Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

other countries raise their girls to be humble. I like a woman with good family values. got a family theyre close to.


but I always got this nagging feeling that a lot of the ones in foriegn countries who are looking for an american are looking for a come up. the most important thing is find out if shes more about a family and not partying. thats why brazil looks like party town to me, but not for something serious. plus, theyre sexual as hell. I dont know if Id trust a broad who loves to show off her bikini body with her ass all hanging out all day to be wifey.

you never know because theres all different types, but a woman is a woman is a woman. they need control and to respect the mans word as final. so if we present ourselves wrong or sleep on whats in front of us, it can still happen.

I agree that a lot of them definitely want a green card to get in the states and those are to be avoided. There is also a huge danger of bringing that type of woman over here and her being influenced by american culture and turning into an americanized woman.

I also agree with the promiscuity that is prevalent in much of brazillian culture. There's a reason it's being considered a destination for american men to travel. A lot of them go down there for sex and from what I'm seeing, a lot of the women do show off their body. Obviously there are those who aren't promiscuous, but Brazil has a culture very focused on showing off physical beauty.

I have no illusions as some foreign country as the mecca for finding a decent woman, because if you are a sucker simp negro, you will get taken advantage of-- bottom line. I'm more interested in just experiencing the overall vibe of interactions between man and woman elsewhere in the world. I'm definitely not looking to rush off to some foreign country to smash foreign whores nor am I looking for some wifey, but I want to see how men and women interact in a nation not rife with feminism.

 

[CrossBones]

I agree that a lot of them definitely want a green card to get in the states and those are to be avoided. There is also a huge danger of bringing that type of woman over here and her being influenced by american culture and turning into an americanized woman.

I also agree with the promiscuity that is prevalent in much of brazillian culture. There's a reason it's being considered a destination for american men to travel. A lot of them go down there for sex and from what I'm seeing, a lot of the women do show off their body. Obviously there are those who aren't promiscuous, but Brazil has a culture very focused on showing off physical beauty.

I have no illusions as some foreign country as the mecca for finding a decent woman, because if you are a sucker simp negro, you will get taken advantage of-- bottom line. I'm more interested in just experiencing the overall vibe of interactions between man and woman elsewhere in the world. I'm definitely not looking to rush off to some foreign country to smash foreign whores nor am I looking for some wifey, but I want to see how men and women interact in a nation not rife with feminism.

word, I like the idea of a relaxing, healthy, quiet life. having a good woman who puts as much I put into the relationship. me in my way, and her in hers. Id like a woman who isnt impressed with an "american life" and is impressed with a good man.

if I see a chick with clothes on that are meant to make men hawk at her, gaudy jewelry on, extra make up with the push up bra, I know what time it is. the visual, and her actions are always going to mean more than what she says. so we gotta always be on point.

 

[Oye]

I hear you man. in the past I have tossed a woman that I knew for close to 8 years. on and off again yet for most of that time we were together. but still, I feel stronger knowing that I can have someone better. someone who is actually going all out for me. and the freedom is good, once you realize that any mistakes youve made in the past, you now have the opportunity to do right this time. with a fresh new start. you got to look at the bright side. you have a future ahead of you that you can make it to be how you want it. the world dont stop player. play on

I can find someone better looking but she was down for me listened to me and even learned what food I liked so she could cook it. I never suspected her of cheating she was a homebody and was really funny. I will probably just travel for a while. There's a woman I'm interested now that is my type but I am honestly very jaded now.

 

[Malta]

other countries raise their girls to be humble. I like a woman with good family values. got a family theyre close to.


but I always got this nagging feeling that a lot of the ones in foriegn countries who are looking for an american are looking for a come up. the most important thing is find out if shes more about a family and not partying. thats why brazil looks like party town to me, but not for something serious. plus, theyre sexual as hell. I dont know if Id trust a broad who loves to show off her bikini body with her ass all hanging out all day to be wifey.

you never know because theres all different types, but a woman is a woman is a woman. they need control and to respect the mans word as final. so if we present ourselves wrong or sleep on whats in front of us, it can still happen.

