Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?

[13473]

This is a big difference between males and females

This white boy has a good hairline, isn't too short, and has a decent face. But he's awkward AF, and his voice is high-pitched. His female equivalent could still get like $3K a month on Onlyfans, and he's a virgin. shyt is hilarious.

www.thecoli.com

dude should be swimmin in pussi.

 

[Manolo]

Man gtfoh with this. My goodness. I used to lurk back in the day took a break and came back and mfers don’t even talk the same. Yll really been corrupted with that ‘whoa is me’ female energy. That victim shyt is not what we do

“It’s hard to even step out my house as black man …the weight of oppression opens the door and pushes me back in” head ass

That's not what I was saying at all. I actually misinterpreted the thread when I made that reply. My later replies are more in line with what the original question was

 

[Peachstate]

But don't women spend their time actively questioning black men on their choices tho?

I don't know. But if they do...so what? Black women don't own y'all, and we don't run y'all. Or maybe we do, given the way y'all keep falling over yourselves to justify your choices to us. It's not a good look.

 

[Carlton Banks]

I don't know. But if they do...so what? Black women don't own y'all, and we don't run y'all. Or maybe we do, given the way y'all keep falling over yourselves to justify your choices to us. It's not a good look.

"So what?"

That's all you got? Then what's the point?

Y'all clearly want us to care when y'all so loudly boast about these things consistently where y'all have a platform or space. Then when we do, it's "why do y'all care?" ... This is exactly why Brothas don't wanna deal with y'all anymore. Make no Goddamn sense

 

[Peachstate]

So what? That's all you got? Then what's the point? Y'all clearly want us to care when y'all so loudly boast about these things consistently. Then when we do, it's "why do y'all care?" ... This is exactly why Brothas don't wanna deal with y'all anymore. Make no Goddamn sense

What? I don't understand this rant. You asked and I answered. Not sure what you were looking for.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Black men are expected to be hyper masculine then called toxic for being it.

You just gotta do you and rock with who rocks with you. As a man, having peace of mind in your home is priceless. I don't have time to front at my own crib. If you can't be vulnerable around your partner you got the wrong one. It's not a sign of weakness just trust and open communication. If you can't dumb your feelings at home you gonna end up needing therapy at some point in life.

 

[Cadillac]

No I have to disagree. Y'all watch too much TV.

and your delusional

 

[Child_Of_God]

Honestly I never understood this “all Black women like thugs” debate. I‘ve known plenty of Black women who are engaged to normal brehs (including the nerdy and goofy ones) with good jobs. It’s the same shyt with everyone claiming that women want dudes 6 ft tall even though I see short and average height dudes with women all the time.

 

[Jazzy B.]

Black women don't own y'all, and we don't run y'all.

Stop the cap.

Black Women definitely feel like they own black men (I'm not saying this is wrong or a bad thing btw).

That's why you can have a wenching black woman who has a whole white husband get upset when she see's a black men with a non black spouse.

 

[Ahadi]

"So what?"

That's all you got? Then what's the point?

Y'all clearly want us to care when y'all so loudly boast about these things consistently where y'all have a platform or space. Then when we do, it's "why do y'all care?" ... This is exactly why Brothas don't wanna deal with y'all anymore. Make no Goddamn sense

We are only worth sexual currency, strength and follow their lead as mules to them.

 

[Peachstate]

Stop the cap.

Black Women definitely feel like they own black men (I'm not saying this is wrong or a bad thing btw).

That's why you can have a wenching black woman who has a whole white husband get upset when she see's a black men with a non black spouse.

I agree 100% that many bw THINK they own bm/treat bm collectively like their sons*. Doesn't make it true, though, right? But by constantly justifying yourselves, y'all play right into that and it's not a good look.

*I would argue that it's a very bad thing but that's a different conversation.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

man the responses from BM are a complete 180 from what's on LSA when the question is reversed lol....ask BW the same thing and they start calling BM "conquered", colorist, defeated and everything else and dap each other up...ask BM that question about BW and they put the onus on the problem being with men themselves...you'd never see that in a 1000 years from a group of BW....they'de adopt Neo-Nazi talking points before they'd point the finger at themselves...

but it's honestly even remotely hard to have this conversation....BW imo disproportionately have a completely different warped opinion about how to define "masculinity"...and it's so much more glaringly different from women of other races define it...alot of them prefer "thugs" and "thug-wanna be" like behaviors...we can deny it, but it without a doubt contributes to some brehs feeling rejected...and it doesn't surprise me when those same men end up with women of other races

I was actually thinking about this. I wanted to make my own comment but I saw yours

 

[Alvin]

If you want a Black baddie, and you a square nikka you got a lifetime ahead of you, of banging your head against a brick wall and frustration.

All the baddies just gonna say they didn’t catch a “vibe” with you after you already break bread on dates.

Square nikkas gotta eat with the 4’s and below if you deadset on a Black woman.

You a square nikka and want to shoot at that 7-8 and above range—date out.

It is what it is

lol I agree with this, that being said you don't have to be a "2pac in a business suit" it's really how you come off and your vibe. From the two in the OP I would need to see how they act and their negritude.

Put it like this I'm sure MLK or Malcolm X could pull a Angela bassett/michelle obama caliber woman, not sure how they would fare with a Yung Miami or Rubi Rose.

 

[Alvin]

Maybe when you're a teenager, early 20s...25 and older black women by and large ain't on that, you need to fit a persona shyt. The thug shyt dies off after a certain age. They still do want the 6's, but as long as you aren't a total social pariah, you'll be fine with the average black woman. These brothas just chose white. And ain't nothing wrong with that if it's sincere.

I'm a goofy-ass nikka myself, but I started to eat with women by 25, because they stopped caring about that thug shyt. And I'm from one of the most hood hoods in the country lol...

Gary, Indiana?

 

[Will Ross]

Honestly I never understood this “all Black women like thugs” debate. I‘ve known plenty of Black women who are engaged to normal brehs (including the nerdy and goofy ones) with good jobs. It’s the same shyt with everyone claiming that women want dudes 6 ft tall even though I see short and average height dudes with women all the time.

Yeah right black women all might not like thugs. But they definitely ain’t fukking with no goofy brother.