Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CarmelBarbie]

Tips on how to get black women? For some reason I’m always placed as jump through hoops/clean up man, or it doesn’t work out cause I didn’t go to an HBCU or something else.

It’s kinda sad and frustrating.

huh? I don’t get that latter part.

Question, are you attractive? And what kind of black women do you go for that treat you as this?

 

[Ahadi]

huh? I don’t get that latter part.

Question, are you attractive? And what kind of black women do you go for that treat you as this?

Normally I’ve been outcasted or considered not black enough cause I didn’t go to an HBCU.

I would like to think so lol. I tend to look in the mirror a lot and care about my looks. I get the “handsome” compliment. Maybe a flirty “you’re dangerous” here and there, but not cute or sexy. I’m 6FT on the dot. 160lb / soccer player build & dress fly all the time. (Turtleneck, knit sweaters, dress pants/ripped jeans it varies)

Minus the trench coat

I can’t differentiate the market that well. I know I can’t pull hood joints. My best bet is artsy girls, but even then that gets kinda difficult sometimes. The women are in my age range. I’m 27.

A couple of women before said they didn’t think they were good enough or I’m intimidated cause I have my shyt together. I’ve also hear when I’m in a suit for a big meeting or a presentation day, they’ll assume I don’t date black women. Oh I’m in NYC btw.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Spoiler: Text from girl i havent spoken to in ages

I have blocked and unblocked your number so many times cause I just can’t get over our last encounter. I told myself that’d be the last time I ever spoke to you, partly because you also made it clear that you were done speaking to me too. I’m having trouble getting passed a few things you said to me that night, especially the part about me not being woman enough and the part about me dragging things all the time. I dunno why your opinion of me matters to me so much but everything you said really stuck and now I constantly feel like I’m really not good enough. It wasn’t enough that you once called me convenient to my face, but you had to say a million other hurtful things to me, as if your aim was to break me. Even after all the things you said, you still tried to call me and you never explained why when I asked...I feel like I’m harboring a lot of negative thoughts because of all the things you’ve said to me. I suppose that makes me weak ‍ and “childish” but I’ve been going through a mild depression for the past 2 weeks and I feel like I need to address certain things in order to clear my head. I wanna resent you and curse the day we met because everything you’ve ever said makes me question myself ‍. No man has ever made me feel as worthless as you have but in light of that I can still randomly just wanna fukk you. I can tell that you’re the biggest part of my sads and you’re the one thing I haven’t addressed. You kicked me out of your place at 2am in the morning and threatened to drag me out, which was so drastic & I really thought you’d lay your hands on me . But you still had the audacity to try to call me a few weeks later, and even though I had blocked your number, I actually still gave you a chance to say what you wanted to say to me. I dunno if that makes me stupid or crazy ‍. I really didn't deserve that...Anyway I’m telling you all of this because I’ve been having dreams about you lately, amidst my mild depression days, and they won’t go away. Maybe me actually telling you how you made me feel will help with the dreams and all the negative thoughts I’ve been having. I still don’t think you’re a bad guy even though your aim was to make me believe that you are. I don’t want a response from you, cause I know whatever you might have to say will be hurtful. I was just saying things I need to say in order to get over shyt. I also hope you stop being a dikk one day.

Got that text out of nowhere earlier today . Its from a girl who I haven't talked to or seen since July last year.

Something tells me she just got ghosted or dumped by her latest boyfriend, now shes feeling like shyt and spiraling in negative thought, hence i popped up in her mind since i was the dude who never wanted anything outside of occasional p*ssy from her and always put her in her place when she tried to be petty on me. .

Shes obviously horny and depressed and sees me as her relief. Not sure if I should ignore this or text her back and give her the closure she wants bad so she can move on with her life with a light heart.


The game is so damn cold, brehs

 

[Marzupial]

Got that text out of nowhere earlier today . Its from a girl who I haven't talked to or seen since July last year.

Something tells me she just got ghosted or dumped by her latest boyfriend, now shes feeling like shyt and spiraling in negative thought, hence i popped up in her mind since i was the dude who never wanted anything outside of occasional p*ssy from her and always put her in her place when she tried to be petty on me. .

Shes obviously horny and depressed and sees me as her relief. Not sure if I should ignore this or text her back and give her the closure she wants bad so she can move on with her life with a light heart.


The game is so damn cold, brehs

Sheesh all that babble when she could just say "come get this p*ssy"

What a weirdo

 

[360dagod]

Normally I’ve been outcasted or considered not black enough cause I didn’t go to an HBCU.

I would like to think so lol. I tend to look in the mirror a lot and care about my looks. I get the “handsome” compliment. Maybe a flirty “you’re dangerous” here and there, but not cute or sexy. I’m 6FT on the dot. 160lb / soccer player build & dress fly all the time. (Turtleneck, knit sweaters, dress pants/ripped jeans it varies)

Minus the trench coat

I can’t differentiate the market that well. I know I can’t pull hood joints. My best bet is artsy girls, but even then that gets kinda difficult sometimes. The women are in my age range. I’m 27.

A couple of women before said they didn’t think they were good enough or I’m intimidated cause I have my shyt together. I’ve also hear when I’m in a suit for a big meeting or a presentation day, they’ll assume I don’t date black women. Oh I’m in NYC btw.

