Maybe most but in the real world it’s either way.
fair enough but my point is that the whole "date your nerdy counterpart" argument is off-base and a little disingenuous. I mean, pretty much everyone uses it as a strawman right off the bat with the "you just want an instagram model" excuse which has so many pokable holes in it.
First of all the dating game for men and women is completely different. Any black woman, nerdy or not, is going to have men from all races and shapes and sizes trying to court her as long as she isn’t horrifically overweight or sloppy. Most men aren't given that luxury and are gonna try to take what they can get. Don't know where this "instathot" argument came from. People on here make threads about lames flying out chicks and then not getting laid, that pineapple show where dudes embarrass themselves trying to court C-tier ratchet-looking instagram whores, and the countless online dating studies that basically spell out in math and essay form that men are in a constant struggle trying to bag women online.
leading me to my next point - most men will drop whatever bullshyt requirement they have if the first woman that looked good to them walked by. Interest and personality don't matter. Maybe there are a few that would turn down a decent looking black girl for a mid-or-below white one, but I honestly don't know what reality these people live in where nerdy black guys en-masse are turning down cute black women like that. How can you say nerdy black men aren't checking for their counterparts with a straight face when we're constantly shown just how thirsty men can get and the lows they stoop for female affection? It's a nice strawman and a good way to deflect and ignore any real gripes nerdy bm have but it isn't realistic.
I don't even understand the "date your counterpart" argument, either. Why are "nerdy" black men the only ones that have to relegate themselves to a certain 'type'? Athletes, musicians, and the like have the entire black spectrum to choose from. They can get their ilk, they can get nerds, they can get goths, they can get whoever they please. I think this is just a sly way to tell black men to date down. a total copout.
I'm not saying nerdy black women are ugly, I'm saying there are quite a lot of nerdy black women that are overweight or below average in the face and a lot of the ones that aren't are going for white and Asian men or they have the same "type" that other attractive black women have. There's an imbalance. a lot of the nerdy black men getting boxed out of the dating game or being expected to settle aren't completely ugly. a lot are homely sure or don't know how to dress or don't have "swag", but they're expected to like for 2s and 3s when they might be a 4 or a 5.
Now, I agree. If you look like this
You should stick with this
Not all of them look like Ian, though. a lot of guys are just plain or homely and I think there's a very small pool of nerdy black women that look like this
That are into
nerdy black men. Case in point: Tika is married to a white man. an unemployed white man who only recently officially married her
There's also something else that's been bugging me about this whole argument. Homely/nerdy/goofy men from other races can date out of their league. Not all, clearly but enough for this to become a point. Why do black men have to conform? If you ask me, any man that has a good job, a stable life, and is not horrifically fugly or sloppy
does deserve a dime’s attention. They're far better than most of the men these women let seed them up. There's a very attractive black woman right now that had a baby by some guy that growls at her. There was an entire thread about that made in the same month as a thread about a good looking black nurse supporting a bum.
If you ask me, the wrong type of black men are getting rewarded in this community, and the wrong men get mocked and ridiculed for justifiably being upset while also either being left single or having to settle for average below. You won't find any song or tweets from beautiful black women praising Urkel or Carlton Banks, but you will find songs glorifying thugs and Urkel and Steve's names are used as insults. That alone is a huge issue. Urkel may be a bit of a cartoon, but in any other culture Carlton would have been a normal guy.
I know. talking about celebrities like they should be the benchmark is stupid, but I'm tired of that being used as an argument. Threads get made about them all the time. The fact of the matter is there are a lot of famous,
objectively beautiful women in the BC ignoring black businessmen and successful doctors and politicians for rappers and athletes, but have no problem either marrying the equivalent from other races or the rappers and athletes making a mess of the community right now.Not a lot of rappers and athletes are good role-models either. They cheat, they beat, they leave them single mothers, and it doesn't stop with just one woman. Some of these guys have entire harems (Nick Cannon).
Tupac seemed like he had a good head on his shoulders but couldn't get any women until he turned himself into a criminal which ended up getting him killed. We've got a lot of young black men in that time and even in this era aspiring to be like him. Celebrity idolization is a problem. Unfortunately a lot famous beautiful black women in the Americas are either married to the aforementioned black men that built their whole career out of being rappers and athletes, white men (career and lifestyle and looks don't matter to them), or Hispanic men if they're in South America (career and lifestyle and looks don't matter to them).
Look at Meganthestallion, she I've seen her used as part of the "you want an Instagram model argument", but she's a nerd. she basically proves my previous points - that attractive nerdy black women don't have the same problems. that even though she's a nerd she isn't checking for other black nerds, and that she was comfortable laying up with some goofy looking cac. I've seen more famous black women lay up with goofy looking men from other races than I have of them with goofy black men, meanwhile, right off the top of my head, I can name drop like 5 decent looking famous black men with ugly or mid looking black wives.
Now what do you think that tells all the young black men out there? Serena Williams dated nothing but black rappers and athletes but marries a white website developer. Tyra Banks dates black rappers, athletes, the occasional actor, but the cac she married and had a baby by is a photographer. Bria Myles got with some literal who generic looking cac in her prime, but now that she's over 30 and has devalued her body with surgery she's ready to date black men, and they're not like the cac, nope, they're billionaire basketball players. I could go on.
For every 1 young black man that wants to be Neil DeGrasse Tyson or David Satcher there are 9 that want to be Future or Nick Cannon. Guess who's getting the better looking women.
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I'm not saying non-black women are better, because they aren't, but it feels like brehs have to do a lot to get a dime while other races of men can bag dimes of their own race and black women without conforming to some stupid standard. Case in point, hundreds of thousands of think pieces, articles, forum threads, videos, and social media posts about this subject that spans over a decade but not one image of a corny/nerdy/homely black man with an objectively fine black woman The topic gets deflected. Like this thread.
The OP wanted to know why he always saw fine Latinas with goofy ugly looking Hispanic men and the third reply said it was because they weren't shallow like black women. 39 pages and almost 600 replies because of that, and one picture of a certified dime hugged up with an Ian jones Quarty looking dude would have debunked him, but nothing.
A lot of nikkas need help and to become a better version of themselves.
