My friends wife wants him to stop skyping his ex

[Turbulent]

as much as dudes on ehre talk about being a chump for females this is an example( nto you personally bro) but im sayin this some soft shyt

if my ex hit me up after all dis time about her being paralyzed i would say sorry for the situation and keep it moving

and there it is. I couldn't put my finger on it but this is why the whole situation feels funny. Why even put yourself in that position in the first place? that's where dude played himself. Now either way he'll pay a price (as he should).

since it's already done and you can't go back in time and change things, the best and righteous thing to do is to tell the ex in a very respectful way that you shouldn't even have started talking to her again. This must also serve as a lesson to not put yourself or your wife in such a position in the first place because it's disrespectful to the relationship and the wife (and ultimately to myself). Also you should definitely reflect on the fact that all parties involved (your ex, you and your wife) got hurt in this because of your unwise choice of re-starting a friendship with an ex.

 

[Blown Moon]

The bad thing out of all this is the ex has probably grown dependent on the support of your friend, since you said everyone else has stopped messing with her. Thats not a good look for anyone involved including the ex herself.

From what I've been told she has two other people outside of family still rolling with her.

That negro instigated this?

Yeah he contacted her first, if that's what you mean.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

That's why I said it was probs the worst advice ever


that idea was born out of my problem in him having to give in to his wives insecurities, in my mind, that's some sucker shyt...


but you're right...his marriage should come first

Yeah, I understand that. But the responses in the thread have me like cause it shows that the main people always complaining about marriage, and finding the right woman don't know how any of that shyt works. Then these will be the same people complaining about divorce laws, alimony, etc. when they clearly did not even know how relationships/marriage is supposed to work in the first place.

You and your spouse are supposed to be something that no one can break. So your wife may be insecure about something, and you may be insecure about some things, but it doesn't make either of you a sucker to protect your marriage.

What makes you a sucker is puttin' on your for someone who can destroy your marriage. I can only imagine dude is seriously skype chattin' on the computer with another woman while his wife is in the same crib. Imagine how played his wife must be feeling.

That whole "She needs someone there for her" is just some ego strokin', simpin' BS. Dudes wanna feel needed.

 

[opulence]

So you'd be cool with your dude coming home smelling of cheap perfume and vagina as long as he don't love them hoes?



He never really complains. He'll tell me issues like her washing clothes and just throwing them on the bed instead of folding them or how he hates his mother in law. Just boring married people shyt for the most part.



I don't think any blame can be placed on her. She's in a very dark place and my friend came out of nowhere to give her support because he felt bad for her. She's just leaning on a friend that's allowing her to do so.

They both have blame they both know what they're doing....dark place or not there are support groups...she's building an emotional relationship with someone she has history with..and she probably doesn't care if she creates trouble in his household...the selfish nature of people...

And do y'all really think once she's better she's gonna be like thanks for the emotional support now have a good life? Smh

I bet if she finds someone else that can give her more support she'll stop contacting him while his silly arse is jeopardizing the peace in his marriage for her...men are silly naive creatures...

 

[Drew Wonder]

I don't think any blame can be placed on her. She's in a very dark place and my friend came out of nowhere to give her support because he felt bad for her. She's just leaning on a friend that's allowing her to do so.

I was giving your friend the slight benefit of the doubt because I thought his ex went to him for support.

but the fact that he initiated everything is

I'm sure a part of him just wanted to help her out of the goodness of her heart, but I don't think those were his only intentions, especially if he's still talking to her.

a get well card, maybe checking in periodically is fine, but anything beyond that is suspicious. mind you, this aint a family member or a platonic friend, this is someone he's had a past relationship with. yeah, the more I think about it, it's disrespectful as hell to his wife

 

[Turbulent]

men are silly naive creatures...

i agree with all your post except this part.

 

[Kalik]

His wife knows she can still dome him up....

 

[BillBanneker]

From what I've been told she has two other people outside of family still rolling with her.



Yeah he contacted her first, if that's what you mean.

Then he's def in the wrong for that, and needs to throw the communication with ex in the bushes.

 

[opulence]

Yeah, I understand that. But the responses in the thread have me like cause it shows that the main people always complaining about marriage, and finding the right woman don't know how any of that shyt works. Then these will be the same people complaining about divorce laws, alimony, etc. when they clearly did not even know how relationships/marriage is supposed to work in the first place.