There are promiscuous chicks down there, but there are a lot of 20-25 year old virgins there as well, a lot more than there are in the US. The difference is they live with their parents until they get married, the girl I was messing with down there was a virgin, and I know it wasn't a lie since she actually bled and was terrible for a minute.

The issue they have down there is that there are more men than women, especially in the cities, but once you get outside of them you find traditional women. The middle class women from outside the city are grade A, my girl was from outside of Salvador, she was amazing in every way.

I agree that a lot of them definitely want a green card to get in the states and those are to be avoided. There is also a huge danger of bringing that type of woman over here and her being influenced by american culture and turning into an americanized woman.

I also agree with the promiscuity that is prevalent in much of brazillian culture. There's a reason it's being considered a destination for american men to travel. A lot of them go down there for sex and from what I'm seeing, a lot of the women do show off their body. Obviously there are those who aren't promiscuous, but Brazil has a culture very focused on showing off physical beauty.

I have no illusions as some foreign country as the mecca for finding a decent woman, because if you are a sucker simp negro, you will get taken advantage of-- bottom line. I'm more interested in just experiencing the overall vibe of interactions between man and woman elsewhere in the world. I'm definitely not looking to rush off to some foreign country to smash foreign whores nor am I looking for some wifey, but I want to see how men and women interact in a nation not rife with feminism.

If you hit up outside the tourists cities, you will meet women more in line with the low body counts you'd expect. Anywhere you get a lot of tourists you'll have a western influence on the culture, mostly because the western world sucks ass.

Going by your posts, you might just fall in love with the vibe and atmosphere down there, that's what happened to me.

 

[kevm3]

Put me on blast.


But I am who malta is talking about. I posted about this on neogaf in the dating thread but this seems better. It was actually a 5 year relationship and ended a while ago but we kept in contact which I didn't want. I stopped talking to her in April after she said she wanted kids soon if we got back together. That is after telling me we would never get back together. I can get other women that's not the problem its that I hate getting to know new people with all their insecurities and 5 years is a long time to just flush down the drain. We were best friends and we did talk about marriage and having kids plus I can't front I made mistakes, never cheated but Im not blameless.


I don't want her back, she already has a new man so that door is shut but hearing that she still loves me is cruel. Hearing from her after 7 months after I told her not to contact me was not cool it just brings back memories.

You can't disagree with the hive mind at neogaf or go too hard stating the real or you will get banned.

I'm telling you man, it's real tough when you have to let go of a woman you've dealt with for such a long-time. You've started feeling that she is 'the one'. You start picturing yourself with her for the rest of your life... you might picture the wedding, the kids you are going to have. Both of you make each other laugh, you enjoy each other's company, all of that... nothing seems overly wrong with the relationship until BOOM, she walks out on you for seemingly no reason. She might have told you she loved you every day prior to that. What is so cold is a woman can tell you she loves you every day and you don't detect ANY problem in the relationship... ti seems so smooth and perfect, but she goes cold and distant out of nowhere. Why? Because she was keeping her options open for quite a while and dealing with other dudes until she found the one she wanted to jump ship with. I know this for a fact because it happened to me. There were no perceivable problems, everything was lovely, but then she started going distant out of nowhere. I did my research and then bam, I found out what she was doing. It's actually funny because I was talking to a homegirl on facebook and she was telling me about putting her man's information in on google and she started finding posts of his on message boards that she didn't like. I decided, man I guess I might as well do the same thing. I doubt I'll come up with anything... but viola, found out about her actions on social media sites... that whole time she was saying she loved me, but on them sites, but I didn't exist on those sites.

