"Marriage Isn't for Black Women"

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It's in the same article, yes.

:mjshea:

Green covered my eyes when a childhood friend's family banged down my front door and demanded their daughter get out of the house full of blacks. Blue protected my heart when my black peers ostracized my enjoyment of complete, complex sentences. Yellow blocked my ears when whispers floated through the air at my ex-white-American boyfriend's home like haunted ghosts: I can't believe he is dating a black girl. The words passed like a gentle breeze barely creating flutter.‬

Goodbye to my American dream

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Its black men who do the choosing so its impossible to say that statement. If anything it would be marriage is not for black men thats why there are so many people planning a baby instead of planning an marriage, plus on here we have GMB.

It takes two to tango. You reference having a baby outside of wedlock but that's often a consensual choice between two individuals, male and female. Women and men choose which partners they want to date and have sex with.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

:mjshea:

Green covered my eyes when a childhood friend's family banged down my front door and demanded their daughter get out of the house full of blacks. Blue protected my heart when my black peers ostracized my enjoyment of complete, complex sentences. Yellow blocked my ears when whispers floated through the air at my ex-white-American boyfriend's home like haunted ghosts: I can't believe he is dating a black girl. The words passed like a gentle breeze barely creating flutter.‬

Goodbye to my American dream

I think the author is very self-loathing. What black person writes, "Blue protected my heart when my black peers ostracized my enjoyment of complete, complex sentences. Yellow blocked my ears when whispers floated through the air at my ex-white-American boyfriend's home like haunted ghosts: I can't believe he is dating a black girl." in the same paragraph.

I tire of these pieces which wax lyrical about racism but date white people, thus exposing yourself to more racism

 

[Londilon]

It takes two to tango. You reference having a baby outside of wedlock but that's often a consensual choice between two individuals, male and female. Women and men choose which partners they want to date and have sex with.

Ultimately men do the choosing on if a marriage is going to happen or not. Its more backwards to have children before a marriage. A child is more of a commitment than a marriage. Also a lot of brehs who wont get married have no income and are in debt so I'm not sure why they give a shyt about getting married or not. They have no money coming in to the marriage, might as well just get married if you are going to have three kids and you live with your baby momma.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Wait, I thought most men on here are against getting married? Shouldn’t most of you be on the same page as the author?

Keep that same energy.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Ultimately men do the choosing on if a marriage is going to happen or not. Its more backwards to have children before a marriage. A child is more of a commitment than a marriage. Also a lot of brehs who wont get married have no income and are in debt so I'm not sure why they give a shyt about getting married or not. They have no money coming in to the marriage, might as well just get married if you are going to have three kids and you live with your baby momma.

I agree with 80% of what you said. But I think these days, women are doing a lot of the choosing in terms of who they wish to date/have sex with - which often leads to internal questions within the women such as, "Can I marry him?" or "Can I spend the rest of my life with him?". Of course, men initiate the marriage ritual through a proposal, but that stage wouldn't come about unless a female partner was willing to be in a relationship which could lead to a long-term romance.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Wait, I thought most men on here are against getting married? Shouldn’t most of you be on the same page as the author?

Keep that same energy.

I'm OP. I'm not against marriage. Single-parent families are bad for people of African-descent.

 

[Henri Christophe]

a lot of brehs who wont get married have no income and are in debt so I'm not sure why they give a shyt about getting married or not. They have no money

Lies

Broke-average nikkas get married everyday to get more income.

My parents got married cause my pops was a broke cab driving nikka in NYC and he needed someone to help him build. Marriage is for building

You wont ever hear a rich nikka talking about the "benefits of two incomes" unless his bytch is rich LOL


GMB nikkas usually got bread & dont need no bytch for a "second income"... Believe dat

 

[Londilon]

women are doing a lot of the choosing in terms of who they wish to date/have sex with

This isn't true.

 

[EBK String]

it is impossible to build a strong community without strong families. This is pure dysfunctional nonsense.

 

[Londilon]

Lies

Broke-average nikkas get married everyday to get more income.

My parents got married cause my pops was a broke cab driving nikka in NYC and he needed someone to help him build. Marriage is for building

You wont ever hear a rich nikka talking about the "benefits of two incomes" unless his bytch is rich LOL


GMB nikkas usually got bread & dont need no bytch for a "second income"... Believe dat

That is the baby boomer generation. People 40 and younger aren't doing that at all.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

:mjshea:

Green covered my eyes when a childhood friend's family banged down my front door and demanded their daughter get out of the house full of blacks. Blue protected my heart when my black peers ostracized my enjoyment of complete, complex sentences. Yellow blocked my ears when whispers floated through the air at my ex-white-American boyfriend's home like haunted ghosts: I can't believe he is dating a black girl. The words passed like a gentle breeze barely creating flutter.‬

Goodbye to my American dream

That ghost said “******” not black girl

This is somehow black men’s fault. Can’t make it up

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I'm OP. I'm not against marriage. Single-parent families are bad for people of African-descent.

I agree. We’re in the minority. Can’t build a strong family without a strong foundation.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Ultimately men do the choosing on if a marriage is going to happen or not. Its more backwards to have children before a marriage. A child is more of a commitment than a marriage. Also a lot of brehs who wont get married have no income and are in debt so I'm not sure why they give a shyt about getting married or not. They have no money coming in to the marriage, might as well just get married if you are going to have three kids and you live with your baby momma.

If they get married, then they don’t qualify for government assistance likely.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

This isn't true.

But it really takes a bytch nikka to allow a woman to choose them instead of them choosing you. Might as well ask your woman to penetrate you in bed. Looking like a kept hoe, no job, just dikk on tap, who was chose.

We have seen different things in this life I have seen circumstances where men and women both choose and I've spoke to black women who have chosen their long-term relationship partners