"Marriage Isn't for Black Women"

[Easy-E]

Holy shyt what an article. Just to explain her situation quickly.

1)-She graduated from the New School ( Degree in writing)
2)-Her Degree has been useless for her and she’s low income because of it.
3)-She met a black male with a masters degree (masters in social work)
4)-They just had a daughter
5)-He asked to marry her, she’s hesitant because

A) It would cost them more in finances if they were to marry (she would have to leave Obamacare for a family plan and they can’t afford it)

B) She has high student loan debt and it would damage his credit (Im sensing her credit is very bad as she can’t get a line of credit)

C) Fears that her future marriage will end in divorce because of money issues, so she’s avoiding it.


She’s already labeling herself a single mother (she did it four times in the article)

So, instead of looking at the macro issues (raising college cost, bad job prospect) she goes for the #yaasshon-tee bullshyt that ignorant ppl will agree with

 

[poundedyam]

tell that to somali,nigerian,ethiopian and many other women that do get married.

 

[MMA]

Y'all are missing the whole point of this article. What she really means is she does not want to be with this guy because she feels she deserves better (fairy tales marriage shyt she said). She doesn't fully look up to this brother because of his status even though he is doing more than her. She wants the option that black woman feel tons of white woman get to have, if I don't want to deal with the stresses I've put upon myself, I'll find a man to deal with it for me.

All the signs are there. She wants to avoid marriage with her child father because he isn't going to put on a cape and save her immediately from the stress of bullshyt degree college debt and other things the government is giving her for being a single mother and she feels guilty for taking advantage of government aids but believes it's necessary for her to survive.

I can bet you she started this process a lot later in life after not receiving the kind of man she truly wanted.

This is the perfect example of never be a woman second option, you will not win breh. She'll tell you in various ways without saying a word sometimes, why you aren't "fit" enough to be with her.

This is just a guilt piece because she is not a single mother and knows what her mindset is not right but wants the benefits of being a single mother. Just like how Michelle called herself a single mother..

A lot of our woman from rich to poor have this huge mental issue. They don't know how to identify has black woman in White america, they create this goal post that white Americans create too but don't understand until later in life everybody in this country suffers when it comes to managing finances and resources.

She the I'm educated black woman but now realize some of my decisions are now some of my problems stic

 

[Londilon]

I rather be GUN than leave myself open to a bytch getting half of what i earned just cause she wake up and change her mind.


I seen countless nikkas in the army, im talking about dudes who were in historic battles, multiple tours. Think after all that death and loss, think they were gonna retire and peace with their wives and lose half their retirement just like that.


THEY wanted to leave the households

THEY decided being the nuturers of the family wasn't good enough

THEY decided just being Mrs so and so wasnt good enough if it didn't have MD or DDS attached to it

They are more depressed, psychologically and emotionally dysfunctional

They are financially dysfunctional, none of this was at these numbers in our grandparents marriages
They mad about being pump and dumps and dont realize their packaging is so outputting , no sane man who aint a simp would consider anything more than



They allowed for the courts to treat us like money bags and expect us to remain emotionally open to them



50 percent in divorce, and 70% initiated by the woman. These brawds getting rings, they just choosing to leave




Fukk marriage I say this coming from a 2 parent household too

How many of these women who "woke up one day" and decided to not want to be married was cheated on by their husbands?

 

[TEH]

She’s team #GetMarriedBrehettes

 

[TaxCollector13459]

How many of these women who "woke up one day" and decided to not want to be married was cheated on by their husbands?

See I knew someone was gonna try to blame the man on some silly shyt.


It's men who's prenups are getting thrown out by the courts in favor of the woman. They just threw out a dudes fukking will in favor of a woman.
The number between men and women receiving alimony is extremely disproportionate , same way she has to damn near be a serial killer for us to get custody of our kids.




Who you think started that no fault clause? I'll give you a hint, it wasnt us.

 

[How Sway?]

A lot of bw choose not to settle and spend their early adulthood chasing the most select men (nice job, nice car, swag is on point , height etc) or on the other end of the spectrum choose thugs ass nikkas to procreate with.

Building a strong Family is secondary. The breh needs swag money and good dikk first.

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

Why is it always some think pieces telling black folks how to live their lives?

I'm kinda over this shyt.

 

[Bubba T]

it is impossible to build a strong community without strong families. This is pure dysfunctional nonsense.

You really did a good job summarizing what I was about to post. Kudos.

This article is trash for many reasons, and the author really seems to be short-sighted.

 

[EndDomination]

Another note: I strongly dislike 'thinkpiece' culture. See below:

Why didn’t you bold the sentence directly after that points to Black men being twice as likely to date “out?”
Her article was well-written, the only thing wrong with it was her using her own personal experience; considering she’s with an educated Black man, career-oriented, with no criminal record, whose also the father of her children, her dumb ass should be married, instead of writing thinkpieces.

I always point to the 25+ page pure jigaboo thread on here in TLR, where posters continually argued that they’d rather have a girlfriend or wife that barely finished high school over a well-educated woman.
shyt exemplifies the foolishness a lot of Black men of marrying age believe.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Why didn’t you bold the sentence directly after that points to Black men being twice as likely to date “out?”
Her article was well-written, the only thing wrong with it was her using her own personal experience; considering she’s with an educated Black man, career-oriented, with no criminal record, whose also the father of her children, her dumb ass should be married, instead of writing thinkpieces.

I always point to the 25+ page pure jigaboo thread on here in TLR, where posters continually argued that they’d rather have a girlfriend or wife that barely finished high school over a well-educated woman.
shyt exemplifies the foolishness a lot of Black men of marrying age believe.

Twice as likely to date out... meaning that roughly 80+ per cent of black men who marry black woman

 

[CoryMack]

It's very sad. Black America needs to support the importance of having two parents actively involved in the lives of children for practical socio-economic and cultural reasons. There are many studies which suggest that single parent households leads, more often, to worse results in children. Just having less access to income to detrimental to raising a child in America.

That’s like saying Black America needs to support brushing your teeth and taking a shower before starting your day. We’ve been stressing that Brother, for all the reasons you listed and more. But the system we’re up against is organized and has unlimited resources. A dedicated system.

We still have a long way to go towards just getting some of our people organized enough to even begin to form a system of our own.

 

[EndDomination]

yall see her hairstyle?...that's a typical wench look...it might need to be added to the wench progression scale

Her current partner, and the father of her child, is a Black man

 

[UpAndComing]

Is this day an age

- Its normal for a woman to not care about her weight
-Its normal not to be able to cook
-Its normal not to be submissive


With those qualities, its hard to get married today
If I find a girl who has those positive qualities sure I'll marry her, but its unlikely

 

[Rawtid]

The main reasons people state for avoiding marriages are the main ones I feel people should be getting married for. Two incomes will pay down debt faster and will also build wealth faster, especially when you're married and factor in the tax savings. I know it's easy to speak from a single person's perspective, but one of my first goals in marriage would be to establish ourselves financially. If you can get on the same page about fiances, early in the game, I think that's half the battle.