Now, babygirl in your case decided that the grass wasn't greener on the other side and all of a sudden she wants to fall back on the security that you offered. Screw that. You see how she is doing her 'new man'? She's talking to you talking about she loves you, and I bet if you chat with her, she will bring up some trash about how he's not doing this or that right with her or emotionally fulfilling her and she'll try to come back to you for a new thrill since she hasn't been in your company for so long. I doubt her man knows about any of her supposed dissatisfactions just like you probably didn't know of her supposed dissatisfactions before she left you. On her man's end, if you accepted her, "Ii will look like, man what in the world? She just up and left me for her ex. That's screwed up." A woman will always dump on her man in front of a new dude she is interested in dealing with to justify to herself and to the other man why she is cheating. Her man doesn't ever know about her supposed unhappiness, but when he catches her cheating, she will say something stupid like 'You never paid enough attention to me. You didn't satisfy me emotionally..." basically playing the victim game. She will also try to accuse the man of spying or checking up on her and not trusting her.

This is why all of the guys here will advocate never getting too attached to women and will always tell you to be able to let any women you are dealing with go and not miss too much of a beat, because what she is doing to you is definitely not unheard of behavior in this day and age.

She's a traitor, bottom line, and is only concerned with herself. She stepped out on you with some other guy and now, all of a sudden, she's dealing with this new guy, but is coming back to her ex (you), talking about she loves you. That's a lie. If she really loved you, she would have never left and never done you wrong... but she's bored with what she has now and is sending out feelers to see if she can jump back onto your ship.

You were blessed to have this traitor exposed so early before you really got attached to her and started having children and the such with her, where it would have gotten REALLY difficult. Everything fellas in this thread have been stating, especially going hard on women, is for a reason. The best thing for you to do is to completely cut her off and do all it takes so she can't get in contact with you anymore and to realize what she is. It will take a while to clear out the emotional attachment, but it will happen. Also, come to the realization that there is no such thing as 'the one', and there will always be more women out there to deal with... but upon knowing that, always know to never get too attached to a woman where it's impossible to do without her, because in this day and age, loyalty is at an all time low.

This is also why I and a few other guys here will advocate checking into what any woman you are dealing with is doing. You have to see how she acts when she isn't around you. A woman can tell you she loves you every day, but be talking to other dudes the whole time. Better you find out early than before you get really connected through marriage. Make women a 4th priority in your life and always have activities that you can enjoy in the case the particular woman you are dealing with at any given time leaves.

 

[kevm3]

There are promiscuous chicks down there, but there are a lot of 20-25 year old virgins there as well, a lot more than there are in the US. The difference is they live with their parents until they get married, the girl I was messing with down there was a virgin, and I know it wasn't a lie since she actually bled and was terrible for a minute.

The issue they have down there is that there are more men than women, especially in the cities, but once you get outside of them you find traditional women. The middle class women from outside the city are grade A, my girl was from outside of Salvador, she was amazing in every way.




If you hit up outside the tourists cities, you will meet women more in line with the low body counts you'd expect. Anywhere you get a lot of tourists you'll have a western influence on the culture, mostly because the western world sucks ass.

Going by your posts, you might just fall in love with the vibe and atmosphere down there, that's what happened to me.

Yeah, I think I'd have to go to one of the smaller cities instead of the big tourist traps filled with 'gringoes' and negroes looking to smash brazillian women. What's crazy about columbia is that I've heard it has a huge black population as well... right behind brazil. I'll definitely have to do some exploring out there. The unfortunate thing I'm hearing about brazil is that the women over there are starting to become westernized, gaining weight and having that icy, entitled attitude found here.

 

[Oye]

You can't disagree with the hive mind at neogaf or go too hard stating the real or you will get banned.

I'm telling you man, it's real tough when you have to let go of a woman you've dealt with for such a long-time. You've started feeling that she is 'the one'. You start picturing yourself with her for the rest of your life... you might picture the wedding, the kids you are going to have. Both of you make each other laugh, you enjoy each other's company, all of that... nothing seems overly wrong with the relationship until BOOM, she walks out on you for seemingly no reason. She might have told you she loved you every day prior to that. What is so cold is a woman can tell you she loves you every day and you don't detect ANY problem in the relationship... ti seems so smooth and perfect, but she goes cold and distant out of nowhere. Why? Because she was keeping her options open for quite a while and dealing with other dudes until she found the one she wanted to jump ship with. I know this for a fact because it happened to me. There were no perceivable problems, everything was lovely, but then she started going distant out of nowhere. I did my research and then bam, I found out what she was doing. It's actually funny because I was talking to a homegirl on facebook and she was telling me about putting her man's information in on google and she started finding posts of his on message boards that she didn't like. I decided, man I guess I might as well do the same thing. I doubt I'll come up with anything... but viola, found out about her actions on social media sites... that whole time she was saying she loved me, but on them sites, but I didn't exist on those sites.

