what she feels inside is impossible to know for sure. You can't say if it's an emotional affair. but the question is, why does she even want to hang out with a dude who she herself admits wants to fukk her?So it seems the consensus is that he's in the wrong and should back off. That's cool but I have a feeling that some of you would feel differently if the ex was ugly or just not overly attractive.
On another note this thread has made me think about a situation in my relationship. My girl has a lame lance that she hangs with every now and then; most times with a group and sometimes alone. We've talked about him and she knows that he'd jump her bones if given the chance and asked if I wanted her to cut him off. I told her that she could hang with her "bro" I'm not tripping. Am I a fool? Has this bytch been emotionally unfaithful this whole time?
My friends wife wants him to stop skyping his ex
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dallastexas
Banned
she needs the friends but he is having an emotional affair..his wife is in the right....
Illuminatos
#OVOXO
She's crippled. Props to him for showing support. 
Blown Moon
All Star
She had him in the friend zone since High School, way before me. I didn't want to be the controlling boyfriend and make her end the friendship. Honestly I don't even have him on the radar as someone who could seduce her, even if I wasn't in the picture. I know they do have an emotional bond that I haven't been tripping on but you guys seem to think its something to nip in the bud.
61 Corpses
The Breh
my problem with that would be that she feels the need to friendzone guys, not the feat that she could cheat. as in, what does that say about her character that she keeps a lapdog around to boost her ego. that is what i would adress. other than that, you don't have to be insecure just because everybody else on this board is.
I wouldn't recommend telling him to have text convos with her. That just seems like it will lead to more trust issues and her wanting to sneak in his phone, check cell phone monthly, etc at anytime to see if in fact he isn't doing anything behind her back
iamstr8fire
Apex Predator
So it seems the consensus is that he's in the wrong and should back off. That's cool but I have a feeling that some of you would feel differently if the ex was ugly or just not overly attractive.
On another note this thread has made me think about a situation in my relationship. My girl has a lame lance that she hangs with every now and then; most times with a group and sometimes alone. We've talked about him and she knows that he'd jump her bones if given the chance and asked if I wanted her to cut him off. I told her that she could hang with her "bro" I'm not tripping. Am I a fool? Has this bytch been emotionally unfaithful this whole time?
My perspective has less to do with who is right/wrong and more to do with the strength of his marriage. There really is no way his interaction with this chick can be positive for his marriage.
In terms of the thing with your girl I wouldn't be comfortable with it. It has less to do with the dude and more to do with her. What kind of a friend does she think this 'lame lance' guy is? My wife has male friends but they aren't the type we even need to discuss.
Blown Moon
All Star
I don't think she views him as a "lapdog", I'm sure she really values his friendship but she knows what it is as far as how he really feels.
I think him just texting from now on would be much better than just cutting her off. His wife monitoring conversations isn't ideal but if he pitches it to her and she rolls with it, I think it would be a decent outcome to a uncomfortable situation.
Blown Moon
All Star
Please expound upon that.
My girl and I talked about lame lance pretty early on in our relationship. I just asked her if she knew dude liked her and she did. That's when she asked if I wanted her to cut him off, her asking me that put my mind to ease even more and I let it ride from there.
Would your wife be comfortable with your female friends?
Would Lame Lance introduce you to his wife for you two to become friends? Or does he have more rights than you?
They hang alone? Do either of them drink? Do you and your wife ever argue?
The elephant in the room is that this girl isn't really his friend. She is an ex, who has no choice but to be his friend because he is married.
He knows this. His wife knows this. And the ex knows this.
So why are we acting like this doesn't have the potential to become a love triangle?
Single people shouldn't depend on married friends of the opposite sex for any type of support (emotionally, financially, etc.)
If he really wants to make this right, then he would introduce her to his wife, and also have his wife become her friend and support her via skype (talking, etc.). It's different when the couple supports the friend. The wife no longer feels left out and can get a better feel of the situation.
Just my 2 cents
He knows this. His wife knows this. And the ex knows this.
So why are we acting like this doesn't have the potential to become a love triangle?
Single people shouldn't depend on married friends of the opposite sex for any type of support (emotionally, financially, etc.)
If he really wants to make this right, then he would introduce her to his wife, and also have his wife become her friend and support her via skype (talking, etc.). It's different when the couple supports the friend. The wife no longer feels left out and can get a better feel of the situation.
Just my 2 cents
that's on you then. you gotta establish rules early. if it really doesn't bother you then whatever. but one thing i'll say. dude isn't the potential threat. She might not cheat on you with him specifically. but she's watching. the fact you're not checking her on this she might feel more confident in testing you on this when it would be someone she's more attracted to. it's not about her lame friend, it's about you and her. And the fukked up thing is that once she tests you with someone else more attractive you won't even be able to say her behaviour is not cool out of principle because you didn't check her when dude wasn't a threat. She will smell your weakness and be even less attracted to you. imagine this convo:
Her: Hey babe, i'm hanging out with James, we've known eachother since forever you ok with this?
You: Naw i'm not cool with that.
Her: why??
You: cause he wants to sleep with you.
Her: But it was ok when i was hanging out with Pookie, what's the difference?
You: it's not the same that's all...
Her: it's exactly the same
You: it's not the same because he's more muscular than Pookie and is more paid than him
Her:
gotta establish rules early and remain consistent IMO...
that's on you then. you gotta establish rules early. if it really doesn't bother you then whatever. but one thing i'll say. dude isn't the potential threat. She might not cheat on you with him specifically. but she's watching. the fact you're not checking her on this she might feel more confident in testing you on this when it would be someone she's more attracted to. it's not about her lame friend, it's about you and her. And the fukked up thing is that once she tests you with someone else more attractive you won't even be able to say her behaviour is not cool out of principle because you didn't check her when dude wasn't a threat. She will smell your weakness and be even less attracted to you. imagine this convo:
Her: Hey babe, i'm hanging out with James, we've known eachother since forever you ok with this?
You: Naw i'm not cool with that.
Her: why??
You: cause he wants to sleep with you.
Her: But it was ok when i was hanging out with Pookie, what's the difference?
You: it's not the same that's all...
Her: it's exactly the same
You: it's not the same because he's more muscular than Pookie and is more paid than him
Her:
gotta establish rules early and remain consistent IMO...
Slippery Slope...
Blown Moon
All Star
Would your wife be comfortable with your female friends?
Would Lame Lance introduce you to his wife for you two to become friends? Or does he have more rights than you?
They hang alone? Do either of them drink? Do you and your wife ever argue?
Yeah, she said she didn't have a problem with any girl I was already friends with.
Lame Lance is super single, I don't even think he gets p*ssy like that.
Yes they hang alone sometimes, yes they both drink,
gf not wife and we argue 1/3 of the time like most couples.