I keep hearing about how he needs to relegate himself to a 'niche'. Why does he need to relegate himself to a certain 'type'? Athletes, musicians and entertainers in general have the whole black spectrum to choose from. Athletes don't have to stick with just athletes. Rappers don't have to stick with female rappers. Entertainers and sportsmen get the pick of the whole black litter, whether it be black teachers, nurses, musicians, etc. In other races, with his credentials, he will have much more success dating. This girl is in the army, and she's 'nexting' black men right and left, but one of the few guys that she gives consideration to is that same rapper dude that is in the other video
She's not obligated to like what he's presenting, but the reality is intellectualism simply isn't valued in much of the community when it comes to dating. If this was an isolated case, it could easily be written off, but she's one of many. We have lots of guys that would have been a positive contribution that are now either in the pen or sleeping eternally because he's trying to play in the streets because that's what's getting them attention from females. Even 2pac is on video talking about he got rejected by a woman because he was 'too nice', and I'm sure that contributed to him diving into 'thug life', which eventually got him killed.
You won't find any song like, 'I want a Carlton Banks', but you will find songs about ruffnecks and 'soldiers'. The fact that there is even the concept of a 'Carlton Banks' is problematic enough. The intellectual, nerdy guy is the source of comedy whereas in other cultures, he will be held as the archetype to aspire to. In Fresh Prince, Will was the 'cool guy', but in real life Will Smith, a guy that largely avoided trouble and was succeeding like crazy was considered a soft cornball.
Saying he was a truck driver would have likely been more attractive than saying nuclear physicist. If he would have come out with a bunch of convict talk and talk about how he bust his guns, he would have this girl wrapped around his finger. Just look at how long she entertained an older dude with a tattooed on beard versus him.
It's creating a huge brain drain in the community where black men with high paying jobs that should be the base of the black economical base are either leaving or are throwing their lives away by trying to portray some street image trying to impress females of their own race who aren't interested in them otherwise. You simply cannot have a strong economical base when the majority of the wealth is deriving from sporadic professions like entertainment, sports or music. The income stream simply isn't stable enough. The problem with the brain drain is that you have this smart, powerful guy who has a stake in the black race because his woman and kids are black, who will take a much stronger role in mentoring and helping out other black kids in the community as opposed to him going to another race, and once he passes, the wife is going to take that money and push it to her own race. Look at what happened with Reginald Lewis, one of the first black billionaires, that married a woman from the Phillipines. She took that money and hooked her own culture up. Meanwhile, economically, we are starting over from scratch with no connections, mentoring or real help generation after generation. Black men that wield tremendous economic and political power end up getting siphoned away and thus they have no real incentive anymore to push their resources to helping black folks out because their offspring may not identify as black and they usually end up marrying out because they don't see hardly any of their own kind around them.
Indians are from a completely different country and yet they are coming here and becoming extremely wealthy. They get in positions at these different companies, especially tech companies, and once one is on, they are putting a lot of their countrymen and women on. They are now dominating tech. Their kids are filling the best schools and they are all over professions now like tech and medicine. They are not letting their daughters bring home or deal with some guy from jail. They push them to date guys with good jobs. With African families that emigrate here, they aren't letting their daughters go after some convict or rapper. If they choose to deal with one, they will have to sneak around and do it.
With that said, I've made my peace that things aren't changing in the community any time soon and the brain drain will continue. There are black intellectuals who have managed to supplement their 'game' with athleticism and swag and end up with a nice black woman, but women of other races are simply plucking away a lot of the type of men that should be the pillar of the community and the struggle of the race will continue.