Now, babygirl in your case decided that the grass wasn't greener on the other side and all of a sudden she wants to fall back on the security that you offered. Screw that. You see how she is doing her 'new man'? She's talking to you talking about she loves you, and I bet if you chat with her, she will bring up some trash about how he's not doing this or that right with her or emotionally fulfilling her and she'll try to come back to you for a new thrill since she hasn't been in your company for so long. On her man's end, if you accepted her, "Ii will look like, man what in the world? She just up and left me for her ex. That's screwed up."

This is why all of the guys here will advocate never getting too attached to women and will always tell you to be able to let any women you are dealing with go and not miss too much of a beat, because what she is doing to you is definitely not unheard of behavior in this day and age.

She's a traitor, bottom line, and is only concerned with herself. She stepped out on you with some other guy and now, all of a sudden, she's dealing with this new guy, but is coming back to her ex (you), talking about she loves you. That's a lie. If she really loved you, she would have never left and never done you wrong... but she's bored with what she has now and is sending out feelers to see if she can jump back onto your ship.

You were blessed to have this traitor exposed so early before you really got attached to her and started having children and the such with her, where it would have gotten REALLY difficult. Everything fellas in this thread have been stating, especially going hard on women, is for a reason. The best thing for you to do is to completely cut her off and do all it takes so she can't get in contact with you anymore and to realize what she is. It will take a while to clear out the emotional attachment, but it will happen. Also, come to the realization that there is no such thing as 'the one', and there will always be more women out there to deal with... but upon knowing that, always know to never get too attached to a woman where it's impossible to do without her, because in this day and age, loyalty is at an all time low.

This is also why I and a few other guys here will advocate checking into what any woman you are dealing with is doing. You have to see how she acts when she isn't around you. A woman can tell you she loves you every day, but be talking to other dudes the whole time. Better you find out early than before you get really connecected through marriage.

Great post and that neogaf dating thread really doesn't for my needs since half of them just have trouble talking to women.

Yeah I asked her that I said how would your man feel if he knew you were telling me you loved me. She said she tells him everything cause she has nothing to hide. I don't know of any man that would be ok with their girl talking to their ex at 3am and saying they will always love them. You can't love me and be with someone else that just doesn't work.

 

[Malta]

Yeah, I think I'd have to go to one of the smaller cities instead of the big tourist traps filled with 'gringoes' and negroes looking to smash brazillian women. What's crazy about columbia is that I've heard it has a huge black population as well... right behind brazil. I'll definitely have to do some exploring out there. The unfortunate thing I'm hearing about brazil is that the women over there are starting to become westernized, gaining weight and having that icy, entitled attitude found here.

I loved Salvador, and was going out to meet women at the college in Juazeiro which is a couple hours way, they were just lovely creatures all around. Most of them were middle class, educated and sweet, just fun to be around.

They are becoming westernized, but thankfully it's a slow process. If it continues though there's always Colombia, and I don't think that fortress will ever be breached.

 

[Malta]

Great post and that neogaf dating thread really doesn't for my needs since half of them just have trouble talking to women.

Yeah I asked her that I said how would your man feel if he knew you were telling me you loved me. She said she tells him everything cause she has nothing to hide. I don't know of any man that would be ok with their girl talking to their ex at 3am and saying they will always love them. You can't love me and be with someone else that just doesn't work.

I told you to let it go, she played games when she broke up with you, and she's playing games now.

The new girl > old girl

 

[kevm3]

That's 100. That broad doesn't know the meaning of love. She is just sending feelers out so she can jump right back onto your ship because she is bored with the man she is dealing with right now and wants to rekindle the old flame for her entertainment. The corniest line I've heard is that joint about letting a caged bird go and if it comes back, it's yours. Man if a bird flies out of my cage, the door gets superglued shut.


