This is an interesting thread. I grew up in the south in predominantly black schools through middle school, then moved up north and went to nearly all-white schools, then went to some very fancy shyt for college. I noticed in elementary/middle school I was more or less invisible to black girls until I had major conflict with a substitute teacher and almost got suspended for running my mouth (justifiably). I was never a thug, but it was like they responded to my devil-may-care attitude, even though I was the top student in the class. Years later, one of the cut-ups in the class (who had a legendary incident running off the bus onto the highway when we were being dropped off) who witnessed me going off defended me even though I'd never spoken to her in years.
Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?
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Because we’d rather you do that corny vulnerable love shyt with ww.
Maybe you should date out though.
@the bolded, most brehettes on this site want y’all to date out for obvious reasons, but we feel some type of way when negative stereotypes about us are used to justify it. naturally you feel the need to want to defend/speak up. The same reason y’all get annoyed when y’all see tweets or tik toks from Bw negatively generalizing brehs while upping WM in comparison.
But you’re right, from now on I won’t post in these threads.
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richaveli83
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Brothers need to do some self reflection. It's not always about women, sometimes it can be you. You don't have to be over 6 feet with a six pack but don't be overweight either. You don't have to have a wardrobe filled with super expensive clothes but at the same time not dress in comic book graphic tees everytime you step out the house. You can like comic books/MCU, anime, etc but also have other interests besides geek/nerd stuff. Just be a well rounded person.
Black women outnumber black men in this country. If you got your stuff together and not a complete weirdo, there's a sister out there for you.
If you find a white, Asian, or hispanic woman who is feeling you, then date her and keep it moving.
Constantly complaining about women makes you look weak and no woman regardless of race wants a man constantly whining.
Black women outnumber black men in this country. If you got your stuff together and not a complete weirdo, there's a sister out there for you.
If you find a white, Asian, or hispanic woman who is feeling you, then date her and keep it moving. Constantly complaining about women makes you look weak and no woman regardless of race wants a man constantly whining.
NaijaProdigy Redux
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I don’t know a single black man with his shyt together that is lacking in high quality options.
I really don’t understand how you all think it’s that bad out there unless you have nothing going for you.
Dating in NYC whether you want top shelf black women or other races is easy as fukk.
I really don’t understand how you all think it’s that bad out there unless you have nothing going for you.
Dating in NYC whether you want top shelf black women or other races is easy as fukk.
the bossman
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Some nerves were touched19 pages HELLA quick goddamn
FukyourFort
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why you and others trying to deny a nikka the space to get shyt off? why deny experiences that you arent having? yall get off on telling nikkas how to deal with insecurities and issues. makes no sense to be on some negative shyt.Brothers need to do some self reflection. It's not always about women, sometimes it can be you. You don't have to be over 6 feet with a six pack but don't be overweight either. You don't have to have a wardrobe filled with super expensive clothes but at the same time not dress in comic book graphic tees everytime you step out the house. You can like comic books/MCU, anime, etc but also have other interests besides geek/nerd stuff. Just be a well rounded person.
Black women outnumber black men in this country. If you got your stuff together and not a complete weirdo, there's a sister out there for you.
Constantly complaining about women makes you look weak and no woman regardless of race wants a man constantly whining.
just seems like yall stay on some showboat high school cafeteria time instead of having real conversations.
saying just date out is one of the laziest arguments to dismiss someone and honestly feminine. I expect that from the brehettes on here but the nikkas
I hope yall fukking off of this message board bravado
You're the exception not the rule
BobbyWojak
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'Yall'?
I'm not stressing over what some hurt, naive girl posted on Twitter and tiktok and I didn't insult you so idk what that 'maybe you should' comment is about.
No hate over here have a nice day
Obviously you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea, but black women aren't a monolith either. Like women of other races, I'm sure most of them just want a dude who is comfortable being respectful, responsible, and responsive. I think some dudes in here are overestimating their personalities because "goofy" to them, is probably cringe or offensive to the majority of other folks out there. A black woman wouldn't want you, not because you're goofy and vulnerable, but because you're aloof and give off weird energy, and you just don't know that
If a Black woman has ever said the word “periodt” she’s a city girl fan whether she realizes it or not.
That bird culture is everywhere and everyone in this thread is like
Cuz they don’t wanna be called a cac00n
This the funniest thread in like 3 days for all the wrong reasons
Animal House
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You mean be yourself?
The violence part will land you in jail or homelessness in the 21st century American way of life. I agree with the aggression and assertiveness.
Dance_Like_A_Fiend
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I see different variations of this argument/statement a lot, not every guy prefers those hoodrat esque Instagram models though. I’d say Tara Davis is a 10/10 for me. She’s my exact type, athletic, pretty, slim, preppy. I’d take her over Nicki Minaj any day. Guess who’s she’s with though? A white guy. I go on Instagram and every black woman that has that athletic and preppy/valley aesthetic is with a white guy.The bolded is literally the answer.
You can absolutely be "corny" assuming you mean like Carlton from Fresh prince and still get a attractive black woman but you usually have to be attractive yourself or as you said successful in some form.
And even then you need to have a personality that people want to be around, being mad/miserable all the time is a major turn off to any kind of girl and having no confidence as some of the posters in this topic exude can be a major turn off aswell, even if you are attractive and/or well-off.
As other posters have mentioned, this topic shows the posters who are broke/ugly/weird/creepy just by reading the responses and you can tell that they are still holding on to unresolved issues that need to be dealt with via therapy.
The ones who say that "all black women want thugs" probably want this type of girl:
Those types usually want guys similar to this:
And there's nothing wrong with that.
But don't expect to get those kind of girls if you look like this lmao:
in which case yes you are more than likely not gonna attract hood girls unless you are very attractive and/or don't mind being a trick lol
But if you have a similar style to this then you can get either type as long as you are attractive and have some type of personality:
, non-hood but still fashionable.
Yes there are outliers but you can still find plenty of black women who do not look like the 2 examples above that do not "only go for thugs" though y'all are probably overlooking them for obvious hood girls.
If you look like the nerd example or have a style similar to the 2nd guy you should try going for girls with a similar aesthetic to this:
These are based off relationships I have seen in person and people that I personally know btw, yes there are still non-hood girls who like hood guys but that's not all black women, I personally am not attracted to that type though I can admit that I used to when I was in HS but quickly grew out of it once I realized that they are not fit for long-term relationships or building with.
I’m not using that as an excuse to date out though. This has just been bothering me all thread and I felt like it needed to be said.
richaveli83
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Breh I'm speaking from experience. I used to be on that black women only want thugs, I can't get women because I'm a nerd, etc. I had to look in the mirror and realize I was the reason I had problems with women. I'm not saying I'm drowning in p*ssy because I'm not but brothers need to put in the work when it comes to getting women.why you and others trying to deny a nikka the space to get shyt off? why deny experiences that you arent having? yall get off on telling nikkas how to deal with insecurities and issues. makes no sense to be on some negative shyt.
just seems like yall stay on some showboat high school cafeteria time instead of having real conversations.
saying just date out is one of the laziest arguments to dismiss someone and honestly feminine. I expect that from the brehettes on here but the nikkas
I hope yall fukking off of this message board bravado
I expect hearing this shyt from brothers in their early 20s but brothers in their late 20s and above?!
I'm all for black men getting with black women and vice versa but all this putting non black women on a pedestal is weird AF. That goes for some black women putting non black men on a pedestal.