My friends wife wants him to stop skyping his ex

[Lakers Offseason]

That dude got his priorities all fukked up breh. This shyt is a no-brainer.

 

[Blown Moon]

The elephant in the room is that this girl isn't really his friend. She is an ex, who has no choice but to be his friend because he is married.

He knows this. His wife knows this. And the ex knows this.

So why are we acting like this doesn't have the potential to become a love triangle?

Single people shouldn't depend on married friends of the opposite sex for any type of support (emotionally, financially, etc.)

If he really wants to make this right, then he would introduce her to his wife, and also have his wife become her friend and support her via skype (talking, etc.). It's different when the couple supports the friend. The wife no longer feels left out and can get a better feel of the situation.

Just my 2 cents

I agree, his wife meeting and becoming friends with the ex would be best but I really don't think she wants any parts of that. So I think them doing to texting thing will have to do. If his wife doesn't go for that then I think he'll cut her off.

that's on you then. you gotta establish rules early. if it really doesn't bother you then whatever. but one thing i'll say. dude isn't the potential threat. She might not cheat on you with him specifically. but she's watching. the fact you're not checking her on this she might feel more confident in testing you on this when it would be someone she's more attracted to. it's not about her lame friend, it's about you and her. And the fukked up thing is that once she tests you with someone else more attractive you won't even be able to say her behaviour is not cool out of principle because you didn't check her when dude wasn't a threat. She will smell your weakness and be even less attracted to you. imagine this convo:


Her: Hey babe, i'm hanging out with James, we've known eachother since forever you ok with this?
You: Naw i'm not cool with that.
Her: why??
You: cause he wants to sleep with you.
Her: But it was ok when i was hanging out with Pookie, what's the difference?
You: it's not the same that's all...
Her: it's exactly the same
You: it's not the same because he's more muscular than Pookie and is more paid than him
Her:

gotta establish rules early and remain consistent IMO...

I see where your going but considering my girls past this wouldn't work. I'd have to make her cut off all her friends not just the men. Now that I think about it I can't trip off the emotional connection with LL. hope I don't get played

Anyways thanks for all the feedback I have a grip on the situation now and know how I'm going to handle his questions later today.

 

[DeuceZ]

who's paralyzed from the waist down.

The drama started when the wife found out that ole girl could actually walk again some day and is doing things like moving her toes. QUOTE]

 

[iamstr8fire]

Please expound upon that.

My girl and I talked about lame lance pretty early on in our relationship. I just asked her if she knew dude liked her and she did. That's when she asked if I wanted her to cut him off, her asking me that put my mind to ease even more and I let it ride from there.

She has about 2 dudes that she grew up with on that Brother/Sister tip. I'm talking their parents were friends and they've known each other since infancy. There is another dude she became friends with in college that is real cool. I've met them all and they are cool.

When they hang out its with both us. The same goes for the female friends that I have.

 

[Ashley Banks]

yea if he aint been keepin in touch why do it now

imagine if that was reverse this thread would be ten pages deep

This. They would say she's being disrespectful & needs to be in the bushes. smfh. If the wife isn't ok with it then he should stop talking to her.

 

[electric_fur]

Men tend to not believe in emotional affairs, but they are real and they happen. Just because something is not physical does not mean that it's not really an affair. For his wife's well-being he should end it.

 

[BruhMayne]

His wife knows she can still dome him up....

Plus once ol girl recovers she can always hit em with the "You know this p*ssy tight I aint fukked since the accident"

On another note this thread has made me think about a situation in my relationship. My girl has a lame lance that she hangs with every now and then; most times with a group and sometimes alone. We've talked about him and she knows that he'd jump her bones if given the chance and asked if I wanted her to cut him off. I told her that she could hang with her "bro" I'm not tripping. Am I a fool? Has this bytch been emotionally unfaithful this whole time?

Dude probably cant take your girl but dude probably can fukk your girl on some one time only shyt if he catch her slipping at the perfect time. Depend on what kinda girl you got

 

[BlvdBrawler]

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[Turbulent]

i just peeped the triple-entendre

 

[Arcavian]

He outta line, in sickness and in health is something he committed to with his wife, not the ex

If he cant break it off then its an emotional affair

 

[Blown Moon]

She has about 2 dudes that she grew up with on that Brother/Sister tip. I'm talking their parents were friends and they've known each other since infancy. There is another dude she became friends with in college that is real cool. I've met them all and they are cool.

When they hang out its with both us. The same goes for the female friends that I have.

So you don't trust each other to be alone with the opposite sex?

Men tend to not believe in emotional affairs, but they are real and they happen. Just because something is not physical does not mean that it's not really an affair. For his wife's well-being he should end it.

What's the difference between an emotional affair and a friendship with someone of the opposite sex?

Dude probably cant take your girl but dude probably can fukk your girl on some one time only shyt if he catch her slipping at the perfect time. Depend on what kinda girl you got

I believe I have a loyal girl but anything is possible. I've been close to cheating and I'd be a fool to think she hasn't been in situations that I wouldn't approve of. We make it a point not to crowd each other and that takes trust. I think the same things that stopped me from cheating would stop her.

I only brought my situation up because I'm honestly having a hard time comprehending emotional cheating. It just seems like people are saying if your s/o has a true friend of the opposite sex, they're an emotional cheater.

 

[Seea]

His wife needs to be an adult about the shyt. If she's uncomfortable with the FORM the communication is in, then they need to come to an agreement regarding that. It could be something as simple as that. Her insecurities are her own and she needs to own them.

And if your friend is spending more time Skyping with the ex than tending to his marriage he's fukking up and you need to tell him so.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

This. They would say she's being disrespectful & needs to be in the bushes. smfh. If the wife isn't ok with it then he should stop talking to her.

Maybe you can link me to the overwhelming # of responses here where the men are saying it's ok. From what I'm reading, most of us seem to be in agreement that it's foul behavior.

 

[iamstr8fire]

So you don't trust each other to be alone with the opposite sex?

Quite the opposite. I trust her more than anyone I've ever been in a relationship with. We spend a good amount of our free time together so usually when you're hanging with one of us its a package deal except for obvious outings (girls mani/pedi/ chick outings, dudes getting together to watch games/play ps3, etc).

If I didn't trust her I wouldn't have married her. As a matter of fact once we started going exclusive with dating she changed her number to get rid of dudes that were trying to be 'friends'

 

[electric_fur]

What's the difference between an emotional affair and a friendship with someone of the opposite sex?

If you can't tell the difference between a girl that you want to be with more than you want to be with your wife and a normal friend, then I can't help you there. This is why I said a lot of men don't believe in emotional affairs.