MenOfTheColi: How Do You Treat Your Casual Sex Partners?

[Address_Unknown]

I try my best to not have friends with benefits because the benefits often outweigh the fukking and due to my affectionate nature I get turned into a dresser drawer boyfriend. Some dude she can pull out for functions to do help do shyt around the house or show off to family 'cause I'm a safe pair of pants on the surface and I'm not prone to arguing.

I keep fukk buddies and they all know what we are and what we doing for the most part. We fukking. When I'm in town, I call (provided we haven't kept in touch on a near daily) and if she's single I move in for as long as I'm there and we form a sort of temporary relationship.

Same for when they are here (I've not a girlfriend so I'm always available) Now while we are together I curtail any Tomcat Tendencies and I don't check for other chicks and I expect her to do the same but if she doesn't, I just fall back and do my thing since we aren't in a relationship.

It's a bit cracked but it's worked for a decade near flawlessly. I treat them all the same, spend time, be affectionate. It's pretty much a relationship with me. If they want space, I give it If they want me to move in for the two weeks or so, I do it. It's easier to detach myself from any of these chicks due to the fact that I'm visiting and we weren't close friends to begin with so them being attracted to other dudes or 'cheating' in this case doesn't affect me much at all.

 

[Raava]

No... i'm not purposefully disrespectful to anyone, not even KnucklesRed.
its more of a.... "keep it simple" thing

If i'm like, "come over at 10pm" and she's like "ok"

and its 10:30pm and she hasn't shown up... she doesn't need to give me a long explanation telling me why. I just assume she couldn't make it and I keep it moving.

I dont sit there like "you're late, dont disrespect my time!"

That complicates things


I'm a very simple man

Is anyone else required to explain wasting your time? You continue to mess around with people who waste your time? So because it's sex respect is not required?

Because you don't owe them nothing and if they refuse to have sex with you, dead that shyt. Real nikkas don't play games and are all about grinding their money. Time is money and being brutally honest with a person removes any unnecessary misunderstandings.

 

[Giselle]

It never ends

So, that means you are always single. Or are you always cheating and they are always cheating/single?

It is true for most guys....a lot of cats (not all though) have a issue with giving up the ability to smash out whomever. But women are soft in all the places that you want em to be soft in and when they get the talking right its easy to fall into a pattern. Thats when dude start acting all funny and wanting "space". At the same time, women need to stop being afraid to say "I do/don't want a relationship".

Again all this shyt stems from honesty. Even if you dont know and just like hanging out with someone that needs to be said before the signals get cross and people get flipped.

When you are single and dating you can fck whoever. Why get into a fwb situation and not call it dating, which is what you described it as. It's dating and fcking. That's not your friend if you're fcking. That's more than friends.

Yeah, bruh, but if you're vibing with a pretty young ting, and she cool, would you go out of your way to diss her and come and tell the coli about it for some daps? I assume you liked these chicks on a casual level, I say light up a blunt and chill with her if you she not a thot/ seems like good people

This isn't about going out of your way to diss someone. This is about going out of your way to take a "fwb" out and do other things with them. That is dating. Why don't you guys just call it what it is? Dating.

I don't like talking about my sex life on the internet.

Many people in society don't understand that some people don't like putting that stuff out there. Western society is so oversexed it's absolutely fukking disgusting. Honestly, I don't even watch porn, I don't watch TV, I'm really not into this generation's need to broadcast everything to the whole entire world.

It's like this....it's like I'm supposed to tolerate everybody's fukked up sex/relationship threads posts here...but when I talk about it...I have people annoying me in other threads about who I date/fukk/etc...I have people telling me to stop talking about it...and telling to censor myself and put spoilers and all of that...so I don't talk sex or relationships on this forum. And I don't on twitter or any other social media network. Like fukk that. I've become kind of disgusted by this need to disclose all of this. I don't want to hear about anybody else's sex life. I don't go into relationship threads. I don't want people asking me about it.

