studies which have shown that women also release oxycotin during sex. and while men at times do as well, it had been said to produce a different reaction to men. its not so much about bonding. and we wonder why they get so clingly and needy sometimes

all this hollering about giving women the same rights as men didnt mean for them to become men. that doesnt work. these same smuts arent happy bachlorettes, we see more often than not theyre single parents, alone, and looking for love on dating websites and continuing to try and prove themselves to be men. theyre just not hardwired the same. its why things need a certain order for them to work.

Im not saying its easy to maintain a relationship, but it will never work as long as a woman thinks she can take a mans place.

 

[Turbulent]

i got a question. No chick is perfect and they all have their flaws. say you catch your girl looking through your phone fishing for some dirt. If you tell her not to do it again, she'll probably still do it and just not get caught. how do you deal with a situation like that? is the only solution to let her go? i'm talking about situations in general where girl made a mistake but where there's no sure way to make sure you'll catch her if she does it again...

 

[CrossBones]

i got a question. No chick is perfect and they all have their flaws. say you catch your girl looking through your phone fishing for some dirt. If you tell her not to do it again, she'll probably still do it and just not get caught. how do you deal with a situation like that? is the only solution to let her go? i'm talking about situations in general where girl made a mistake but where there's no sure way to make sure you'll catch her if she does it again...

that trust is a heavy weight. when she violates something like that, I couldnt trust her NOT to do it again. and how could you? what deterrent is in place to stop her from doing it again?

you could see from that shes a jealous person. its funny, she violated your space and we're wondering if you can trust her, but really she doesnt even trust you!

honestly, I would think that if you even wanted to entertain that, there needs to be a punishment for the bad behavior, something that tells her about it and stings her for the bad she did. there have to be penalties put down if someone is not to mess with you and your personal space.

so you need to decide whats appropriate or not. and think about whats best for you at this point.

also, is it possible for her to EARN your trust back? is there even a way to do that? but thats not even on you. for real, thats on her. good luck but chances are that she does not even think about the shyt in that way. these are things that you needs to address and be real about.

 

[CrossBones]

Fellas, how would you feel about women who has an abortion in her past?

I look at it like she made a mistake. and not only in one way of looking at it, but all around its a hell of a set of life decisions shes been making to get to that point, wouldnt you say?

just something to keep in mind about her.

for me, and in general terms, I look at it like its good, but its bad. you have to decide and see in her what was more good and what was more bad about her circumstances and choice.

 

[International Playa]

depends why she had it, how old she was how she sees it now...

I look at it like she made a mistake. and not only in one way of looking at it, but all around its a hell of a set of life decisions shes been making to get to that point, wouldnt you say?

just something to keep in mind about her.

for me, and in general terms, I look at it like its good, but its bad. you have to decide and see in her what was more good and what was more bad about her circumstances and choice.

I feel what you saying brehs, what if the girl gets really emotional & guilty on the anniversary of the abortion each year.

PS: An abortion with another niigga

 

[CrossBones]

I feel what you saying brehs, what if the girl gets really emotional & guilty on the anniversary of the abortion each year.

PS: An abortion with another niigga

right. the situation means a lot, in most cases. like did she do it without telling him? she do it because he didnt want it, she didnt want it, they both didnt? what led to it, yanahmean?

 

[Turbulent]

that trust is a heavy weight. when she violates something like that, I couldnt trust her NOT to do it again. and how could you? what deterrent is in place to stop her from doing it again?

you could see from that shes a jealous person. its funny, she violated your space and we're wondering if you can trust her, but really she doesnt even trust you!

honestly, I would think that if you even wanted to entertain that, there needs to be a punishment for the bad behavior, something that tells her about it and stings her for the bad she did. there have to be penalties put down if someone is not to mess with you and your personal space.

so you need to decide whats appropriate or not. and think about whats best for you at this point.

also, is it possible for her to EARN your trust back? is there even a way to do that? but thats not even on you. for real, thats on her. good luck but chances are that she does not even think about the shyt in that way. these are things that you needs to address and be real about.

thanks man but i'm not really in the situation right now. it was more like a theoretical question. It was inspired by the thread about letting your woman speak with her exes and Kev dropped a nice gem in there about how you can't really control what she does and how if you check her once on it, she'll just do it in secret. So it made me think about similar but less offensive situations where you catch your girl doing something bad (even if it's small) and where checking her wouldn't really prevent her from doing it again.

but you're right, trust is a big thing whether it's about cheating or smaller issues like little lies or checking your cellphone behind your back. maybe the best is to break up in any transgression. Feels a little extreme but i don't see any other solutions...

