Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?

[old_timer]

You can be corny, and you can be a criminal
But you can't be a criminal cornball (facts)


Just look at Theo from die hard
oKay he was good with the computers
Hacking the vaults of the nakatomi tower
But that "ooooh, the quarterback is toast!" shyt was corny as hell

Then at the end he got punched out by argyle
The damned limo driver of all people

Breh looked like he was destined to lay up with some manila ladyboys

Couldn't be me

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

My word, that thread!

I said I wasn't gonna click on it and i did.... my lawd... what a ride....

 

[Paradoxx]

You're not the first person to come on here and pretend that black women are the problem and all you gotta do is date out.

Chris b - pawg chasing cuckold, dikk rating, white twitter acct story (update Chris B request ban)

chris b - what we know: he likes pawgs. he's from the DC/DMV area. he's into IT specifically cisco networking. he used to be known as jab343irk IT History you remember jab343irk he changed skin tone back in those days he posted this pic from his own photobucket account - natturner343...

www.thecoli.com

Chris.B was doing the same thing you were doing for years. Black women ain't shyt, get a pawg, etc.

Come to find out he's a degenerate that's having sex with fat white women in front of their husbands and is online rating men's meat

I'm just waiting on you to eventually slip up and post your real social media info so the fun can begin

Could have just kept fukking fat white women and leave his weirdo hate obsession with black women out of this. Disgusting

 

[O.Red]

Good post and points! What is an example of something you did to show a woman you are capable of violence?

I did violent shyt. Not for the woman and I don't like violence but if the situation requires it

That one is tricky because again I don't encourage nikkas to be crash dummies and there are women that get off on getting their nikkas into constant confrontations. Those women you avoid like the plague

My earlier point about having hobbies/skills comes into play tho. Do you have hands? Can you teach her anything? Do you shoot? One of the most underrated dates is the gun range. Women LOVE that shyt

That aside I can't just give a cookie cutter example. But if you are in a situation where she don't think you can protect her or you didn't even try it's a wrap in her mind

 

[Gloxina]

I see different variations of this argument/statement a lot, not every guy prefers those hoodrat esque Instagram models though. I’d say Tara Davis is a 10/10 for me. She’s my exact type, athletic, pretty, slim, preppy. I’d take her over Nicki Minaj any day. Guess who’s she’s with though? A white guy. I go on Instagram and every black woman that has that athletic and preppy/valley aesthetic is with a white guy.

I’m not using that as an excuse to date out though. This has just been bothering me all thread and I felt like it needed to be said.

Actually, that is a good point and something that I noticed before.

For whatever reason, a decent number of preppy Black people don’t get together. I’ve made the same observation about some preppy brehs- they stick with non-Black women.

And I hate to say it, but other races notice this stuff too. If you’re a fit, preppy, cute Black girl you really have NO problem attracting men of other races. NONE. And they will approach if they get the sense you are attracted to them.
And preppy Black guys have women of other races in their faces the time.

Someone I work with, her hubby attended an Ivy for undergrad. They are the typical preppy Black couple. She said when she meets her hubby’s colleagues, etc they always say “Oh wow, I thought he had a white wife”. These are WHITE PEOPLE telling her they assumed her Black husband had a white wife.

It’s like we stereotype our each other to the point that we can’t even connect to someone who is our equivalent.

 

[Ozymandeas]

@mamba

The Black community cannot go on with the superficial requirements such as "swag" and money for suitable relationships as a foundation. Not a single marriage that lasted in the modern day black scene is based on swag, clout, etc.

If black women require all black men to be Chris Brown, Tupac, or some entertainer or some extra BS, then the black race is doomed.

Luckily, there are "pick me" black women that speak out against this dysfunctional dynamic. Even the thorough brehs that smash the top notch black women and have kids with them, are dealing with child support issues and broken down family structures.

Of course. That's what's behind all of these comments. Nikkas don't want other black men walking away It's kinda Un-Harlem to be honest. The more nikkas that check out as competition in the black dating world should mean more black women for them. So.....they should be happy. But the reality is they know deep down that if too many of us start dropping out, that spells trouble for the whole community. They can't criticize the women though because that wouldn't be pro-black so they gotta gaslight the men. Also, to show how confused these nikkas are....they calling everybody in here lame but, also revered Kevin Samuels as the next prophet of Muhammad when the nikka said the same thing.

 

[FromStLouis]

You don't wanna be like me brehs. Mass appeal, having every girl want you, is not what it's cracked up to be. It just leads to paralysis by analysis. When you can have any woman you want, you damn sure don't want to pick the wrong one.

