MenOfTheColi: How Do You Treat Your Casual Sex Partners?

[SheWantTheD]

The amount of people out here in situationships is truly amazing. They are either just fukking or they are fukking and acting like a couple without the label. But when someone comes along and is willing to give them all of that plus commitment "oh nah I already got someone"

How many women out here talking about they got boyfriends when a man approaches them but they are just in a situationship?

If y'all are cool with that then do you. I don't see the point in acting like I'm in a relationship just to not actually be in one. Someones going to catch feelings and it won't end well.

Well I guess you want your cake and to it eat too eh

 

[SheWantTheD]

When you get into your 30s there are so many unwifeable women around that just need some comfort, some dikk, a raw nut bust between their legs, a courtesy cuddle, someone to eat a brief meal with and buy shyt for.

Just gotta be careful about impregnating and pissing them off because ultimately these women want to destroy you and everything youve built.

I don't want to be in my 30s still chasing women. Hopefully I'm in a stable long-standing committed relationship where we're growing and building together.

 

[SheWantTheD]

no, i never took a female on my roster out, ever.

you don't do girlfriend action with a female you are not committed to.

art barr

These dudes out here cupcaking jumpoffs are playing the game wrong. No wonder women are so entitled these days

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Why do all of you guys keep describing dating situations but are calling it casual sex/fckbuddies/fwb. You are single and dating those women. If you are fcking and spending time with them, going out, spending money YOU ARE DATING. THAT IS WHAT DATING IS. Single and dating. Are y'all slow or what?


Or is it me?

It can't be.

cause the world doesn't need to fit into your definition


i think of dating as in "i'm regularly going out with this person... trying to learn more about them... trying to find out if i want to be with them"


fukking the same chick for 6 months and you go out to watch avengers and eat 2-3 times ain't dating.... being cool with a girl and being able to talk on fb or talk in person, while also fukking her brains out once every 2 weeks ain't dating


if i'm fukking a girl and kicking her out.... she's trash to me... just a hole to fukk really.. and i'm not even associating nor wasting my time with that... you mean before and after we fukk i can't even hold a convo with you and eat a sandwich without hating you?? you're nothing more than a prostitute and my time is money

 

[skeetsinternal]

I've had dozens of sex buddies. Some married, some with boyfriends, some single, some with kids. Some I treated different meaning the chemistry was good so they got different treatment in bed. All of them I never took out. All of them I told the truth which was I just want to use their p*ssy to bust a nut. For instance this one chic I was fukking since she was in high school, how I met her was she wanted to be a stripper and I lured her into doing other things like taking pics, videos etc. She had relationships but the whole time she was still getting fukked by me. When I came over we hugged up at the door, she ask me if I want some water, I would say no or Yes then we head to the room and got right to it. After I'm done she got the wet washrag and wiped me down and I left. Another chic she was married. We either split the cost of motel room or we fukked at her place or mine. She was a squirter so she brought her own plastic sheets when she came over or at her place. We never went out or anything. Sexually we were compatible. After we was done she hit me with the Russell Simmons "thanks for coming out, God bless and good night" and she hopped in her car. I told her from the jump that good dikk was all I offered and she was cool with it. Another chic I don't recall ever setting up anything but she used to live upstairs from me. One day one thing led to another and we fukked. After that I told her she could come down anytime she wanted. She always knew when my girl left and came down afterwards to cuddle, watch TV and fukk... Wait we did goto red lobster one time but it was her treat. It was times I left my door open and she would just come in while I'm in bed, suck me off then rode the dikk till I nut then left with no words exchanged. She was the flat booty red bone I said had the best p*ssy I ever had

Damn I can keep going with these examples

 

[kuts]

Casual sex largely happens in college when people are open to that kind of thing. If you're 25+ casual sex really shouldn't be part of your life imo bc there's nothing holding that together. Additionally, you might have problems later in life bc of how you've been living. Sex in a relationship isn't really casual, so casual sex means that you're not in a relationship, meaning, to answer OPs question, casual partners are treated casually.

 

[ChiefQueen]

I personally would never do it. And, I dont respect women that engage in casual sex. Its just something that I believe is for the desperate/thirsty and women that dont have any respect (for themselves) or have any morals. I mean, how are you going to let some fukkboy use you as his personal cum box with no strings attached? Smh, sex is an act that is an emotional, spiritual and the transferring of energy that people in relationships (ie: dating or marriage) should engage in.