 

[CrossBones]

thanks man but i'm not really in the situation right now. it was more like a theoretical question. It was inspired by the thread about letting your woman speak with her exes and Kev dropped a nice gem in there about how you can't really control what she does and how if you check her once on it, she'll just do it in secret. So it made me think about similar but less offensive situations where you catch your girl doing something bad (even if it's small) and where checking her wouldn't really prevent her from doing it again.

but you're right, trust is a big thing whether it's about cheating or smaller issues like little lies or checking your cellphone behind your back. maybe the best is to break up in any transgression. Feels a little extreme but i don't see any other solutions...

yeah I missed that thread. I was about to check it out as a matter of fact.

but thats true that a lot of people, are people of habit. hell, pretty much everyone is. so if they do it once, why would they stop? whats stopping them? boundries have to be put in place and enforced to make sure youre respected.

if some girl Im just getting to know is on that bullshyt, trust is out the window and shes out. if its a long term relationship and something, and I dont know, a little indescretion comes along, Ill put it on her then. that was on her. so now she needs to prove that she knows she did wrong, and then earn the trust back. if she cant do that, or even figure out how, then shes gone. I dont even know how honestly. but after a little bit of time I think it will all make sense. cuz shyt, it aint even on me at that point. Ill let her actions tell the story and then shes on her way.

 

[Turbulent]

yeah I missed that thread. I was about to check it out as a matter of fact.

but thats true that a lot of people, are people of habit. hell, pretty much everyone is. so if they do it once, why would they stop? whats stopping them? boundries have to be put in place and enforced to make sure youre respected.

if some girl Im just getting to know is on that bullshyt, trust is out the window and shes out. if its a long term relationship and something, and I dont know, a little indescretion comes along, Ill put it on her then. that was on her. so now she needs to prove that she knows she did wrong, and then earn the trust back. if she cant do that, or even figure out how, then shes gone. I dont even know how honestly. but after a little bit of time I think it will all make sense. cuz shyt, it aint even on me at that point. Ill let her actions tell the story and then shes on her way.

i agree with what your saying but knowing myself, if a chick did something like this and then knew she did something wrong, i'd probably want to trust her again if i see genuine effort to earn back trust, but i'd constantly question myself about if i want her back because she has earned it back or have i convinced myself that she has earned it back just because i'm attached to her. in other words, the fear of simping would prevent me from trusting her again even if she's trying hard. And for all i know, her trying hard is all game...

and i might be wrong but i feel like any chick will probably break your trust on something (even if it's very small) one day. and if trusting her is impossible, are longterm relationships doomed?

 

[CrossBones]

i agree with what your saying but knowing myself, if a chick did something like this and then knew she did something wrong, i'd probably want to trust her again if i see genuine effort to earn back trust, but i'd constantly question myself about if i want her back because she has earned it back or have i convinced myself that she has earned it back just because i'm attached to her. in other words, the fear of simping would prevent me from trusting her again even if she's trying hard. And for all i know, her trying hard is all game...

and i might be wrong but i feel like any chick will probably break your trust on something (even if it's very small) one day. and if trusting her is impossible, are longterm relationships doomed?

its true brother, and I see what youre saying. and I look at what both of us is saying, and the crazy part about the whole thing is that the existence of a long term relationship adds a lot more to this decision than maybe some of us want to admit.

the same thing we would axe a regular girl for, its possible that we'd allow our lady to do to us?

and I know that its true, because its what I said too. granted, this woman may have proven herself to you in some way before, but how far does that go, really? and how much is not acceptable?

thats why it gets deeper, when the consequences that are around the both of you play a factor in you making your choices. its something to think about.

youre right, it would be possible to just assume that shes made it up to you and earned the trust back, because after being with her for so long you start believing in her, and what you two have been through. and its true people do fukk up. other times, its just their insecurities coming out to stay out. but how can you know? then you start saying that maybe what she did was not so bad. but that kind of emotion can lead to weakness and a misjudgment of character.

