My friends wife wants him to stop skyping his ex

[kevm3]

Man it's only natural from both perspectives. He wants to be the 'good samaritan' and all, but his wife is also concerned with him in steady contact with the ex and the subject of their conversations. If anything, he needs to cut out the skype and keep it textual based and let his wife see those conversations. There's really no reason for married people to be on cam with other people unless maybe it's family or close friends you haven't seen in a second. When men and women get on cam, more times than not it's a pretext for things happening. Clothes falling off and what not.

He needs to keep it real with his wife and tell her, look I'm here to help babygirl because it's the right thing to do. I can also understand you worrying, given that is my ex, so I'm going to make the conversations we're having available for you to read and will also introduce you to her so you can understand that nothing funny is going on.

 

[Blown Moon]

Good friend/ samaritan whatever if she was skyping with her ex he'd probably feel the same way so he needs to consider how she feels. He can still support his ex in her recovery without causing drama in his marriage.

How can he support her if he cuts her off completely?

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Usually i`m against crazy women, but his wife has a point.

They already had an emotional attachment before, and him being there for her in her darkest moments, the girl is gonna fall in love with him again for that shyt.

It's hard to tell the dude to cut the girl off, but if their relationship keeps going this way, it`ll kill his marriage.

If he wants to keep his marriage he needs to find a way to respectfully explain this to the girl on skype and limit their interactions

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

but I just know that deep down most people ain't shyt and I'm always being proved right. /rant

We really aint. Daps to you.

 

[MicIsGod]

Vagina ain't handicap

 

[Blown Moon]

I agree with this. If dude has no bad intentions then why doesn't he include his wife in his support? It will get rid of her suspicions.

I really don't think she wants anything to do with shorty.

Man it's only natural from both perspectives. He wants to be the 'good samaritan' and all, but his wife is also concerned with him in steady contact with the ex and the subject of their conversations. If anything, he needs to cut out the skype and keep it textual based and let his wife see those conversations. There's really no reason for married people to be on cam with other people unless maybe it's family or close friends you haven't seen in a second. When men and women get on cam, more times than not it's a pretext for things happening. Clothes falling off and what not.

He needs to keep it real with his wife and tell her, look I'm here to help babygirl because it's the right thing to do. I can also understand you worrying, given that is my ex, so I'm going to make the conversations we're having available for you to read and will also introduce you to her so you can understand that nothing funny is going on.

Good shyt. If he asks me what I'd do I think I'll tell him this.

 

[Ain't That Something]

Real talk ya friend should have never went back there to begin with. The fact that he did tells me all I needed to know. Ol boy is married what needs does he have to rekindle past freindship with an ex girlfriend.

 

[ComputersPutin]

Man it's only natural from both perspectives. He wants to be the 'good samaritan' and all, but his wife is also concerned with him in steady contact with the ex and the subject of their conversations. If anything, he needs to cut out the skype and keep it textual based and let his wife see those conversations. There's really no reason for married people to be on cam with other people unless maybe it's family or close friends you haven't seen in a second. When men and women get on cam, more times than not it's a pretext for things happening. Clothes falling off and what not.

He needs to keep it real with his wife and tell her, look I'm here to help babygirl because it's the right thing to do. I can also understand you worrying, given that is my ex, so I'm going to make the conversations we're having available for you to read and will also introduce you to her so you can understand that nothing funny is going on.

If your buddy neglecting his wife for this chick then he messed up. Dude wife doesn't know this person because she is just an ex to the wife. But at the end of the day the wife is priority..and at the end of the day..the chick is still an ex and most women don't take kindly to constant interaction with an ex.

 

[Blown Moon]

Real talk ya friend should have never went back there to begin with. The fact that he did tells me all I needed to know. Ol boy is married what needs does he have to rekindle past freindship with an ex girlfriend.

I really think he just felt bad when he heard she was in a house all day most days, feeling betrayed and alone. I would have threw her a line too, if I was in that situation.

 

[Turbulent]

i gotta admit that's a tough one...

first thing i would advise is that whatever he does, he must do it because he thinks it's the best thing and righteous thing, NOT because he's scared of his wife being mad or because he's scared of his ex being hurt.

I see the wife's point and credit to her if she kept it real with her man about her insecurity and feelings in a respectful way. I would just try to let her know how i feel for real, tell her that there's no point in trying to predict the future, she may never walk again, she's a friend in need and that even if she were to heal and fell in love with me, at this point i'd cut her off because then she'd be crossing the respect boundary towards my wife and this would not be tolerated. basically reassure my wife. if doesn't work then....

fukk this is really hard...lol. I had the answer already in my mind bu as i'm typing this my gut is telling me something different than my mind. I don't think there's a right answer here. I feel where the wife is coming from and truly sympathize with her feeling. At first i was gonna say that you gotta cut the ex off and explain the situation to her. I was gonna say you gotta prioritize your wife in this and just explain it to the ex in a way where she doesn't feel like you're letting her down for the same reasons as the other friends. If she's a good person she'd understand but still be devastated.

I guess that's another reason not to get married...

Spoiler

she better never nag me about ANYTHING insignificant after this though...

 

[cleanface coney]

yea if he aint been keepin in touch why do it now

imagine if that was reverse this thread would be ten pages deep

 

[Drew Wonder]

yea if he aint been keepin in touch why do it now

imagine if that was reverse this thread would be ten pages deep

that's all that needs to be said. this wouldn't really be much of a dilemma to most of the people here if the situation was reversed

 

[DaChampIsHere]

yea if he aint been keepin in touch why do it now

imagine if that was reverse this thread would be ten pages deep

That's the worse part about it.

No man in in his right mind would say that it's okay for his wife to be skypin' with her handicapped ex (who is about to start walking again in addition to that).

And honestly @Bravo, you're boy may not realize it, but I'm pretty sure his handicapped friend is growing some very strong feelings for him in this process as well. And that's not fair to her for him to continue the situation and growing her emotional attachment knowing that he has a wife. She's gonna keep getting attached and dependent and it's not gonna end good. Somebody's feelings are gonna get hurt either now or later and the more he goes a long, the harder it's gonna get for him to hurt someone's feelings.

Tell that bytch to join a support group and stop straining his marriage Tell her to join The-Coli

 

[Binary]

FOR ME, emotional cheating is way worse than physical cheating. This would upset me ONLY because the ex is obviously getting emotionally attached and I can't have that

 

[Cat piss martini]

the girl is a damn cripple......
the wife has at least a year and a half to worry
about him banging that rejuvinated miracle cooch out.
how is his wifes stove game and how often does he complain
to you about her?