It's like this idea of "decency" is lost on people anymore. That's why people like Ayesha Curry get hated on by this sidechick/sidenikka/bae/fukkbuddy/thot era.

That's a mystery and prefer to keep it so.

Well, then you shouldn't have come in this thread. I did see some of your older threads though (if your old name was legendary) and I def understand why you wouldn't lol. But you don't have to come in here and say that.

I wouldnt say either was my friend or what I define as a friend. Lover maybe . Either way it was casual

Yes, I think people should call them other names than friends. You don't fck and date your friends.

Treat them accordingly. No stress or headaches of any kind. I actually enjoy their company more thanks sex to be real with you.

Currently seeing a woman 10+ years older than me. She's nice.

That's dating.

nah we hang out too

That's dating.

Odds are, if you're treating all the girls you sleep with with outright disrespect A) you're fukking only thots who bring that out in you, B) you have a lot of latent resentment towards women in general that's become a part of your personality, which is why you're only attracting thots with low self esteem. Either way, introspect on why that is. I say play it by ear, basic human decency doesn't cost you a dime, it's not that serious, brehs. Just throw on a condom and have zero tolerance for disrespect or drama and no thot will ever be able to murk you.

It's all good, baby baaabay! *biggie voice*

Not wanting to go out/hang out/spend time with (aka date) a casual sex partner is not outright disrespect, but according to a lot of women who claim to be fine with casual sex it is. This isn't about abusive/disrespectful males.

just make one giant "Giselle asks the men of the coli about sex" thread

lol All of my questions are different though. They are about relationships, not about sex all of the time.

I'm curious, only girlfriends deserve mutual respect as a person? Like if you are having casual sex with a woman, y'all are just constantly disrespecting each other? Even if a woman is cool, respectful in general because she has sex with you and not in a relationship with you, you treat them like crap?

No one said that. The girl wanted to hang out/spend time with ( which is also known as dating) the guy. But they agreed to be casual sex partners. You can be respectful to someone without dating them or hanging out with them/spending time with them.

I'm cool with all the women I have sex with

We talk and kick it and whatnot, I don't feel the need to disrespect her or anything like that.

I can't do the whole "don't talk to me or see me unless you trying to fukk". I ain't built like that. I gotta at the very least like you as a person on a basic level to even have sex with you

That's dating then.


















Why do all of you guys keep describing dating situations but are calling it casual sex/fckbuddies/fwb. You are single and dating those women. If you are fcking and spending time with them, going out, spending money YOU ARE DATING. THAT IS WHAT DATING IS. Single and dating. Are y'all slow or what?


Or is it me?

It can't be.

 

[Hey_zeus]

Like a friend.

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

So, that means you are always single. Or are you always cheating and they are always cheating/single?

It means I got that dope dikk

 

[Raava]

No one said that. The girl wanted to hang out/spend time with ( which is also known as dating) the guy. But they agreed to be casual sex partners. You can be respectful to someone without dating them or hanging out with them/spending time with them.

The person I quoted implied it with his post.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

why should the answer to the question be any different? Honestly..

So you sent **** dikk pics?

 

[VFib]

Or is it me?

It can't be.

Every time you use that smiley I picture you flipping your hair as you type.

 

[Jean Jacket]

 

[Gold]

Is anyone else required to explain wasting your time? You continue to mess around with people who waste your time? So because it's sex respect is not required?

Expectations are everything. You've over-complicating this....

 

[Raava]

Expectations are everything. You've over-complicating this....

 

[Giselle]

The person I quoted implied it with his post.

Oh lol that person must be on my ignore list.

Every time you use that smiley I picture you flipping your hair as you type.

lol

I actually tuck it behind my ear most of the time.

Go Away! lol

I'm about to put you on ignore so I don't get your alerts anymore.

 

[全能の神]

Oh lol that person must be on my ignore list.



lol

I actually tuck in behind my ear most of the time.

 

[Shadow King]

Never had casual sex so I don't know. But I imagine I won't be cold.

 

[Quiet Magician]

I keep it real, I don't sugar coat shyt on here.