I think it comes down to: how bad was this break of trust, and how often does it happen?

I read an article here posted by 662letgo, and the article spoke about knowing the difference between "game 1 and game 2." game 1 was being out there, being a player, looking a certain way to get attention, and not being tied down to anything. game 2, which was more difficult, was about maintaining a long term relationship.

our mindframe changes when we're on game 2. it actually has to in many ways. its important to be able to distinguish one game from the other when we're making decisions, we always need to be able to take a step back and see where we are at mentally when judging a relationship. take a look at what might be affecting our rationality.

is it our past, our emotions, or what exactly is leaning us towards one way or another? and is it honest? yup, we got to take all that into account especially in game 2.

your full integrity and rational thinking mind has to be present and counted for. so the trust and stability has to be there. if a relationship cant have that, then its time to hit the road.

 

[winb83]

i got a question. No chick is perfect and they all have their flaws. say you catch your girl looking through your phone fishing for some dirt. If you tell her not to do it again, she'll probably still do it and just not get caught. how do you deal with a situation like that? is the only solution to let her go? i'm talking about situations in general where girl made a mistake but where there's no sure way to make sure you'll catch her if she does it again...

the thing about trust is you don't know its well place until its violated. i would never expect a woman to trust me. if she wants to see my phone i'll hand it to her and if she sees something she doesn't like in it bye bye don't let the door hit you on the way out.

 

[CrossBones]

the thing about trust is you don't know its well place until its violated. i would never expect a woman to trust me. if she wants to see my phone i'll hand it to her and if she sees something she doesn't like in it bye bye don't let the door hit you on the way out.

I like that, its a good move. and I dont have anything to hide, or lie about to her. I still let the boundries and shyt be known from jump. but if she wasnt open about wanting to know whats on your phone, and she just sneaks in to take a look at it, (whether she likes what she sees or not) thats a violation right there. thats some serious fukkery

 

[winb83]

I like that, its a good move. and I dont have anything to hide, or lie about to her. I still let the boundries and shyt be known from jump. but if she wasnt open about wanting to know whats on your phone, and she just sneaks in to take a look at it, (whether she likes what she sees or not) thats a violation right there. thats some serious fukkery

when you stop caring you become all powerful because when other people care and you don't they have to either accept your terms or walk away. the fact that they care won't let them walk away.

if you're talking to other women just tell her and if she can't accept that show her the door. if she truly cares about you and doesn't wanna lose you she won't use it.

a woman's goal is to conquer you and them move on to the next challenge because after they control you they get bored with you. to women men are like a jigsaw puzzle once they put it together what else can they possibly do with it other than look at what they finished and get bored with it?

 

[CrossBones]

when you stop caring you become all powerful because when other people care and you don't they have to either accept your terms or walk away. the fact that they care won't let them walk away.

if you're talking to other women just tell her and if she can't accept that show her the door. if she truly cares about you and doesn't wanna lose you she won't use it.

a woman's goal is to conquer you and them move on to the next challenge because after they control you they get bored with you. to women men are like a jigsaw puzzle once they put it together what else can they possibly do with it other than look at what they finished and get bored with it?

I hear that. I hear what youre saying. when youre in a long term relationship its harder not to care, however. everyone hates to see their investment go bad, or have their feelings revealed and made to look like a fool. tha game 2 can have a mans mind playing tricks on him.

I believe its smarter to have a code and a standard, and remember to never break it. have those held up front, and enforce them yourself in a relationship. even in life. without that code, then anything goes and these "feelings" start to rule the day. theres a lack of control there, which a man always needs to maintain. because a woman is liable to have you up and down and all around, just like her emotions are.