 

[Bless't]

they agree cause it's what they want to do.. you act like i'm lying to them... i tell them straight up i'm not looking to be in a relationship.. i've done my part

now you're going to be fukking someone... most women are fukking SOMEONE... most people are


well i'm good to them... we have fun.. i don't treat them second class or nothing like that.. they never get disrespected... and lets just say i'm good enough in bed (so we don't have to start another argument)..


if they want to sleep with me, then that's on them... if they are enjoying themselves with our time spent... hey they are happy.. if they were miserable, i'm guessing they wouldn't be staying around for it.. and they definitely wouldn't answer any text i send, and be happy to do it again... or hit me up wondering when i'm going to settle down with them



so no... it's not a waste of time... a waste would be an experience where you was hurt most of the time, found out he'd been cheating the whole time, or with some man that made you feel like shyt every time you smashed him off


they wouldn't and i wouldn't say what we had/have is a waste... everyone gained.. everyone was happy



this right here


traditional relationships/marriages are going downhill... they have been going down in rates in every class and race since we started keeping track in 1960


people are not just going for.... date me.... marry me.... live happily ever after.... or its a waste or someone is hurt or this ain't right


it's 2016... you better enjoy your time with people and live your life... stop worrying about who is doing what to whom and how that fits in your little box.

 

[DonRe]

I treat them as friends who only want to fukk and that's it's. They come over or I go to them we fukk maybe order food small talk then we go our separate ways.

They are short lived experiences becuase time and energy and expectations plus interest change. That's why the roster changes every couple of months.

And yes plenty of women just want good dikk and that's it. The mentality has changed slightly it's considered an sexual hobby where emotions have been detached. fukk to get a nut and that's it.

 

[Soundbwoy]

I personally would never do it. And, I dont respect women that engage in casual sex. Its just something that I believe is for the desperate/thirsty and women that dont have any respect (for themselves) or have any morals. I mean, how are you going to let some fukkboy use you as his personal cum box with no strings attached? Smh, sex is an act that is an emotional, spiritual and the transferring of energy that people in relationships (ie: dating or marriage) should engage in.

act like women don't enjoy sex brehettes, unless the guy is disrespectful of course

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Treat them like a friend.

We can hangout, talk, go out, etc.,

Or we can not. Just depends or up to them. Im good either way

 

[Giselle]

it clearly isnt dating
I dont know why dudes feel like u have to be disrespectful just because a situation is casual
there are plenty of situations where u could be dealing with a chick and smashing but know the relationship isnt gonna progress from that point
i wouldnt call it dating if i know i dont plan to be with that person long term

it can lead to dating but its not dating imo

cause the world doesn't need to fit into your definition


i think of dating as in "i'm regularly going out with this person... trying to learn more about them... trying to find out if i want to be with them"


fukking the same chick for 6 months and you go out to watch avengers and eat 2-3 times ain't dating.... being cool with a girl and being able to talk on fb or talk in person, while also fukking her brains out once every 2 weeks ain't dating


if i'm fukking a girl and kicking her out.... she's trash to me... just a hole to fukk really.. and i'm not even associating nor wasting my time with that... you mean before and after we fukk i can't even hold a convo with you and eat a sandwich without hating you?? you're nothing more than a prostitute and my time is money

You guys can not change the definition of date/dating.

date1
dāt/
verb
gerund or present participle: dating

1. 1.
   establish or ascertain the date of (an object or event).
   "they date the paintings to 1460–70"
   synonyms: assign a date to, ascertain the date of, put a date on
   "the sculpture can be dated accurately"
   • mark with a date.
     "sign and date the document"
   • have its origin at a particular time; have existed since.
     "the controversy dates back to 1986"
     synonyms: was made in, was built in, originates in, comes from, belongs to, goes back to
     "the building dates from the sixteenth century"
2. 2.
   indicate or expose as being old-fashioned.
   "disco—that word alone dates me"
   • seem old-fashioned.
     "a movie that will date quickly"
     synonyms: become old-fashioned, become outmoded, become dated, show its age More
     
     
     antonyms: modern
3. 3.
   go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested).

 

[Diyhai]

You guys can not change the definition of date/dating.
3. go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested).

Semantics
she can calling it dating if she wants to
but it is what it is

 

[Cowboyz89]

My system. Its a strong friends with benefits. In a lot of ways its not far off from a relationship. I think its a good compromise and allows me freedom to move about, while not being overly harsh or cold to the woman. They tend to get enough to be happy, and I balance it by not doing some of the "do's list" as frequently as this post might make it seem. Generally after things eventually fall apart, there was enough positive things that I can come back months/years later and hit again. I rarely deal with a woman and then one of us cuts the other one off completely when its over.

Do's
Sex, go out in public, talking on phone, texting during day, helping her with general problems/advice,

Dont's
meeting family, talking about exes, letting her vent to me with no solutions being brought forward, try to look at my phone, asking me about other women, spending valentines, christmas, or thanksgiving together, paying for her when we do go out, pictures on social media

Maybe (depends on girl)
kissing, cuddling after sex, bringing her around my friends

 

[iBrowse]

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