"Marriage Isn't for Black Women"

[Memorial Stadium Piru]

This article makes me sad


I want to get married to a lovely young lady one day

 

[Henri Christophe]

That is the baby boomer generation. People 40 and younger aren't doing that at all.

Im just saying breh.... That myth that "broke nikkas" are turning down marriage & 2nd incomes needs to stop....most men NEED to get married to get a second income just to reach their goals & maintain their lifestyle.

If you make 35k a year & you reppin GMB... Youre retarded


GMB is exclusively for young paid nikkas.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

This article makes me sad


I want to get married to a lovely young lady one day

The article is meant to demoralize and brainwash you. That's the agenda at work!

 

[African Peasant]

It's very sad. Black America needs to support the importance of having two parents actively involved in the lives of children for practical socio-economic and cultural reasons. There are many studies which suggest that single parent households leads, more often, to worse results in children. Just having less access to income to detrimental to raising a child in America.

People can admit that they are wrong ir in a dysfunctional situation, so they will rationalize anything.

 

[Patrick Kane]

She's not attractive and she looks like she doesn't shave

She's probably annoying too, especially if she's writing shytty thinkpieces like this. Of coruse no man wants to marry her

 

[ThrobbingHood]

This article makes me sad


I want to get married to a lovely young lady one day

There’s billions of women out there. Don’t lose hope. Expand your horizons, travel. When you see there’s a wealth of different women out there, you’ll never lose hope.

Btw, I’m specifically talking about black women.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

People can admit that they are wrong ir in a dysfunctional situation, so they will rationalize anything.

This is true. I think admitting the truth is too hard. The author of the article got halfway there. She acknowledged systemic racism played a factor in her thought that "marriage is bad for black women" but the solution isn't to succumb to the outcomes of white supremacy. It's to resist by marrying and finding ways to keep that institution strong for all of its benefits

 

[kdub83]

Her argument against marriage made no sense. I would break it down, but why even bother. Also, tired of the "he don't want me b/c he want a White girl" argument. Black Men marry Black Women at something like the high 80s low 90s percent. While lotta brothers looking for good Black women.

 

[paperbag]

Seems to fit thecoli's #gmb stance, have a baby, coparent, but don't get legally married for financial reasons. I don't understand her decisions tho, complain about black men not liking black women, being in jail, and not being educated. Yet her child's father has no criminal record, master's degree and WANTS to marry her Seems like she just wants to commiserate with other black women when she is in a great situation.

If lack of full-time employment and too much student loan debt makes you feel not stable enough for marriage it should also make you realize you're not stable enough for a whole human infant. She's lucky, sounds like she at least picked a stable guy, who may save her from her dumb decisions.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Holy shyt what an article. Just to explain her situation quickly.

1)-She graduated from the New School ( Degree in writing)
2)-Her Degree has been useless for her and she’s low income because of it.
3)-She met a black male with a masters degree (masters in social work)
4)-They just had a daughter
5)-He asked to marry her, she’s hesitant because

A) It would cost them more in finances if they were to marry (she would have to leave Obamacare for a family plan and they can’t afford it)

B) She has high student loan debt and it would damage his credit (Im sensing her credit is very bad as she can’t get a line of credit)

C) Fears that her future marriage will end in divorce because of money issues, so she’s avoiding it.


She’s already labeling herself a single mother (she did it four times in the article)

 

[Memorial Stadium Piru]

There’s billions of women out there. Don’t lose hope. Expand your horizons, travel. When you see there’s a wealth of different women out there, you’ll never lose hope.

Btw, I’m specifically talking about black women.

I meant black women

White women don't understand me & biracial nikkas are corny

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Seems to fit thecoli's #gmb stance, have a baby, coparent, but don't get legally married for financial reasons. I don't understand her decisions tho, complain about black men not liking black women, being in jail, and not being educated. Yet her child's father has no criminal record, master's degree and WANTS to marry her Seems like she just wants to commiserate with other black women when she is in a great situation.

If lack of full-time employment and too much student loan debt makes you feel not stable enough for marriage it should also make you realize you're not stable enough for a whole human infant. She's lucky, sounds like she at least picked a stable guy, who may save her from her dumb decisions.

She'll regret writing this article when she's older, less attractive to cacs and more indebted

 

[stave]

After reading the article in it's entirety, I don't have a problem with it. Normally I wouldn't give this shyt a click but it was hard for me to understand if I disagreed with part or all of it.

The excepts imply she is looking for excuses or trying to point fingers, but she actually puts a good point up:

Black people who have so many things working against them, educated or not, potentially give up some benefits by getting married if there is a large income disparity. This is gap in benefits is increased if there is student loan debt.

She has a lot of student debt and doesn't make a lot of money. She can get more benefits on taxes, loan repayment, and health insurance, etc by not getting married and still living with her partner and raising the kid together. If they marry she gives that up and her husband also becomes liable for her debt. So this protects him and the child from her in a sense.

At least that's how I read it. She's basically the other half of the GMB equation

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Holy shyt what an article. Just to explain her situation quickly.

1)-She graduated from the New School ( Degree in writing)
2)-Her Degree has been useless for her and she’s low income because of it.
3)-She met a black male with a masters degree (masters in social work)
4)-They just had a daughter
5)-He asked to marry her, she’s hesitant because

A) It would cost them more in finances if they were to marry (she would have to leave Obamacare for a family plan and they can’t afford it)

B) She has high student loan debt and it would damage his credit (Im sensing her credit is very bad as she can’t get a line of credit)

C) Fears that her future marriage will end in divorce because of money issues, so she’s avoiding it.


She’s already labeling herself a single mother (she did it four times in the article)

What the author doesn't realize is that, ideally, marriage should be a financial partnership. That's why I advise all brothers and sister not to marry financially impulsive people. Aside from that, the author and her partner need to have a discussion which would plan out how they'd eliminate their debt so they can start building wealth and care for their child. Nonetheless, the author and the partner's big mistake may have been having a child before discussing what their relationship meant to each other and what they ideally wanted.

It seems like they're together out of convenience (the child).

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I meant black women

White women don't understand me & biracial nikkas are corny

I hear you. I can never understand how any black person marry outside their race unless they willingly surpress their blackness to keep their other half happy.