Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Malta]

yeah ive been there, as a man we love hard, the two women i have loved in my life, even after the relationships ended , i was with hotter women after who even treated me better, waited on my hand and feet and i had more in common with but ehh, i would have given everything at that point to get another chance with them. IT took me awhile to get to that place where I garnered the wisdom and the strength, where you sit down and realize why would i want to be in a relationship with someone I can't trust, or who deoesn't treat me the way that I deserve, your friend is taking it in, in strides it'll take awhile, the only thing that an really sever the ties and cord is no contact for awhile.

They say they love more when in actuality they don't, hence all the men killing themselves over women, or moving heaven and earth for them. I mean nikkas built the Taj Mahal for a chick B, where's one of the wonders of the world for men from women?

I told him to post in here, he's on the-coli, but he's a private dude and while I want to post pics of his ex I don't think he'd be cool with that as he still maintains she was a good chick. She's really lucky he's a good dude too, he had a lot of videos of her, all deleted (no I never got to see any).

 

[Versa]

I made a word document with the best advice from page 1-88...


I gotta lot of updating to do

I'ma do it. Refuse to get played again. Ever. to ya'll

 

[kevm3]

Yeah mane, these females WILL tell you you are the greatest guy in the world and they could never do without you, but yet she's dealing with other men behind your back. A woman will tell you she loves you more than anything else in the world but will carry on a relationship with another guy while she is with you. Ya'll think these brothas getting cheated on.. ya'll think their woman is discussing the issue trying to work it out with them and yet he's just this completely neglectful, cold dude? Heck naw. You look on her facebook and she's cheesing wiht the dude, looking mad happy... but she comes and talks to you and it's like this negro is the most abusive man in the world.

I KNOW when a woman is giving me an IN because she starts dumping on her man in front of me, letting me know she is giving her an excuse to step out if I let her step up... but nah, screw that, I close that door and tell her to talk to her man and work it out. I'm not going to wreck another man's castle and chop it up with a traitor.

 

[MikelArteta]

I made a word document with the best advice from page 1-88...


I gotta lot of updating to do

I'ma do it. Refuse to get played again. Ever. to ya'll

sad thing is you never know if you are going to get played all you can do is stand firm on your principles and if you suspect anything or if you find out to cut the ties and walk away and never look back.

 

[CrossBones]

rebound relationships are for women

honestly the way to get off pinning over a chick is to cease ALL COMMUNICATION, go cold turkey, and go away on vacation.


take it from me if you really love a chick after a breakup or whatever, your mind will be messed if you don't have the strength you will constnatly think of her night and day, before you go to bed and as soon as you wake up, you'll be checking your phone for a text, or your email or fb hoping for a msg, you may even f up and send a text or call from a unblock number.

i remember way back in the day when i was a simp who didn't know the game i pinned.

Untill I took drastic steps

1. I cut all communication

2. I changed my number as constantly checking every 10-15 min hoping for a text or a phone call was getting on my nerves, once my number was
changed it brought me peace

3. i did the same to my email address

4. got rid of all pictures, gifts, cards, rearranged my room

5. pick up a hobby, read a book watch a movie every day

6. volunteer at a hospital or homeless shelter, realizing that people have worse lives than you and are still in good spirits while your all sad and depressed over some chick who is a speck of dust in this world

7. read relationship forums, realize your situation isn't special the odds of you getting back together or whatever small hope you have is slim to nil, and that others are going through what your going through and they made it out fine and so will you

8. talk to people close to you, close friends, parents etc., hang out with them, realize all the time you wasted spending with this chick who were telling you that she love syou and bla bla was all horse crap and the people who really care about you are still there, clsoe friends and family

9. TRAVEL - THIS HEALED ME TWICE, i went to jamaica for two weeks a few months after a bad breakup, i had that chick on my mind still constantly i went on vacation and poof she was gone out of my mind, something about traveling cures you.

no doubt, you dont want to take one poison for another. if no one sees what went wrong the first time, you will have the same thing get at you again.

you said it yourself, a lot of times its the physical part of a relationship that we remember most. its biological warfare if youre not careful. have us convinced we had a a good partner when all she really did was be a good fukk toy. caught in some kinda p*ssy high. when you can cut that out "good times and hard luck" shyt out from a relationship and realize that p*ssy is so easy to get and interchangeable anyways, its not a pain to lose that. I think maltas boy is stuck on that p*ssy a little bit too.

thats why I said the manual is important. what I meant was that if you can master your own highs and emotions, what you allow and how to make things tick in a modern relationship, you can control what you get out of a bytch. if all shes good for is sex, sex it is. then see ya gotta go

 

[MikelArteta]

no doubt, you dont want to take one poison for another. if no one sees what went wrong the first time, you will have the same thing get at you again.

you said it yourself, a lot of times its the physical part of a relationship that we remember most. its biological warfare if youre not careful. have us convinced we had a a good partner when all she really did was be a good fukk toy. caught is some kinda p*ssy high. when you can cut that out "good times and hard luck" shyt out from a relationship and realize that p*ssy is so easy to get and interchangeable anyways, its not a pain to lose that. I think maltas boy is stuck on that p*ssy a little bit too.

thats why I said the manual is important. what I meant was that if you can master your own highs and emotions, what you allow and how to make things tick in a modern relationship, you can control what you get out of a bytch. if all shes good for is sex, sex it is. then see ya gotta go

how many men are out there stuck with a cheater, a nagger, a horrible women just because she looks great and they think they cant do better alot.

i wont lie i once dated a broad for like 7 months even though she had the most horrible personality ever, cursed like a sailor, and didn't even work, because she was hot and the sex was amazing, she had no other redeeming qualities, did nothing nice for me, and i always had to travel to go see her.