NEVER accept a jumpship broad aka a choosy susie. They want to deal with man after man even if they have one already and they do it because suckers and simps let them. It attests to how they look at you... as if you are the safe back-up negro who she can come back to after she experiences all kinds of other men. Never be a back-up dude.

You're too fly to accept that nonsense she is kicking and there are way better women out there and there's much, much more to life than broads and what they are doing. Those feelings for her will subside with time and you will learn that the knowledge that we've been kicking is true. We go hard on women in here for a reason.

 

[kevm3]

This article was actually written by a woman:

Ladies, do you cheat? | Women24

Now I know I should be ashamed of myself, and I know most of you will go into a fit of hysteria at my lack of decency but, you see, my moral compass is exactly like my new car.

I don't have a new car.

Don’t get me wrong: in a bid to successfully travel on the highroad of society without landing flat on my back, I have often tried to fight my unfaithful nature.

You know, like Julia Roberts in Eat, Pray, Love. But, instead of digesting my way to self-discovery, I would be celibate, and through abstinence, get a hold of myself. It never worked.

I did crazy, stupid things to try and tame my harlot ways.

One month, I even imitated my editor and refused to shave anything in the hopes of repulsing myself to the point that I would refrain from doing the hanky panky...

Well, I ended up ransacking my kitchen for butter and a sharpened knife to shave with after my illicit lover came knocking one night. That ended up with a late night joy ride to the ICU, a dozen onlookers gawking at my gushing wounds, and Coolio playing in my head for days because I had channelled Dangerous Minds.

Sigh.

It wasn’t all for nothing, though. While laying in the back of the ambulance in quite a considerable amount of pain, it hit me: I’d just have to get better at this cheating thing.

I realised that if I was destined to walk this earth in twosomes and threesomes, I was going to have to do it right. Well, as right as wrong can be.

Feeling rather enlightened I followed through by conducting a bit of research. How? By asking Facebook, of course.

“So, I’m doing a story on cheating,” I typed out innocently. “Inbox me your means of manipulation, ladies.” To my surprise I was met with a host of stories and pieces of advice that reflected the true sisterhood, albeit of the adulterous kind.

Honour among thieves, eh…

Firstly, do not cause reason for suspicion by over-doing it with affection, or like many of you do, accuse your significant other of cheating because you are feeling guilty. Treat them like you always do – no more, no less.

Fake gym membership

Create a fake gym account so that you can come and go freely with a fresh supply of clothes and underwear for a quick change.

Contact your partner in crime from a phone booth as apposed to your cell phone so that your connection is untraceable.

Hidden in plain sight

Have an affair with someone your hubby knows. Doing the midnight tango with someone who understands your situation and is willing to play along is your best bet. Those anonymous affairs always turn out sour, and are infinitely more dangerous!

Facebook

Create a fake Facebook account as the primary means of communication. It’s fast, easy and private and you won’t experience the horror of mutual friend suggestions popping up on your boyfriend’s Facebook account.

‘Honey’

If you’re going to use affectionate names like “candypants” or “studmuffin” use the same ones for both the men in your life. It’s for your own benefit not to get confused with names so stick with nicknames.

Buy them the same cologne so that if you come home, he will never smell you.

“Mellisa”

Save the name of your lover under a woman’s name so that on the odd occasion that your real life boyfriend checks your phone there will be no male traces.

*Don’t forget to create a secret lover's code, use movies to inspire you*

Don’t dress to impress…really

Do not dress up in front of your hubby if you are not taking him with you. Questions that follow this action is always ‘who are you dressing up for?’ and you do not want that.

Throw a tantrum

If caught up in an argument with your real life partner about infidelity, throw the ‘Oh! So you don’t trust me’ tantrum. Make him feel guilty by being on your best behaviour so that he may feel like he over-reacted and come grovelling back.

*Disclaimer: This is a guest article. Women24 does not condone cheating and we are well aware of the hurt and damage unfaithfulness can cause.