You probably give off the i dont need you bytch vibe

 

[Ahadi]

You probably give off the i dont need you bytch vibe

Ive heard that too from an ex. Good point.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Normally I’ve been outcasted or considered not black enough cause I didn’t go to an HBCU.

I would like to think so lol. I tend to look in the mirror a lot and care about my looks. I get the “handsome” compliment. Maybe a flirty “you’re dangerous” here and there, but not cute or sexy. I’m 6FT on the dot. 160lb / soccer player build & dress fly all the time. (Turtleneck, knit sweaters, dress pants/ripped jeans it varies)

Minus the trench coat

I can’t differentiate the market that well. I know I can’t pull hood joints. My best bet is artsy girls, but even then that gets kinda difficult sometimes. The women are in my age range. I’m 27.

A couple of women before said they didn’t think they were good enough or I’m intimidated cause I have my shyt together. I’ve also hear when I’m in a suit for a big meeting or a presentation day, they’ll assume I don’t date black women. Oh I’m in NYC btw.

that’s dumb as hell. I’ve never heard of anyone rejecting a breh or brehette for not going to an hbcu. I didn’t go to one, and out of my friends and fam, I only know three or four that went to hbcu. If they rejecting you over that, fukk them honestly.


When I say the type of women you go for, I’m not talking about age, I’m talking about what type of women do you go for? How do they look, what are their interests, what is your type? I say this because if you keep ending up with women that expect you to clean up their messes, you’re probably unintentionally going for/attracting a certain type of women. Your also probably unintentionally giving off a vibe that you’re the type of man that will save them. There are certain men that women can spot a mile away, that are easy targets to manipulate, use, be a damsel in distress with, etc. especially if she’s attractive and she gets the feeling you haven’t been with a woman as attractive as she is, before.

 

[360dagod]

Ive heard that too from an ex. Good point.

Im in nyc too...

Yeah some women want nikkas they can talk down to and keep in check..
When you clearly above them, they gotta play defense and they dont like that...imagine telling a bytch you dont need her and she knows that shyt is true

I attract single mothers looking for resources and fun...

 

[MikelArteta]

Got that text out of nowhere earlier today . Its from a girl who I haven't talked to or seen since July last year.

Something tells me she just got ghosted or dumped by her latest boyfriend, now shes feeling like shyt and spiraling in negative thought, hence i popped up in her mind since i was the dude who never wanted anything outside of occasional p*ssy from her and always put her in her place when she tried to be petty on me. .

Shes obviously horny and depressed and sees me as her relief. Not sure if I should ignore this or text her back and give her the closure she wants bad so she can move on with her life with a light heart.


The game is so damn cold, brehs

see what I mean brehs?

The goods quality girl you like and treat well but isn’t feeling you is never sending you texts like that. You can die before you ever hear from her again.


The chicks you don’t care about and they are not even in your mind anymore always pop up

 

[Ahadi]

that’s dumb as hell. I’ve never heard of anyone rejecting a breh or brehette for not going to an hbcu. I didn’t go to one, and out of my friends and fam, I only know three or four that went to hbcu. If they rejecting you over that, fukk them honestly.


When I say the type of women you go for, I’m not talking about age, I’m talking about what type of women do you go for? How do they look, what are their interests, what is your type? I say this because if you keep ending up with women that expect you to clean up their messes, you’re probably unintentionally going for/attracting a certain type of women. Your also probably unintentionally giving off a vibe that you’re the type of man that will save them. There are certain men that women can spot a mile away, that are easy targets to manipulate, use, be a damsel in distress with, etc. especially if she’s attractive and she gets the feeling you haven’t been with a woman as attractive as she is, before.

Not really picky, I only prefer her to have style, rhythm (very important) that’s really it for me. I like slimmer (track & field bodies) I like artsy women the most.

Let me not say clean up per say, more like attempt to make me jump through hoops. I give off that vibe like @360dagod said “I don’t need you vibe”. Yeah I don’t fall for games, I jump ship very quickly if I feel something is wrong or a games are attempted.

 

[Ahadi]

Im in nyc too...

Yeah some women want nikkas they can talk down to and keep in check..
When you clearly above them, they gotta play defense and they dont like that...imagine telling a bytch you dont need her and she knows that shyt is true

I attract single mothers looking for resources and fun...

It shouldn’t even have to be like that

I always see cases of users on here saying that having a lot of success with black women and i keep forgetting not everyone lives in NYC. Majority live in the South.


& hinge is garbage.

 

[360dagod]

It shouldn’t even have to be like that

I always see cases of users on here saying that having a lot of success with black women and i keep forgetting not everyone lives in NYC. Majority live in the South.


& hinge is garbage.

I dont have any online dating type thing...

Im trying to slow the vibe and seem more approachable...
Sometimes you can be ultrafocused and completely give off a leave me alone attitude...

So im trying to walk slower and breathe better

 

[mortuus est]

that’s dumb as hell. I’ve never heard of anyone rejecting a breh or brehette for not going to an hbcu. I didn’t go to one, and out of my friends and fam, I only know three or four that went to hbcu. If they rejecting you over that, fukk them honestly.


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[mortuus est]

She wanna dance with the GBG's................................Hunny, we don't dance

 

[mortuus est]

The chicks you don’t care about and they are not even in your mind anymore always pop up

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