 

[kevm3]

Malta brought up a real point. Men fought wars over females and did all kinds of things such as make statues. What is the monument showing a woman's love to a man?

That's why it's real important to have hobbies and other things you put way ahead of women. Women fall off real quick... and when they do, you have other things to easily occupy your mind. We should start posting interesting places to travel in here and other interesting activities.

 

[Malta]

no doubt, you dont want to take one poison for another. if no one sees what went wrong the first time, you will have the same thing get at you again.

you said it yourself, a lot of times its the physical part of a relationship that we remember most. its biological warfare if youre not careful. have us convinced we had a a good partner when all she really did was be a good fukk toy. caught is some kinda p*ssy high. when you can cut that out "good times and hard luck" shyt out from a relationship and realize that p*ssy is so easy to get and interchangeable anyways, its not a pain to lose that. I think maltas boy is stuck on that p*ssy a little bit too.

thats why I said the manual is important. what I meant was that if you can master your own highs and emotions, what you allow and how to make things tick in a modern relationship, you can control what you get out of a bytch. if all shes good for is sex, sex it is. then see ya gotta go

I don't think it's the p*ssy in the case of my boy, it's the years and he did see himself having a family with her. He's posted on here, I'm even looking at his post history and he mentioned this was the chick he's loved the most, and one of his exs was much much badder than her and more intelligent as well.

 

[CrossBones]

The posts about competition crossbone has been writing is real.

Once I got out that simp mentality, I stopped trying to do all this competing. I stopped doing that undercover hating. All of that competing will turn you into a hater and make you have eyes for another man to fail. Now, it's more like I'mma let that broad choose who she chooses. If she chooses up with me, then she's going to get a treat if she acts right, but she will get left if she doesn't. I ain't going to throw salt in what another man is doing or hate on him because I'm more than fly enough to get my own without smashing another man's castle.

its wild out there. the media has people convinced us that we're naturally violent towards another like a hungry animal, to view another as our enemy, and its a dog eat dog world. choke you out of a week of work and to come in on weekends because otherwise, someone else will. you wont survive if the next man is moving right next to you. so be obediant. aint that a bytch? thats how you treat a desperate, needy person to jump through hoops of flame

and its all a race for what? the next mans girl? thats what the fukk these heathen rappers are talking about? a new car? getting all the honeys? mad dough that you dont know what to do with? shyt to throw on dirty strippers so you look cool?

the fukk is wrong with folk?

comparing yourself with someone else is the root of insecurity and jealousy. its what drives people to buy into shyt we DONT NEED. fukked up women, expensive clothes, new cars, big houses, wedding costs fit for a royal fam. they want you to always try ta stay up and beat someone else to the early sales, stepping over kids to buy some fukking towels or soap or whatever useless device on black friday

and they got us fighting over women too! like life is all about keeping up with someone else and what they have. thats why women jump from dikk to dikk! thats why men are scheming on another! they need to stop it, man. just get your own.

they try and tell us that you aint living if you aint got a three bedroom house, fence, kids, a wife etc etc.

and if youre not in a lear jet flying to your mansion, your life aint shyt. you aint doin it right.

they choke the enjoyment out of life through making us compete with each other, for shyt thats not even short in abundance or even necessary for a happy life! yo, everybody, just find what makes you happy and accel in it. you dont have to compete for everything. if you have to, instead find a way to supercede the issue.

This thread is a perfect example of how men should act. We're sitting back, kicking REAL knowledge that can actually affect how a man lives and we're not sitting here hating and being catty with each other, trying to cast the other man down because we're afraid he might get a little more attention from women. We're passing along knowledge that helps build each other up. THAT'S what it's about. Not being no hater simp that's slanging misleading knowledge or shaming others who are trying to improve themselves. It's time for the young brothas to do something righteous, to build, to live and pass on righteous knowledge... it's time for ya'll to shinnne

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shine is right. the more sons shine the more we can see. peace yall!

 

[CrossBones]

I don't think it's the p*ssy in the case of my boy, it's the years and he did see himself having a family with her. He's posted on here, I'm even looking at his post history and he mentioned this was the chick he's loved the most, and one of his exs was much much badder than her and more intelligent as well.

I know the feeling. but you cant trust a snake. better off finding fertile soil to have a better future.