Have you cheated, what were your means of manipulation? Comment in the box below.

 

[Oye]

That's 100. That broad doesn't know the meaning of love. She is just sending feelers out so she can jump right back onto your ship because she is bored with the man she is dealing with right now and wants to rekindle the old flame for her entertainment. The corniest line I've heard is that joint about letting a caged bird go and if it comes back, it's yours. Man if a bird flies out of my cage, the door gets superglued shut.


NEVER accept a jumpship broad aka a choosy susie. They want to deal with man after man even if they have one already and they do it because suckers and simps let them. It attests to how they look at you... as if you are the safe back-up negro who she can come back to after she experiences all kinds of other men. Never be a back-up dude.

You're too fly to accept that nonsense she is kicking and there are way better women out there and there's much, much more to life than broads and what they are doing. Those feelings for her will subside with time and you will learn that the knowledge that we've been kicking is true. We go hard on women in here for a reason.

Yeah and she has never been single for long she has long term relationships and ends up with a new dude within months after it ends. She got offended when I said that too. How canyour man be ok with me still having your heart? How can he be ok with you openly saying you love me. When I got with her I made her cut off all exs no fly zone.

 

[Malta]

This article was actually written by a woman:

My girl would be bushes status, and I'd get my girl cousins to fukk her up :ninjawhat:

 

[kevm3]

this one is particularly real in the article

Throw a tantrum

If caught up in an argument with your real life partner about infidelity, throw the ‘Oh! So you don’t trust me’ tantrum. Make him feel guilty by being on your best behaviour so that he may feel like he over-reacted and come grovelling back.

 

[kevm3]

Now that we have outlined the potential risks on not having caution when dealing with women, we're going to move onto the exciting part. The key really is to put women in the background, recognize your worth and never sell it cheaply and always stay focused on improving yourself while you put women in the background.

You want to know the KEY? The key is to not chase women, but rather to put yourself in a position to where they want to chase YOU. As a man, you will always have to go get them, so I will say it is more accurate to say to put yourself in a position to where women want to allow themselves to easily be caught by you.

When you're out here and got your body right, got your finances right, gear is looking so solid, conversation is proper, you're just fun to be around, you don't allow no sucka business to go on around you and you make sure women respect your time, man you'll be in a position to where A LOT of women are going to want you. The thing with women is that it's true that they do want that one fly negro and will be willing to 'share him' than deal with the mediocre negroes. They will deal with them when they 'fall off'.

Let me tell ya'll a secret though, and it's something you must maintain. if a girl screws you over, then do NOT keep her around, even if it means easy access to sex or whatever. You must make your time valuable and you MUST be a man who is respectable. Allowing a woman to screw you over and keeping her around lowers your value because it says that it is fine to disrespect you as long as she is offering access to her vagina. Remember, there are billions of women on this planet, so if respect doesn't come with her, she has to go.

Instead of spending your mental energy trying to catch some one particular female, spend it engaged in ways of improving yourself. When you do that, the females come with it and if one female goes bad, you'll have another one ready to take her place. On the other hand, if you spend all your efforts catching one girl, she has the power over you, and when she goes, you'll be left dusted and disgusted... and trust me, she WILL leave. Women always want to deal with a man she perceives as above her. Always increasing your self-value is the key to go... and that will give you tremendous bargaining power. If one woman flakes on you, you can laugh because another one is ready to get your time. If babygirl wants to be miss independent and doesn't want to move out the way and let you lead and if she doesn't want to be feminine, you don't have to get a second thought, because you can deal with the ones that do. Let's take this discussion from perils and pitfalls into how to make ourselves into better winners. Real talk, let's start shifting this discussion on ways to just live a more abundant lifestyle, whether that's discussing workout progress, fly travel destinations, nice colognes, clothes, etc. We, as men are problem solvers, so let's fix things up so we can have victory.

Also remember though, with this power comes tremendous responsibility. You always have to be a man of morals and principles. just because you have a lot of women interested in you, don't use that to screw them over. Choose the highest quality one, and that is determined through her BEHAVIOR towards you...