Nicole Ari Parker gets push back after admitting she misses the single life

[Ya?]

A lot of things go out the windows once singleness is over. That's a non-starter for me.

If a man wanted to run the streets "because he misses singleness" your position mine change.

That's where I'm at; you're not single, so...

Did you not see this? Posted OCT 2019



Also, "public plea for him to step up" is abusive, in my view, and by definition unhealthy.

Again, we've publically seen him be romantic. When's the last time she did any of the things she demands?

I wouldn’t consider it abusive more so manipulative.

I don’t trust anything celebrities on media platform where they are trying to promote things.

 

[Easy-E]

Marriage is supposed to be a mutual agreement it is not a demand. It is only for those who don’t believe in it.

Another non-starter for these type of discussion is the idea marriage, in 2020, in general is the idealistic equally yoked, equally demanded of, equal eqaul-ness.

You'll respond, of course it's not perfect. And I'll point 71% of divorces being initialed by women and how heavily favored women are in family court or how during a marriage the socially expectation is for the man to serve the good of the relationship and the woman to be entitled to it.

The poster you quoted just basically said that it's okay to make public demands (pleas was the word used, but, typically pleas are demands).

Had Boris did the exact same thing, we'd be having a different discussion.

men don’t like living in a house now? So if Boris was on his own he would live in a apartment indefinitely? As for children it’s a natural consequence of married life, plenty of men want children and want to wife a woman with the ability to bear children and dude is African btw so more than likely he wanted kids.
No respectable man takes pride in being jobless. She doesn’t need to make these demands she just need to find someone that shares the same expectations and values for themselves. Nicole has been a working woman before Boris and stil is. All these things mentioned are things that people strive for in a relationship.

You're deflecting.

My demands aren't demands because you should want what I demands because it's already natural--it's for your own good.

Again, men don't wanna be married for this same reason.

 

[Easy-E]

I wouldn’t consider it abusive more so manipulative.

I don’t trust anything celebrities on media platform where they are trying to promote things.

Manipulation is abuse.

Typically that is understood when men do it.

 

[Ya?]

Manipulation is abuse.

Typically that is understood when men do it.

I have never heard anyone use that strong a word in that context.

 

[Rekkapryde]

her and bird ass ayesha curry cut from the same bird cloth.. dumb ass whores who crave attention...

punk bytch and her lebron-tyga hairline

dumb ass cuck ''i still do it boris''

umm okay punk go suck a diiiiiiiiiickkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

gotdamn fam, this shyt hit a nerve with you breh

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I don't see this as a man/woman thing. It's a people thing. People get complacent when they get in a relationship. Both men AND women. I bet there are things Nicole used to do to please Boris that she doesn't do anymore either.

This. The only part I disagree with her on is putting this stuff in the public. At this point I’m pretty dismissive of anything recorded online.

Also, communication, communication, communication. If someone isn’t fulfilling ur needs, talk to them about it. Plan little stuff. But passive aggressively talking about somebody while they are THERE trying to make them feel bad is counterproductive.

But yeah complacency is an issue in relationships and I don’t know why people start taking each other for granted once they got their partners. Complacency keeps side pieces in business.

 

[Easy-E]

I have never heard anyone use that strong a word in that context.

This is the context I typically see it in. But, again, it's usually when it's men doing it.

 

[Ya?]

Another non-starter for these type of discussion is the idea marriage, in 2020, in general is the idealistic equally yoked, equally demanded of, equal eqaul-ness.

You'll respond, of course it's not perfect. And I'll point 71% of divorces being initialed by women and how heavily favored women are in family court or how during a marriage the socially expectation is for the man to serve the good of the relationship and the woman to be entitled to it.

The poster you quoted just basically said that it's okay to make public demands (pleas was the word used, but, typically pleas are demands).

Had Boris did the exact same thing, we'd be having a different discussion.


You're deflecting.

My demands aren't demands because you should want what I demands because it's already natural--it's for your own good.

Again, men don't wanna be married for this same reason.

A plea isn’t a demand. A demand is given with some air of authority and implies a consequence.
A plea is more so request and implies that you would Ike the person to see your POV, a plea can turn into a demand but isn’t one inherently.
Usually you plead when you want to save a relationship. You demand when you are ready to give an ultimatum and check out of the relationship.
Initiating a divorce tells you nothing about the state of the relationship. It makes sense women initiate divorce form a gender dynamic many men don’t divorce because they fear the court system is not in their favour and also prefer resorting to outside relationships to address their needs. Also men don’t have the same stigma of cheating and prefer the mistress route.
Others like the security and stability of a household may even “love” their wives but are bored of the monotony of married life and want to relive the thrill of fliriring with other women. Point is men don’t necessarily divorce as much because they want to stay married. Many men feel that they have more to lose not because they have some moral high ground on staying married.

