Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?

[Alvin]

On some real shyt, a lot of black women don’t know how to recognize a good, financially well off black man…or they don’t know how to deal with them. And/or because they’ve messed with street dudes, have wildly unrealistic expectations of them.

I have a friend who cleans up with women…all 6s. He’s an ex-D1 Linebacker, 6’4, making like $400K+ as a doctor…bearded, initimidating looking dude. Doesn’t look or act soft at all. Not an ugly dude (pause) and prob around 10% bf (pause) Hearing dudes dating stories with black women is demotivating as fukk though.

Breh has had 0 luck with black women despite dating them. He’s messing with black 8s but they’re rude & ungrateful as shyt. I’m talking simple things like not saying thank you after he treats them to meals, expecting him to live way beyond his means (dude drives a $100K car and they still want him to get a Rolls Royce & shyt wtf), saying they’re gonna hold out sex for months, generally just being a pain in the ass. He still ends up smashing because he's savvy enough to, but he ends up dating them for a really short period due to these issues when he actually wants to date for marriage at this point.

And these aren’t uneducated women, these are women making $100K+ themselves with grad degrees.

Meanwhile Beckies are beating down dudes door and making hour long drives to come see him. Offering sloppy top for his lunch breaks, everything. shyt is insane.

Me and my boys talked about it and we concluded a lot of these women just legitimately are disconnected from reality. Don’t save. Have no idea what being a provider vs. a consumer is, etc.

Some of that is on black men (their fathers) for not providing examples, but we’re fairly sure it’s also expectations set from dating fast money, illegitimate dudes.

The fact this high net worth guy is actively trying to wife up an attractive black woman & is struggling to do more than have sex with them is a red flag to me. We can act like there’s not an issue but if we’re real, there is.

where do you live at? depending upon where, it can be hard to find like minded black people who don't have a hood mentality

 

[Alvin]

No, I think brehs still lose because not-fat-and-gross white women are just as attracted to the thug-type brehs. Maybe even more because I saw the divorce rates and black-husband-white-wife was absurdly high.

That said, I think the “you just want a Instagram model hoodrat” argument is absurd. I’m kind of corny and I’d take a Tika Sumpter over a Nicki Minaj any day. I think the Tika Sumpter types aren’t into brehs though or at least the dorky ones.

tika is married to a white man lol

 

[Vandelay]

Gary, Indiana?

West Philly

 

[Hoodoo Child]

Yea shyt is getting dark around here. The energy is off

Black Pill Central

 

[Alvin]

I don’t think black men can be just goofy with any woman of any nationality.

you think it's because black men are stereotyped as being hyper masculine and at worst violent/physical and intimidating.

 

[invalid]

I’m kind of corny and I’d take a Tika Sumpter over a Nicki Minaj any day.

It's not being corny. Outside of what the "hood" places value in, which in most cases are abnormal things, most people would perceive Tika to be of higher value than Nicki. Tika would get chose by a true high value breh 90% of the time over Nicki based off her looks and personality alone. You could not go to a business function or an exclusive event with a woman built like Nicki. No one would take you seriously.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Sure it’s been mentioned but those same black women would be with silly, goofy white men.

 

[Sauce and Footwork]

The only thing about the astro psychist is that what if she truly wasn’t interested in him and felt no sexual attraction. She obviously knows that he is going to make a lot of money. And while some chicks might not like nerds… they definitely make exceptions for doctors and scientist who making bread or any high paying job. So if she were to pick him some would have said she a gold digging hoe . One of my cousins has always been one and ended up marrying some weird ass ugly Nigerian dude. But he a surgeon. B4 she married him she gold digged with others and told even told the fam it was about the money. That’s not no militant shot cuz some women do have this issue with only wanting men perceived as hard..Black women too I agree. But I’m talking about her. It’s still a double edge sword when dudes get rejected and forget some women take men of all shapes sizes and personalities, but if they feel no vibe with you they might move on. Men do the same. Do you wanna marry a chick you feel no sexual attraction to. Not me. Does that make you a hoe or a bad person. Marriage needs a lot of different components to fall in place to work out. Otherwise it’s no point of marrying that individual to be bored and unfulfilled

 

[Gloxina]

The only thing about the astro psychist is that what if she truly wasn’t interested in him and felt no sexual attraction. She obviously knows that he is going to make a lot of money. And while some chicks might not like nerds… they definitely make exceptions for doctors and scientist who making bread or any high paying job. So if she were to pick him some would have said she a gold digging hoe . One of my cousins has always been one and ended up marrying some weird ass ugly Nigerian dude. But he a surgeon. B4 she married him she gold digged with others and told even told the fam it was about the money. That’s not no militant shot cuz some women do have this issue with only wanting men perceived as hard..Black women too I agree. But I’m talking about her. It’s still a double edge sword when dudes get rejected and forget some women take men of all shapes sizes and personalities, but if they feel no vibe with you they might move on. Men do the same

That’s the thing too. On one end a woman should just be with a dude because he’s successful. And if she decides not to, she’s an idiot. But if she gets with him despite not being attracted to him and not feeling a connection, she’ll be called a gold digger.

 

[Alvin]

Actually, that is a good point and something that I noticed before.

For whatever reason, a decent number of preppy Black people don’t get together. I’ve made the same observation about some preppy brehs- they stick with non-Black women.

And I hate to say it, but other races notice this stuff too. If you’re a fit, preppy, cute Black girl you really have NO problem attracting men of other races. NONE. And they will approach if they get the sense you are attracted to them.
And preppy Black guys have women of other races in their faces the time.

Someone I work with, her hubby attended an Ivy for undergrad. They are the typical preppy Black couple. She said when she meets her hubby’s colleagues, etc they always say “Oh wow, I thought he had a white wife”. These are WHITE PEOPLE telling her they assumed her Black husband had a white wife.

It’s like we stereotype our each other to the point that we can’t even connect to someone who is our equivalent.

I hate when white people do this, then if I act like an aggressive black person and check you or knock your teeth out like I should for saying that tone deaf shyt, then you would stay far away from me, it's like they are comfortable with you only if that they have some "power" over you.

 

[Vodun]

you think it's because black men are stereotyped as being hyper masculine and at worst violent/physical and intimidating.

O yea women are influence by the culture and environment

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

Sure it’s been mentioned but those same black women would be with silly, goofy white men.

I think this gets glossed over too much. Especially since most of those black women are nerdy ones.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I think this gets glossed over too much. Especially since most of those black women are nerdy ones.

Maybe most but in the real world it’s either way.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

I really hope folks understand what multiple threads, podcasts, etc. like this actually do. Including enforcing stereotypes within black folks, it can make people think that have to act a certain way around blacks. What get's me the most is people actually buy into in the BS.

 

[DTXwavey_02]

Y’all nikkas make dating so hard

Just be yourself and the hoes will flock towards you. I’m goofy asf and females always tell me they love how I can keep conversation going and I’m able to make them laugh. I only date black woken btw