 

[MikelArteta]

Malta brought up a real point. Men fought wars over females and did all kinds of things such as make statues. What is the monument showing a woman's love to a man?

That's why it's real important to have hobbies and other things you put way ahead of women. Women fall off real quick... and when they do, you have other things to easily occupy your mind. We should start posting interesting places to travel in here and other interesting activities.

its amazing when you think of even the hottest broad has a shelf life of like 15-20 years

 

[CrossBones]

how many men are out there stuck with a cheater, a nagger, a horrible women just because she looks great and they think they cant do better alot.

i wont lie i once dated a broad for like 7 months even though she had the most horrible personality ever, cursed like a sailor, and didn't even work, because she was hot and the sex was amazing, she had no other redeeming qualities, did nothing nice for me, and i always had to travel to go see her.

bruh, time makes everything clearer. you know how when a man, or say a father comes home, he doesnt want to deal with this other noise fukking with him?

theres enough shyt out there programming us and making us think against our better judgement, that when pops comes home its like, "shut the fukk up, honey. I need a beer and to sit down for a minute."

everyday, you need time to cycle out the junk we get from outside. just to have peace. and not a video game, not music, not any kind of outside stimulous that will get your attention. just motherfukkin peace. it makes sorting things out much simpler. anytime you have to go against your gut, you doing something wrong. listening to ourselves think is more important than memorizing rap songs, worrying about tomorrow, dealing with your girls problems, listening to the news. all that needs to be kept at arms length at times. just need to think. everyday. see things for what they are.

 

[kevm3]

its wild out there. the media has people convinced us that we're naturally violent towards another like an animal, to view another as our enemy, and its a dog eat dog world. choke you out of a week of work and to come in on weekends because otherwise, someone else will. you wont survive if the next man is moving right next to you. so be obediant. aint that a bytch? thats how you treat a desperate, needy person to jump through hoops of flame

and its all a race for what? the next mans girl? thats what the fukk these heathen rappers are talking about? a new car? getting all the honeys? mad dough that you dont know what to do with? shyt to throw on dirty strippers so you look cool?

the fukk is wrong with folk?

comparing yourself with someone else is the root of insecurity and jealousy. its what drives people to buy into shyt we DONT NEED. fukked up women, expensive clothes, new cars, big houses, wedding costs fit for a royal fam. they want you to always try ta stay up and beat someone else to the early sales, stepping over kids to buy some fukking, towels or soap or whatever useless device on black friday

and they got us fighting over women too! like life is all about keeping up with someone else and what they have. thats why women jump from dikk to dikk! thats why men are scheming on another! they need to stop it, man. just get your own.

they try and tell us that you aint living if you aint got a three bedroom house, fence, kids, a wife etc etc.

and if youre not in a lear jet flying to your mansion, your life aint shyt. you aint doin it right.

they choke the enjoyment out of life through making us compete with each other, for shyt thats not even short in abundance or even necessary for a happy life! yo, everybody, just find what makes you happy and excel in it. you dont have to compete for everything. if you have to, instead find a way to supercede the issue.





shine is right. the more sons shine the more we can see. peace yall!

Yeah exactly. That's why I don't even really listen to most rap anymore. I selectively choose. I don't watch tv other than football. Watching what I let in my mind has made monumental improvements in my peace of mind. All of that competition and tearing down others is unnecessary. I'd rather build another one up... and I'll respect his castle as long as he respects mine.

 

[Malta]

I know the feeling. but you cant trust a snake. better off finding fertile soil to have a better future.

It's crazy too, cause if you saw the chick he's interested in now, then looked at his ex, then checked their backgrounds you'd wonder why he's relapsed.


Old girl - 28 years old, not college educated, weave/braids constantly, divorced parents, doesn't work out and gained around 30-40lbs while they were together while he went from 260lbs to 210lbs (6"1).

New girl - 25 years old, natural hair, two parent home, has a degree, varied interests.

I don't want to shout him out by screen name, cause I can just call him and tell him to post but he needs to read this shyt from others. I don't want to bag on his ex either, cause she seems like a good person from what he has told me, but I don't know, sounds vindictive to me after I heard how the situation went down.

 

[CrossBones]

It's crazy too, cause if you saw the chick he's interested in now, then looked at his ex, then checked their backgrounds you'd wonder why he's relapsed.


Old girl - 28 years old, not college educated, weave/braids constantly, divorced parents, doesn't work out and gained around 30-40lbs while they were together while he went from 260lbs to 210lbs (6"1).

New girl - 25 years old, natural hair, two parent home, has a degree, varied interests.

I don't want to shout him out by screen name, cause I can just call him and tell him to post but he needs to read this shyt from others. I don't want to bag on his ex either, cause she seems like a good person from what he has told me, but I don't know, sounds vindictive to me after I heard how the situation went down.

I wouldnt call him out necessarily. he needs the time and peace to see things for what they are. everyone got their own way of coping. getting those old visions out is hard to do. but when you look at whats really happening, its easier to let go. dude needs to see how much more life has to offer, and to take that risk and let go.