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MenOfTheColi: How Do You Treat Your Casual Sex Partners?
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No I said I thought he wanted a relationship based on his behavior but he never vocalized it b/c he would always wait months before he vocalized how he felt. But even if he did want it and he was moving how am I using him?
Treating a woman well is not simping. Simping is treating a woman too well that has no interest in you. I wish ya'll get off that dumb shyt. The dudes was already getting sex. I would never give the time of day to a dude who had no interest in treating me well.
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The Devil's Advocate
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i treat them all the same... with respectWhen you have casual sex with a girl, how do you treat her? Do you go out with her? Do you talk to her outside of sex? The full girlfriend treatment? Or a friend treatment? Or do you only see/talk to her when you're ready to fck?
This thread was inspired by my post from another thread.
& no all women do not want the gf treatment, so don't go thinking that and get your little feelings hurt and/or ego bruised.
Another question I have is do you treat fck buddies and friends with benefits differently? I personally didn't believe that there was a difference. Some of the ladies on lsa seem to believe so though. You are casual vagina/dck either way is the way that I see it. Basically, they were saying fwb get treated as friends, you talk and go out ect (sounds like you're dating). Fck buddies are like "booty calls" and you only see them when you fck. Doesn't make sense to me. A girl made a thread talking about"we are fwb, but he's treating me like ass and we don't go out and only talk when he wants to fck". & I was like bihh what were you expecting, it's casual sex, that's not your man. lol A lot of the other women were telling her he's wrong and a fck boy , disrespectful. I thought she was the one that was wrong b/c that's what she signed up for when she agreed to have casual sex. They aren't dating.
Anyway, answer my questions please. Thanks!
if we fukking, i can't fukk you and kick you out... or bring you over, fukk you soon as the door opens, then i can't even hold a convo with you... that's not fun for me at all
so yea we can text all day... i really hate talking on the phone but every once in a while i'll pick it up.. we usually going to stay in the crib cause yea i do want to fukk, and drink, and not have to drive.... but i'll take you out somewhere.. we can go eat.. we can go to the movies... we can go to a beach... we can do it all
but why aren't you my girl? cause i don't want to be with only you.. i feel like i'm in my prime now.. not with age... but with my status in life.. and i'm having fun and traveling and going out with the fellas... i don't want to be held to 1 woman forever... not today... maybe 1 day... but not today
but when i get her... she'll see no difference in me... maybe gifts and shyt like that... but i treat a woman i'm fukking after 2am the same way i treat one i'm wining and dining in the day time... which is why i never delete numbers... and have zero bad endings... i can hit any of them up and get back to where i was... most leave cause they see they not going to change my mind on being official.. not cause i'm a dikkhead
I could never do anything like that. I don't understand how anyone could agree to that.
It's stupid to have a casual/open relationship with someone you want to be with.You were a waste of their time. That's their fault though.
SheWantTheD
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A woman can be interested in a man and he can still simp for her. And just because a man isn't doing all these things for a woman doesn't mean he isn't treating her well. Those guys basically had a relationship with out the title with you and all that encompasses a relationship. That's simping.
I was right, you said he was in the military and won't be in the area long so there was no point in y'all being in a relationship. And nah those dudes were HUGE SIMPS. Talking to you on the phone for hours, taking you out to the movies, to eat, cooking for you and CHANGING YOUR TIRE. Doing that for a woman that isn't your mom or significant other is simping. Did you reciprocate all those things?
And you even told on yourself. You said you thought he wanted a relationship at the time, so deep down you knew these dudes wanted to be with you and that's exactly why they were treating you like you were their woman when you weren't. That looks like using someone to me
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SheWantTheD
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A woman can be interested in a man and he can still simp for her. And just because a man isn't doing all these things for a woman doesn't mean he isn't treating her well. Those guys basically had a relationship with out the title with you and all that encompasses a relationship. That's simping.
I was right, you said he was in the military and won't be in the area long so there was no point in y'all being in a relationship. And nah those dudes were HUGE SIMPS. Talking to you on the phone for hours, taking you out to the movies, to eat, cooking for you and CHANGING YOUR TIRE. Doing that for a woman that isn't your mom or significant other is simping. Did you reciprocate all those things?
And you even told on yourself. You said you thought he wanted a relationship at the time, so deep down you knew these dudes wanted to be with you and that's exactly why they were treating you like you were their woman when you weren't. That looks like using someone to me
Yea God forbid someone like more about me than my vagina. I guess I don't deserve that and any man that doesn't treat me like shyt should be shamed for it. Guess he should have left me on the side of the road cause that's how "real" men treat woman. 
The relationships were on their terms and neither (until recently) asked for more. I was happy and they were happy. Why you so bothered by grown people living and loving drama free? Why you trying to shame grown men getting theirs and leaving a young lady with positive lasting memories. I swear ya'll stay in ya feeling about everything.
I've had men simp for me and trust me, changing my tired ain't even top 50.
The Devil's Advocate
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they agree cause it's what they want to do.. you act like i'm lying to them... i tell them straight up i'm not looking to be in a relationship.. i've done my part
now you're going to be fukking someone... most women are fukking SOMEONE... most people are
well i'm good to them... we have fun.. i don't treat them second class or nothing like that.. they never get disrespected... and lets just say i'm good enough in bed (so we don't have to start another argument)..
if they want to sleep with me, then that's on them... if they are enjoying themselves with our time spent... hey they are happy.. if they were miserable, i'm guessing they wouldn't be staying around for it.. and they definitely wouldn't answer any text i send, and be happy to do it again... or hit me up wondering when i'm going to settle down with them
so no... it's not a waste of time... a waste would be an experience where you was hurt most of the time, found out he'd been cheating the whole time, or with some man that made you feel like shyt every time you smashed him off
they wouldn't and i wouldn't say what we had/have is a waste... everyone gained.. everyone was happy
this right here
The relationships were on their terms and neither (until recently) asked for more. I was happy and they were happy. Why you so bothered by grown people living and loving drama free? Why you trying to shame grown men getting theirs and leaving a young lady with positive lasting memories. I swear ya'll stay in ya feeling about everything.
I've had men simp for me and trust me, changing my tired ain't even top 50.
traditional relationships/marriages are going downhill... they have been going down in rates in every class and race since we started keeping track in 1960
people are not just going for.... date me.... marry me.... live happily ever after.... or its a waste or someone is hurt or this ain't right
it's 2016... you better enjoy your time with people and live your life... stop worrying about who is doing what to whom and how that fits in your little box.
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SheWantTheD
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You are just repeating yourself now. So if a man doesn't do extra things he's treating you like shyt? So if whatever y'all are doing has no title, y'all are both having sex but because he's not buying you dinner, taking you to the movies, changing your tires and whatever else he's treating you like shyt? This is basically what you are saying.
The relationships were on their terms and neither (until recently) asked for more. I was happy and they were happy. Why you so bothered by grown people living and loving drama free? Why you trying to shame grown men getting theirs and leaving a young lady with positive lasting memories. I swear ya'll stay in ya feeling about everything.
I've had men simp for me and trust me, changing my tired ain't even top 50.
I don't care what those dudes do, I called them simps didn't complain or whine about how they are affecting my life or what have you.
And you still haven't answered my question, what did you reciprocate?