 

[Ya?]

This is the context I typically see it in. But, again, it's usually when it's men doing it.

Thanks for sharing. What they are are referring to is deceit... I personally wouldn’t use the word abuse in that context more so manipulation. Verbal Abuse Is berating someone, insulting them, and so on would be what I would consider as abuse.

 

[Axum Ezana]

boris wanted to jump through that screen falconpunch n drop kick that breh.

but to be honest I hate people like that too. they be tryna upstage u for no reason...corny

 

[Easy-E]

Thanks for sharing. What they are are referring to is deceit... I personally wouldn’t use the word abuse in that context more so manipulation. Verbal Abuse Is berating someone, insulting them, and so on would be what I would consider as abuse.

ehh...

And there in lies the problem, IMO.

It's like the difference between a lie and white lie.

At a point we're arguing semantics. But, my issue isn't the plea, it's the "public" part.

We both agree it's manipulation just like giving your child a cookie to get them to come inside--but that's not abusive.

I understand the confusion and I may not be explaining it the best or I need to revisit my position on it.

 

[Ol’Otis]

love is 2 people feeling sorry for each other

 

[GreenGhxst]

Why would Boris lose his shyt over her saying that, the context made it make sense

She probably treats him like a king, he doesn't give a fukk about that

Too many nikkas get caught up in the possibility of their partner cheating

That speaks to insecurity

 

[southern.girl]

A lot of things go out the windows once singleness is over. That's a non-starter for me.

If a man wanted to run the streets "because he misses singleness" your position mine change.

That's where I'm at; you're not single, so...

Did you not see this? Posted OCT 2019



Also, "public plea for him to step up" is abusive, in my view, and by definition unhealthy.

Again, we've publically seen him be romantic. When's the last time she did any of the things she demands?

A lot of things go out of the window when singleness is over? Like what? Husbands and wives should continue to date each other after marriage. Affection doesn’t just stop the moment one says “I do.”

Secondly, who said anyone wanted to “run the streets?” This is nothing but projection.

Thirdly, I watched the video. Boris & Nicole have an ANNUAL tradition of making each other a big breakfast for their birthdays. This is what Boris was doing....keeping up their ANNUAL tradition. Nothing is wrong with that, but that is also not what Nicole addresses in the original video. She said she missed small, intimate things like (1) random sweet texts and (2) kisses out of nowhere. A public birthday breakfast on ONE DAY, out of the entire year, will not satisfy anyone if you are ignoring them during the other 364 days of the year.

I don’t follow this couple so I don’t know what Nicole does. What I saw is her telling him how she felt & him blatantly ignoring her feelings.

I already said that a public announcement wasn’t the best option for this discussion, so I don’t know why that statement was even included.

 

[Easy-E]

A lot of things go out of the window when singleness is over? Like what? Husbands and wives should continue to date each other after marriage. Affection doesn’t just stop the moment one says “I do.”

Single ≠ Affectionate

Dating ≠ Affectionate

Secondly, who said anyone wanted to “run the streets?” This is nothing but projection.

No, merely comparing what men and women typically associate with "single"-ness

Thirdly, I watched the video. Boris & Nicole have an ANNUAL tradition of making each other a big breakfast for their birthdays. This is what Boris was doing....keeping up their ANNUAL tradition. Nothing is wrong with that, but that is also not what Nicole addresses in the original video. She said she missed small, intimate things like (1) random sweet texts and (2) kisses out of nowhere. A public birthday breakfast on ONE DAY, out of the entire year, will not satisfy anyone if you are ignoring them during the other 364 days of the year.

I don’t follow this couple so I don’t know what Nicole does. What I saw is her telling him how she felt & him blatantly ignoring her feelings.

I already said that a public announcement wasn’t the best option for this discussion, so I don’t know why that statement was even included.

Why I believe this passive-aggressive plea is abuse.

Now, Boris ignores her and the public example is considered an aberration. And we have to consider her version of events because Boris has not defended his self.

Again, that was the only point I was trying to make in this and you help me make it.

You are arguing with someone who think marriages are suppose to be so military, stale co-operative. No.

But, the "random sweet texts and kisses out of nowhere" begins with her.

Now, if she's doing that and it's not being reciprocated, then Boris has a problem.

But, typical with the dating scene, men are expected to fulfill and initiate execution women's entitlements--again, the reason I don't believe any principles of dating belong in a marriage.