Listen, I know this is going to be a painful truth, but in order to absorb these gems this is something you have to accept
YOUR MOTHER IS NO DIFFERENT
We tend to look at our mothers as perfect, and often look for her qualities in the women that we date. We view our mothers from rose-colored glasses.
Little do we know that our mother was once a scandalous hoochie or gold digger. Our mother could have done our father wrong, but since those of us who grew up in single parent homes lived with our mothers, we never heard his story.
We grow up thinking that, my mom is amazing and strong. She raised me on her own. We also grow up thinking that dad is an a-hole or a deadbeat. While growing up and seeing numerous men in and out of our moms lives, we make excuses for her such as: "He wasn't good for her", "she just needs to find a good man", when the truth is that your mother was probably a whore that didn't want to settle down and just like your dad, the other men didn't want no part of her.
Then we vow to protect our mom and make excuses for her no matter how wrong or how foul she is. We overlook her mischievous ways, yet we want to crucify every woman we date for behaving just like our mother used to.
How many of us have the balls to look at our mother and say "you're just like them because you're a woman!"
And god forbid you ever get into a situation where you have kids with a woman, it doesn't work out, and the kids are in her custody, they are for the mostpart going to think that mommy is perfect and that daddy did her wrong, no matter how good of a man, husband, or father you were.
You grow up saying... I'm never going to leave or treat a woman the way my dad did mom. But you say this not knowing the story until it happens to you one day, and say to yourself how easy it was for her to turn the kids against you
Your mom is not your ally. She is one of them. Use her for her knowledge. I know it's sad to think of it like this, but your mom more than likely has been feeding you the fairytale bullshyt. Anybody that grew up with their father (if he wasn't a simp) knows better.