Average brehs Coli brehs, don't think of yourselves as having "limited appeal", think of yourselves as "select choice". There's a specific woman that wants you and you can be sure when you've found her.

The alternative is having to smile through your tenth "I can't believe you're not married." at the family reunion.

"Ahh you know me Auntie, I'm just out here having fun."

 

[Mr Clean]

I don't know why its so hard for people to grasp that the kind of women you want will be found at the kinds of locations where you congregate around something you like.

If you like to get silly, you go to an improv night and you'll find black women there laughing along at the same things.

If you like to get philosophical, you'll find the black women who will do that with you at TED talks and other speaking events.

If you like astronomy, and want to kick it with women who will throw out theories about sci fi and faster than light travel, you'll see them at planetariums and sci fi conventions.

Black women aren't a monolith. So many of you so called 'brehs' seem to think that most black women are like the ones you see on social media chasing clout. Free your mind.

A lot of this can be explained by either dudes are boring or they engage with their hobbies alone and don't involve other people

 

[Wild self]

Of course. That's what's behind all of these comments. Nikkas don't want other black men walking away It's kinda Un-Harlem to be honest. The more nikkas that check out as competition in the black dating world should mean more black women for them. So.....they should be happy. But the reality is they know deep down that if too many of us start dropping out, that spells trouble for the whole community. They can't criticize the women though because that wouldn't be pro-black so they gotta gaslight the men. Also, to show how confused these nikkas are....they calling everybody in here lame but, also revered Kevin Samuels as the next prophet of Muhammad when the nikka said the same thing.

Its like the past 35 years with the "real nikka" mentality from the NWA era having a vice grip on the black youth, it just broke down every aspect of black life. Its disheartening to see black men have to be athletic entertainers with street edge and social clout just to be dating material or conversation starters on those weekend brunches with bottomless mimosas to a lot of black women.

Its like if black folks step away from the stereotypes, we risk getting pushed out of the pinnacle of black dating and the black social life altogether.

 

[Uno Venova]

So you're a cornball?

 

[O.Red]

Actually, that is a good point and something that I noticed before.

For whatever reason, a decent number of preppy Black people don’t get together. I’ve made the same observation about some preppy brehs- they stick with non-Black women.

And I hate to say it, but other races notice this stuff too. If you’re a fit, preppy, cute Black girl you really have NO problem attracting men of other races. NONE. And they will approach if they get the sense you are attracted to them.
And preppy Black guys have women of other races in their faces the time.

Someone I work with, her hubby attended an Ivy for undergrad. They are the typical preppy Black couple. She said when she meets her hubby’s colleagues, etc they always say “Oh wow, I thought he had a white wife”. These are WHITE PEOPLE telling her they assumed her Black husband had a white wife.

It’s like we stereotype our each other to the point that we can’t even connect to someone who is our equivalent.

Most preppy black people have spent their lives running away from blackness, or weren't raised to have any in the first place

This is the side effect of black people moving to the suburbs and raising their kid around white people, but that's another thread

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

A lot of this can be explained by either dudes are boring or they engage with their hobbies alone and don't involve other people

I think although they act tough online a LOT of dudes here and on social media aren't outside like that. They're terminally online.

 

[BobbyWojak]

But the reality is they know deep down that if too many of us start dropping out, that spells trouble for the whole community. They can't criticize the women though because that wouldn't be pro-black so they gotta gaslight the men. Also, to show how confused these nikkas are....they calling everybody in here lame but, also revered Kevin Samuels as the next prophet of Muhammad when the nikka said the same thing.

 

[Gloxina]

Hi

Its like the past 35 years with the "real nikka" mentality from the NWA era having a vice grip on the black youth, it just broke down every aspect of black life. Its disheartening to see black men have to be athletic entertainers with street edge and social clout just to be dating material or conversation starters on those weekend brunches with bottomless mimosas to a lot of black women.

Its like if black folks step away from the stereotypes, we risk getting pushed out of the pinnacle of black dating and the black social life altogether.

Hiphop culture has been a stain on the Black community

That shyt permeates through every level of Black life when you’re young, and if you don’t have the right people around you, you may be taking all of your cues from the media as you age.

I applaud the parents who are strict and keep their kids away from mainstream Black culture. It's sad to say, but entertainment really does lead our community.

The (real) preachers and community organizers are supposed to lead (after your own parents/family, of course).

 

[Afrodroid]

The mental gymnastics these negros go through to justify dating outside their race...


Buck in peace, no need to throw black women in the trenches