Yeah he's just emotionally hooked right now. When you've been with a woman so long, sometimes you get that emotional attachment that is hard to let go, especially if you aren't prepared for it. As much as we're told to suppress it, men do have emotions and when they get hooked on a woman, it's hard to let go, especially when you've let it get to the point that you're going to be with that woman forever in your mind and you start picturing her as the mother of your children and all that. It'll take a little time for him to keep on shaking and banking. I used to get caught up on the old ones until I met a new one that showed me another aspect of what a woman should and could be.
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I avoid most rap like the plague now, it's just such a destructive form of music, really has a negative impact on the community and the minds of people in general.
I wouldnt call him out necessarily. he needs the time and peace to see things for what they are. everyone got their own way of coping. getting those old visions out is hard to do. but when you look at whats really happening, its easier to let go. dude needs to see how much more life has to offer, and to take that risk and let go.
Eh, I want him to post in here, he's had enough time as far as I'm concerned, sometimes it's necessary for tough love. I've told him to travel, he's done a bit but not outside the US yet, I told him to go to Brazil, Colombia or Costa Rica and I think he's going to.
I have very few friends, so to see one of my peoples go through this shyt again is just :ninjawhat: worthy as I talk about said woman. Dude was doing fine for the last 7 months, gets an email from her and they argue and now dude is back at square 1.
There are a lot of beautiful women in Colombia, and I believe it has the lowest divorce rate in the world. You'll find much better women outside of the tourist cities, but as a whole they are better than American women as well, which isn't much of a surprise. I stayed in Cartagena and went to Barranquilla and Santa Marta, it's the perfect trifecta of cities.
what did you like better, brazil or colombia?
I deal with a brazillian girl. She had the personality that was perfect for me. it ain't work out, but just the personality was amazing. feminine and the first thing on her mind wasn't 'what is he going to do for me.'
I deal with a brazillian girl. She had the personality that was perfect for me. it ain't work out, but just the personality was amazing. feminine and the first thing on her mind wasn't 'what is he going to do for me.'
I love Brazil, it's probably my favorite place on the planet, but Colombia is extremely dope as well. My love for Brazil is the culture and the country as well, so many people of color, you feel at home despite the language difference.
You will see stunning women in both countries, I think Brazilian people in general are just naturally friendlier though. You can strike up a convo with damn near anyone, nobody is really guarded like they are here. Colombia they can be a little more guarded than Brazil, but still a hell of a lot more friendly than the US. You will never get told off in a rude manner if you're respectful, ever, most of these women are raised with men in the home so that shyt doesn't fly.
It's hard for me to compare, if you count all my trips to Brazil I probably was there for 6 and a half months, where as I was in Colombia for around 3 weeks. You can't go wrong with Colombia though, I loved it there, just getting outside of the US and slowing down the pace of life is so relaxing. We're talking about two countries where the average citizen makes $9k and 10k per year, yet they are happier than we are.
It just goes to show you that pure materialism isn't where it's at, and yet that's what we're taught to worship here-- money. In the Bible, God chastised the Israelites for making a golden calf and worshipping it, and yet what is the symbol of a positive market on wallstreet? The bull. History repeats itself. I find we're meant to be much more social than we are in America.
I definitely have to travel the world man just to see how different things can be, because from my boy that travels... he went to Kenya and he deals with Kenyan women where he's working at overseas... he said it's way different. Those women cater to him.
I definitely have to travel the world man just to see how different things can be, because from my boy that travels... he went to Kenya and he deals with Kenyan women where he's working at overseas... he said it's way different. Those women cater to him.
Yeah, money just brings out the greed in people, makes people want to always upgrade and when they can't they get depressed. I feel if people just took a step back and weren't as concerned with keeping up with Joneses or how they appeared we'd be a lot better. Our culture is entirely too self centered and about getting yours.
Pretty good video from Cartagena -
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTECU3UA22c&]Shon in Cartagena, Colombia 2012 - YouTube[/ame]
That guy just travels nonstop.
philmonroe
Superstar
Well you did better than my friend who ended up marrying this chick having a baby with her.
how many men are out there stuck with a cheater, a nagger, a horrible women just because she looks great and they think they cant do better alot.
i wont lie i once dated a broad for like 7 months even though she had the most horrible personality ever, cursed like a sailor, and didn't even work, because she was hot and the sex was amazing, she had no other redeeming qualities, did nothing nice for me, and i always had to travel to go see her.
CrossBones
Louder than words
Nah man you are a man supposed to provide even for friendsI've actually saw that on a mb my sister is on where the chicks was like every guy pays for me even if we just friends. I was like these cats are soooo lost
man, its time for men to be bold with our shyt. that entitled shyt needs to be deaded. you want to use me? Im you n your friends man now? what do I get out of it
if you think about it, theyre being REAL bold with their shyt. and with no shame. buy her and her friends shyt, for no reason. they have money, otherwise they can eat at home or call on their man for assistance.
they wanna play that game, I will put it on them. "You want me to pay for all of you? so we're all gonna fukk after this, or what? I only put a down payment on girls if we fukkin"
just be bold. you got nothing to lose but some dumb chicks trying to mooch off you. they want to be bold, be bolder. call them on their shyt
CrossBones
Louder than words
other countries raise their girls to be humble. I like a woman with good family values. got a family theyre close to.
but I always got this nagging feeling that a lot of the ones in foriegn countries who are looking for an american are looking for a come up. the most important thing is find out if shes more about a family and not partying. thats why brazil looks like party town to me, but not for something serious. plus, theyre sexual as hell. I dont know if Id trust a broad who loves to show off her bikini body with her ass all hanging out all day to be wifey.
you never know because theres all different types, but a woman is a woman is a woman. they need control and to respect the mans word as final. so if we present ourselves wrong or sleep on whats in front of us, it can still happen.
Put me on blast.
But I am who malta is talking about. I posted about this on neogaf in the dating thread but this seems better. It was actually a 5 year relationship and ended a while ago but we kept in contact which I didn't want. I stopped talking to her in April after she said she wanted kids soon if we got back together. That is after telling me we would never get back together. I can get other women that's not the problem its that I hate getting to know new people with all their insecurities and 5 years is a long time to just flush down the drain. We were best friends and we did talk about marriage and having kids plus I can't front I made mistakes, never cheated but Im not blameless.
I don't want her back, she already has a new man so that door is shut but hearing that she still loves me is cruel. Hearing from her after 7 months after I told her not to contact me was not cool it just brings back memories.
CrossBones
Louder than words
I hear you man. in the past I have tossed a woman that I knew for close to 8 years. on and off again yet for most of that time we were together. but still, I feel stronger knowing that I can have someone better. someone who is actually going all out for me. and the freedom is good, once you realize that any mistakes youve made in the past, you now have the opportunity to do right this time. and with a fresh new start. you got to look at the bright side. you have a future ahead of you that you can make it to be how you want. the world dont stop player. play on
