Epps loved Patsy. I'm not comparing homosexuality to being black but, its kinda like a movie where a downlow man has sex with a guy then beats that guy up afterward for insinuating that he's a homosexual. The man knows he likes men but, he's still bigoted toward gays. Being gay goes against everything he is. That's Epps. He's a racist slave owner and to him blacks are little more than cattle yet, he has an unhealthy obsession for one of those slaves. Even to the point that he told his own wife she could
if she made him choose between her and Patsy. Complete cognitive dissonance.
His love was obsessive, wrong and impure because he viewed Patsy as property.
But nonetheless, he "loved" her. If it was just about Epps the slavemaster lusting for black slave coochie, he would have been that obsessive and controlling with all of the black slave women. He only had that problem with Pasty, god bless her poor soul.