This is true. I think admitting the truth is too hard. The author of the article got halfway there. She acknowledged systemic racism played a factor in her thought that "marriage is bad for black women" but the solution isn't to succumb to the outcomes of white supremacy. It's to resist by marrying and finding ways to keep that institution strong for all of its benefits
After reading the article in it's entirety, I don't have a problem with it. Normally I wouldn't give this shyt a click but it was hard for me to understand if I disagreed with part or all of it.
The excepts imply she is looking for excuses or trying to point fingers, but she actually puts a good point up:
Black people who have so many things working against them, educated or not, potentially give up some benefits by getting married if there is a large income disparity. This is gap in benefits is increased if there is student loan debt.
She has a lot of student debt and doesn't make a lot of money. She can get more benefits on taxes, loan repayment, and health insurance, etc by not getting married and still living with her partner and raising the kid together. If they marry she gives that up and her husband also becomes liable for her debt. So this protects him and the child from her in a sense.
At least that's how I read it. She's basically the other half of the GMB equation
Oh well.
Marriage worked for my parents
My mother found an ambitious nikka & she submitted
I aint getting married tho.... These bytches from this current generation are nothing like the women that raised me
I aint ever gon marry these hoes
at her comment
she stopped believing in the american dream cause she probably thought that nikka who knocked her up and fed her all those american dreams of living together, having 2 kids, white fence and enjoying life as one, was going to be her american dream.....she was nothing to that nikka except for ass and now she blaming everyone else except for her decision in mates 
But she's currently engaged to the man who impregnated her. She's just hesitant to marry.
If that means I have to forfeit the fairy tale wedding, then so be it. If that means I must bear the brand of “black single mother,” then so be that, too. I give you, America, permission to label me as you see fit. I long stopped believing in American dreams."
That was part of her reasoning, Obamacare access as a single mother and the tax benefits.If they get married, then they don’t qualify for government assistance likely.
She's not attractive and she looks like she doesn't shave
She's probably annoying too, especially if she's writing shytty thinkpieces like this. Of coruse no man wants to marry her
Did you guys not read the piece? She is with the child's father and he wants to get married.
If that means I have to forfeit the fairy tale wedding, then so be it. If that means I must bear the brand of “black single mother,” then so be that, too. I give you, America, permission to label me as you see fit. I long stopped believing in American dreams."
Black people do have odds against them, but you increase those odds by engaging in single-parent child-raising. Also, a marriage is a partnership in nearly all-senses. If she isn't ready to get married, fine...but why have a child and make a child suffer for your errors?
this is your thread and you didn't read the article? 
