Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?

[GreenGhxst]

I'm very goofy and vulnerable and I've pulled every black woman I've wanted since turning 30.

I'd imagine this is a young man's conundrum.

Once you're comfortable in yourself, you'll find that having an approachable nature is far more effective than being all the time.

And when I say goofy I don't mean goofy like this dude...

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I mean more goofy like this dude...

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You pulling all the cute face BBWs huh

 

[NoirDynosaur]

I'm very goofy and vulnerable and I've pulled every black woman I've wanted since turning 30.

I'd imagine this is a young man's conundrum.

Once you're comfortable in yourself, you'll find that having an approachable nature is far more effective than being all the time.

And when I say goofy I don't mean goofy like this dude...

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I mean more goofy like this dude...

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True

Confidence is being assertive without no hesitation.

I got a resting bytch face but I'm known for being a goofball and cracking jokes with women and the homies. If anything, that helped my success because they fukked with my authenticity.

Being a passive nice guy is most likely to hurt a dude's chance

 

[Uachet]

Yes, you can be "goofy and vulnerable" acting and still get sisters to be attracted to you. Even as I sat in a a dialysis center laughing out loud at some goofy stuff on the internet, and looking the way I do, I had women asking me how pretty did I think they were, singing to me, telling me how good I smell, asking me if I was married, etc. For a lot of women it can be more about how you make them feel, than how goofy you are or how vulnerable you seem. Also, sisters can be just as goofy. You both can be goofy together, laughing and everyone wondering why you are but also see you both as relationship goals.

You don't have to mask who you really are to pull Black women, all you have to do is be confident and talk with them. If they are feeling you, you will know it by their body language. So you know to keep pushing forward. If they are not feeling you, you will notice that too by their body language. So then just move on. Sisters are human too, so they come in all sorts of mentalities just like Brothers.

 

[The ADD]

Yes, you can be "goofy and vulnerable" acting and still get sisters to be attracted to you. Even as I sat in a a dialysis center laughing out loud at some goofy stuff on the internet, and looking the way I do, I had women asking me how pretty did I think they were, singing to me, telling me how good I smell, asking me if I was married, etc. For a lot of women it can be more about how you make them feel, than how goofy you are or how vulnerable you seem. Also, sisters can be just as goofy. You both can be goofy together, laughing and everyone wondering why you are but also see you both as relationship goals.

You don't have to mask who you really are to pull Black women, all you have to do is be confident and talk with them. If they are feeling you, you will know it by their body language. So you know to keep pushing forward. If they are not feeling you, you will notice that too by their body language. So then just move on. Sisters are human too, so they come in all sorts of mentalities just like Brothers.

^^^

 

[Carlton Banks]

Bump

 

[Carlton Banks]

Yes, you can be "goofy and vulnerable" acting and still get sisters to be attracted to you. Even as I sat in a a dialysis center laughing out loud at some goofy stuff on the internet, and looking the way I do, I had women asking me how pretty did I think they were, singing to me, telling me how good I smell, asking me if I was married, etc. For a lot of women it can be more about how you make them feel, than how goofy you are or how vulnerable you seem. Also, sisters can be just as goofy. You both can be goofy together, laughing and everyone wondering why you are but also see you both as relationship goals.

You don't have to mask who you really are to pull Black women, all you have to do is be confident and talk with them. If they are feeling you, you will know it by their body language. So you know to keep pushing forward. If they are not feeling you, you will notice that too by their body language. So then just move on. Sisters are human too, so they come in all sorts of mentalities just like Brothers.

 

[LevelUp]

This was a good topic on this

 

[Finesse]

Banger Thread

Rafters worthy fo sho

 

[Uachet]

That has been my experience, and even at the age of 52 (going on 53), with my non-pretty boy features, sisters still send choosing signals from ages 18 - 60. So, I have never had to fake the funk or present myself as anything other than who I am. That includes me being a video game playing, book reading, eclectic music taste having (old school hip hop to rock music) Black man.

That is not to say there are not many sisters with unrealistic preferences, but most of them remove themselves from the dating market by having and voicing them. If searching through the haystack for a good one is too much effort for you, then search another haystack that is more to your liking. I.E. go where you feel you have a greater chance of getting what you want. That is the prerogative we as men have since we are the custodians of relationships.

 

[Iverson_64]

Keep in mind too that White women marry other White men at a 90% rate despite the fact that non-Hispanic Whites are only 60-70% of the population.

Also, 83% of Black men who make 6 figures have Black wives. Meanwhile, only 15% of Black men in the U.S. have White wives.

In other words, something's not adding up to the dudes who agree with OP's premise. Are those 83% of Black men making 6 figures "too cool for school", Pookies and Ray Rays, and thugs? I highly doubt it.

Plus, if getting with a PAWG was that easy for "corny" Black men, there would be far more intermarriage among "good" or rich Black men than there is.

There's actually more middle class or professional Black women that are open to marrying and having kids with "non stereotypical" Black men than White women. Middle-upper class White women generally avoid Black men corny or not or treat us as fads or walking dildos when they do f*ck with us.

Of course, this is a venting thread so I wouldn't expect a lot of rational answers but what I said is true and can be backed up with data. My young 24 year old cousin who literally majored in Computer Science just got married to a Black woman he met at an HBCU. I'm softer than Charmin Ultra and never had issues dating Black women. And there's Becky's and Maria's who only like Black men who are thug or athlete caricatures as opposed to Carlton's and Braxtons.

 

[Tair]

Of course, this is a venting thread so I wouldn't expect a lot of rational answers but what I said is true and can be backed up with data. My young 24 year old cousin who literally majored in Computer Science just got married to a Black woman he met at an HBCU. I'm softer than Charmin Ultra and never had issues dating Black women. And there's Becky's and Maria's who only like Black men who are thug or athlete caricatures as opposed to Carlton's and Braxtons.

But I respect the honesty.

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

I got a resting bytch face

 

[ViShawn]

I'm at the airport and see a borderline goofy black man and thought of this thread

 

[CW_1991]

Nice, this thread again...

Skin color isn't a personality trait. We can be who we want to be and there will always be people of the same race and opposite sex who accept whatever "goofy or vulnerable" aspects to your personality that you might have.

Honestly to think otherwise is basically placing yourself (your image) into a box that the media is responsible for putting you in. All these preconceived notions about blackness and how it is, is inundated on us from the television screen.

The whole statement implies that you have to be some kind of aggressive stoic type to court the respect and interest of black women because they themselves are some kind of extreme.

This day and age all cornball, lame, square, etc means is a man who doesn't fit under the umbrella of the hood nikka archetype.

 

[Ziggiy]

One of the lamest threads ever