Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

jadillac

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I asked for advice about this chick i dated awhile back who went cold on me when i thought things were going well...well it's been a month since we last talked...she has my $150 dollar shades that i left in her car last time i seen her...i texted her last week asking her to give them to her uncle the next time she seen him....shorty never responded...her fam is kinda tight with mine so i can't really just call her out...should i take my L and keep it moving or hit her up again on some give me my shyt back type steez??

$150? :whoo:

I'd show up at her door breh. Just say, "Hey...look, I just came by to get my shades" What's she gonna say?

But that's just me though and I'm not gonna knowingly let a woman get over on me like that without some type of effort

Last girl that tried to keep something of mine, I made up a realistic lie so I could come over and get my stuff.

It's one thing for a chick to play you, or go cold....it's another for her to steal/keep your stuff.

For all you know she might give them to some other dude. How would you feel if you saw a dude she was dealing with walking around w/ ur shades like :takedat: ?
 

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Yeah, the problem he has in his relationship is that he caught a girl that is actually addicted to the drama.The same thing you caught a girl with is the same thing that keeps her around, unfortunately. She stuck around when you put her through all of that, but the problem is what happens when she's not going through her emotional rollercoaster anymore?

now, just on general principle and respect for yourself, I would tell you to stop cheating on her and doing her wrong... but you have to avoid being that predictable dude lest she get bored and leave.
 

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Also, keep in mind, some of these girls dont have facebook pages or such b/c they HAD one at one point and it caused alot of drama. Or they were getting too caught up in their games, etc on it and so they got rid of it.

I've non-chalantly asked woman if she has a FB, and she'll say "No"....if you ask "Why"...you get a, "I had to get rid of it" "Or I just got tired of it, so i deleted it", etc. They wont go deeper than that, but that tels you all you really need to know.

I've been on fb since 2004, and I've never felt I had to get rid of my page, or got tired of it. I go days without checking it...but I still keep it b/c I use it for a realistic purpose, not for ratchet reasons.
 

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Now who else wanna fukk with Hollywood Court?
Also, keep in mind, some of these girls dont have facebook pages or such b/c they HAD one at one point and it caused alot of drama. Or they were getting too caught up in their games, etc on it and so they got rid of it.

I've non-chalantly asked woman if she has a FB, and she'll say "No"....if you ask "Why"...you get a, "I had to get rid of it" "Or I just got tired of it, so i deleted it", etc. They wont go deeper than that, but that tels you all you really need to know.

I've been on fb since 2004, and I've never felt I had to get rid of my page, or got tired of it. I go days without checking it...but I still keep it b/c I use it for a realistic purpose, not for ratchet reasons.

Aye breh, why you red :wtf:
 

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Aye breh, why you red :wtf:

some clown on here JAmesCarter or something like that negged me over a funny comment I made about Chris Tucker. He must have a TON of rep points b/c I've gotten alot of greens since and it's still red. :to:
 

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It's thread like this that give men a fighting chance. Men have been getting tore up in life by females because so many of them are egotistical and think they know everything, and they think they are men with unprecedented game that 'it can never happen to them.'

This is what is needed... a roundtable of men sharing advice on how to deal with all of the different situations out here... and a lack of knowledge WILL get you tore up when dealing with women.

- Just think of Scarface in jail due to having to pay child support to so many different ladies.
- TO and Antonio Cromartie being tore up with child support payments.
- Chad Ocho Cinco losing his chance to play in Miami due to dealing with Evelyn Lozada.
- Mike Tyson having to spend some of his prime years behind bars because of a false rape charge.
- 2pac getting locked up due to a woman claiming rape.
- Kobe almost getting locked up due to a rape allegation.

I can go on and on. Women actually sit back and discuss things. You actually have a forum of women discussing how to catch 'ballers', aka Baller Alert.com - For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!. Men, before, used to think they just had the game on lock and never had anything to discuss. That's why so many are getting their butts tore up financially and mentally in so many different ways because of arrogance. This thread has been a great thing, and i'm glad we have male leadership with the moderation, because otherwise, a thread like this would have gotten closed or censored on SOHH.
 

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This is quite an enlightening conversation on how women view their 'resource providers'
 

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Do you wanna see another shining example of simpdom?

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Daily Star: Simply The Best 7 Days A Week :: Just Jane :: Girl I love's got three other blokes

THE girl I love is openly sleeping with at least three other lads.

I've told her that I need her to stop playing around now and commit herself to me but she refuses to be pinned down.

Just a few weeks ago I decided to really push the boat out and make her see just how serious I am about us.

I took her off to an amazing country house for a really dirty weekend. We ate delicious food, had treatments in the spa and drank the finest wines. I paid for everything, she didn't have to put her hand in her pocket once.

Our suite was gorgeous and we made love everywhere from the sofa, the bath and especially on the four-poster bed. At one point she was on the brink of a huge orgasm and screamed: "You are so wonderful. I bloody love you!" I couldn't believe it and I was so happy.

I thought: "That's it. I've finally cracked it. She's mine."

But since we've been back she's been as cruel and elusive as ever.

Apparently, she went straight round to see another man on the very night I dropped her back off after our weekend break.

There are also two other lovers, at least, who she is bedding on a regular basis. I just don't get it. Why does she go with them when I love her so much and am willing to give her anything she wants? The other night I fronted her up and I asked her why she plays games with my heart.

She just shrugged and begged me not to be so heavy. My mates all say that she's bad news and I should let her go but I can't. I need her so much. How do I make her fall exclusively for me?


JANE SAYS: I'd start listening to your mates if I were you because they seem to have got this girl's measure.

I understand that it's humiliating and puzzling when your love isn't reciprocated.

You love this woman and you want her to love you back but she isn't interested at all in having an exclusive relationship. No matter how hard you try and whatever you throw at her, she refuses to drop her other men for you.

Do yourself a favour and back off. Stop wasting your energy and your money on someone who isn't interested in loving you back.

The bottom line is that she can see anyone she wants and live her life however she chooses.

But you have to start protecting your heart and feelings. I realise that you're not ready to give up on her yet but just how much more rejection and humiliation can you actually take? Clearly this girl fascinates and intrigues you but she is far from being the only girl in the world.

How about letting her go (which is exactly what she seems to want in the first place) and focusing on finding someone who is willing to be totally committed to you for a change? The reality is that you won't find "the one" while you're obsessed and still mooning over her.
 

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Actually jadillac I disagree I don't have waste book I deactivated 3 months ago and never went back. I don't care about fake acquaintances or checking in on folks.
 
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