Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Exactly right.. Before a woman has sex with a man the first initial time, they look for ways/things to disqualify you so the less she knows the better..

or even like you, all she knows is your face and name, when you start chatting about oh im a liberal oh ima conservative, your job, what you do for fun, if oyu dont have alot of friends, if your outgoing, just looking for reasons

why its best to just be quiet and pull out so tell me about yourself, women love to chat, the less you say the less you can mess up

 

[Oye]

For who? men or women?

Women here would find themselves out of a job. I've talked to her before but this is the first really long convo and she's not talking about herself unless she's asked and hasn't asked me what I do or how much I make. Usually after 4 hours of talking to a woman you hear "so what do you do" not even a word about it.

 

[kevm3]

The woman that I dealt with that had the best personality was brazillian. I bet if you ask her if she would cook for her man she'd probably say yes. It isn't this trash American culture where the first thing she would say is, "What does he do for me?"

 

[Wild self]

Women here would find themselves out of a job. I've talked to her before but this is the first really long convo and she's not talking about herself unless she's asked and hasn't asked me what I do or how much I make. Usually after 4 hours of talking to a woman you hear "so what do you do" not even a word about it.

Out of a job? American women would be extinct

I'm telling you, if more men traveled around the world and learned the cancer called simping, most of them would commit dat.

 

[Turbulent]

Very good advice. I would say my mindset right now is to just go and get to know what kinda girl she is. I dont know her enough to say I want more and I am beginning to think I really should just play the field given my youth and the Nigerian girl situation. A senior manager at work (same one i show the coli) even said this is the age to do so and hopefully find what it is you want and dont want from a significant other...to also gain the experience on how to deal with relationships.

So summary...I'm exploring my options and going with the intention to get to know the girl better and decide what role I want to assign her (if any). Role #1 , girl who I'm trying to fukk. Role #2 , more than that in an effort to gain relationship experience and perhaps even succeed with. Role #3 , bushes. Cant front though, if I catch a certain vibe I'm liable to stay at her place that night. Only issue is I'd have work the next morning. How's that sound? Too broad and flip floppy or....?

seems like your purpose for now is to just pick up a vibe from her. but at the same time you're leaning more towards just playing the field and not getting locked down. I don't necessarily think it's too broad of a purpose. As long as you don't let her and her wants define and set the nature of your relationship. If her vibe or her desires doesn't fit into yours at the moment, be ready to either make your intentions clear and let her accept or reject the role you cast her in OR just throw her in the bushes right away.

what i'm trying to say is picking up what vibe she gives you is cool. Just don't submit to her vibe just because. cause then if you let her set the vibe and then just go along you're letting her run the show. set your own vibe based on what you desire (which seems to be getting to know her first) and then see how she responds. then when you decide what you want from her, change the vibe accordingly and again see how she responds.

 

[Oye]

The woman that I dealt with that had the best personality was brazillian. I bet if you ask her if she would cook for her man she'd probably say yes. It isn't this trash American culture where the first thing she would say is, "What does he do for me?"

She was cooking when we started talking

I've been friends with her for a minute on here but it was mostly timeline talking today she hit me up after I wished her happy birthday. Talked for 4 hours straight. I'm glad too cause the girl I'm talking to right now is at the aspen lounge in Nyc for the rl preview

 

[Rocket Scientist]

The shorter your conversation with a woman the better. Its like you got to be "The Riddler" to keep a woman around.

 

[kevm3]

Man when you get even a taste of a woman that has that traditional attitude, you really start to realize what is wrong with teh female situation here in America. It's like all you see are these neo-feminized women here, so when you meet one who doesn't respond to, "Will you cook for your man," with a "Nuhhh uhhh negro that's disrepectful," but instead says, "I got you." You are like man, ya'll exist? FIRST thing that comes out of most of these American womens' mouths if you ask them what they would do for their man is, "Well what is he going to do for me? How much does he make?"

 

[Oye]

The shorter your conversation with a woman the better. Its like you got to be "The Riddler" to keep a woman around.

Normally I'd agree but this convo was completely different from the ones I have with the girl I'm talking to in real life. With her I'm always trying to avoid saying that one wrong thing

 

[kevm3]

Normally I'd agree but this convo was completely different from the ones I have with the girl I'm talking to in real life. With her I'm always trying to avoid saying that one wrong thing

Yeah man, that's the problem with these women here in America. They think they are so fly that they can disqualify you based on one joke they found unfunny or one statement they didn't like... as if they were some kind of queens. Those are the situations where it's not even fun... like you are walking on eggshells. But nowadays, I'm like if she doesn't like it, she can get on. I don't have a second of time or an iota of desire to pander to a woman, especially a majority these western females who offer virtually nothing besides their looks. If you watched that documentary about them black men going to brazil "Frustrated", you saw the first thing out of those womens' mouths were along the lines of, "What can he do for me." What did they bring to the table? Their degrees. Obviously they are going to get mad when they aren't getting all of that attention cheaply anymore and men done opened up the market globally.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Normally I'd agree but this convo was completely different from the ones I have with the girl I'm talking to in real life. With her I'm always trying to avoid saying that one wrong thing

Yea in your case diffeent but 95% of time out here naw. The less you tell a woman the more she will like you.You start volunteering information,she will judge you off of that.A woman knows if she is gonna give you time.Problem with us cats is,we put our foot in our mouth.

 

[killacal]

or even like you, all she knows is your face and name, when you start chatting about oh im a liberal oh ima conservative, your job, what you do for fun, if oyu dont have alot of friends, if your outgoing, just looking for reasons

why its best to just be quiet and pull out so tell me about yourself, women love to chat, the less you say the less you can mess up

Ive been smashing this chick for the last 3 months and I just let her talk and zone out. bytch called me one day and said i was telling my homegirl about u, and she asked some questions and I dont even know what you do or where youre from :foh:

 

[Oye]

Yeah man, that's the problem with these women here in America. They think they are so fly that they can disqualify you based on one joke they found unfunny or one statement they didn't like... as if they were some kind of queens. Those are the situations where it's not even fun... like you are walking on eggshells. But nowadays, I'm like if she doesn't like it, she can get on. I don't have a second of time or an iota of desire to pander to a woman, especially a majority these western females who offer virtually nothing besides their looks. If you watched that documentary about them black men going to brazil "Frustrated", you saw the first thing out of those womens' mouths were along the lines of, "What can he do for me." What did to the table? Their degrees. Obviously they are going to get mad when they aren't getting all of that attention cheaply anymore and men done opened up the market globally.

She isn't at all guarded in how she responds to me everything just flowed without any type of game needed.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah exactly. I find the foreign born women I talk to online for the most part are much less guarded. The ones here usually think it's the man's job to entertain them and if he's not Cedric the Entertainer, she'll cut him loose. I am that type of dude right now that I don't play ANY roles. I'm going to say what I feel and if she likes it, coo, if she doesn't she can get on. I really don't view these women as fly enough for me to have to parse my conversation and carefully tailor it in a way that is of maximal entertainment to herself. I'd rather chill by myself than some broad that wants to run through my conversation and style with a fine tooth comb.

 

[Oye]

Here's a picture of her:

Spoiler

http://i1148.photobucket.com/albums/o578/abuC1924/388.jpg

So nice to talk to her. The chick I'm dealing with now is nice and all but is a diva.