If we wanna keep it 100, most of your black grandfathers were boring, mean, direct, those men were men and the women of their day knew that. Some were funny and showed that side, here and there. Wasn't no every day all the time situation. Men were men. They didn't involve themselves with women duties and desires, etc.
Those women took those black men at face value. Those men did the role of what men of their day and previous days were supposed to do and be. Protector and Provider.
Black grandfathers weren't holding conversations with their wives like that. Most would work, talk for a few and rest up for the next day. Those men were men.
Nowadays women want a dayum comedian, actor, speaker, poet, singer, etc,
Grandfather had a 8th grade education, he didn't come with all that with what the women of today are looking for.
Movies, songs, hall mark cards have us fukked up.