You and your spouse are supposed to be something that no one can break. So your wife may be insecure about something, and you may be insecure about some things, but it doesn't make either of you a sucker to protect your marriage.

What makes you a sucker is puttin' on your for someone who can destroy your marriage. I can only imagine dude is seriously skype chattin' on the computers with another woman while his wife is in the same crib. Imagine how played his wife must be feeling.

That whole "She needs someone there for her" is just some ego strokin', simpin' BS. Dudes wanna feel needed.

I bet she was uncomfortable from the beginning she was just trying to be polite and considerate...she gave him an inch and he took miles...he should've known his wife better than to push his limits...

Imagine me giggling with my ex on Skype while my husband is in another room talking about but baby he just had an accident and needs my emotional support...my husband would probably push me out the computer chair and I wouldn't blame him...

I bet you if this was a story about the wife and her ex y'all would be screaming tell him to leave his wife...

 

[opulence]

i agree with all your post except this part.

Some men..

 

[Turbulent]

this could be a successful movie.

 

[Drew Wonder]

this could be a successful movie.

Para-Lies

Written and Directed by Tyler Perry

Starring Morris Chestnut as Dexter Warrington

Nicole Ari Parker as Cassandra Warrington

Robin Givens as Teresa Champion, Dexter's crippled ex

Anthony Anderson as Bravo

Special appearance by Tyler Perry in a duel role as Madea and Teresa's Doctor

 

[iamstr8fire]

who's paralyzed from the waist down.

He found out his ex was in a car accident early last year and has been crippled ever since. Around December he got in contact with her to show love and give support, they've been skyping ever since. His wife was cool with it at first but now is accusing him of having an "emotional affair" and wants him to cut her off. The drama started when the wife found out that ole girl could actually walk again some day and is doing things like moving her toes. She thinks if ole girl gets back to normal she's not going to want to be with anyone but my friend and that if he rides this out he'll be back in love with her and leave. Dude is really fukked up about this; he's become a major part of her support system because a lot of people have slowly stopped fukking with her over the past year. He wants to meet up at a bar later today and I'm his advice guy, so I already know he's gonna ask my opinion but right now all I can tell him is I don't know. So I'm coming to the coli to get your thoughts.





I'm just going to veer off for a second. I swear that rich men and beautiful women must have the hardest time finding true friends. This girl is gorgeous; I've seen men jock her and women claim to be cooler with her than they really were. Now most of her main crew ignores her calls and the dudes sweating her have disappeared. If she was a bytch I could understand it but this girl is sweet and she's still getting shytted on by most of the people that were supposed to be her friends. People accuse me of being misanthropic at times but I just know that deep down most people ain't shyt and I'm always being proved right. /rant

Couple of things

1) You shouldn't put Emotional Affair in quotes like that b/c they are real breh. I've seen that ish rip marriages apart.

2) I'm married and in any situation in which I think my wife is going to be uncomfortable I tend to her needs first. Your friend should do the same. It may be tough on the other chick, but she'll just have to deal with it. All he is doing is opening the flood gates for his wife to build a connection with somone else.

 

[Clapsteel O'Neal]

Yeah, I understand that. But the responses in the thread have me like cause it shows that the main people always complaining about marriage, and finding the right woman don't know how any of that shyt works. Then these will be the same people complaining about divorce laws, alimony, etc. when they clearly did not even know how relationships/marriage is supposed to work in the first place.

You and your spouse are supposed to be something that no one can break. So your wife may be insecure about something, and you may be insecure about some things, but it doesn't make either of you a sucker to protect your marriage.

What makes you a sucker is puttin' on your for someone who can destroy your marriage. I can only imagine dude is seriously skype chattin' on the computer with another woman while his wife is in the same crib. Imagine how played his wife must be feeling.

That whole "She needs someone there for her" is just some ego strokin', simpin' BS. Dudes wanna feel needed.

you /thread my dude


t/s...recite this post to your bwoy

 

[Blown Moon]

So it seems the consensus is that he's in the wrong and should back off. That's cool but I have a feeling that some of you would feel differently if the ex was ugly or just not overly attractive.


On another note this thread has made me think about a situation in my relationship. My girl has a lame lance that she hangs with every now and then; most times with a group and sometimes alone. We've talked about him and she knows that he'd jump her bones if given the chance and asked if I wanted her to cut him off. I told her that she could hang with her "bro" I'm not tripping. Am I a fool? Has this bytch been emotionally unfaithful this whole time?