I've decided I'm not signing the birth certificate. What now? (I gave up...)

[Fiji Water]

My boy didn't sign the birth certificate either. Then his baby mom died around Christmas of last year & now he's engaged in a legal battle for custody of his kids with her family. The family is framing it under the guise that he never wanted them to begin with. You have to do what you feel is right though.

These types of scenarios are what I'm grappling with. And in listening to my heart, it's hard not to think:

nikkas die every day, b.

If she needs me and she's my child, I want to be there. I know what it's like to have a part time dad.

 

[tater]

Wait and get a paternity test. Who cares what she thinks about it, she openly told you she was having sex with others, what is the solution otherwise?

How do y'all get involved with these people

 

[Fiji Water]

Good advice so far, but also you should do what you got to do to move out NOW!

With these rents... Yeah I'ma need this month but I'm tryna see if I can couch surf. She works from home so it's not like I can sleep and shower when she ain't home. I should have been gone.

 

[Coco Loco]

Early-mid November.

I'm trying not to be stressed because this makes me look like a terrible father either way. The child isn't gonna see mom's a cheater, she's just going to see a mother. And I feel bad because at this point, I don't even wanna see the child. Hopefully that changes if it's mine but even then, I can't imagine any civility between me and the woman.

So my best case scenario is financial support unless my daughter requests to see me which I'd really have to think over. The situation got me in my feelings that bad that I don't know if I can even deal with having any contact moving forward.

Damn I was hoping it would be sooner so this can be resolved quickly. If she is yours you gotta be a father to your child regardless of the mother. I know that sounds impossible but if she's yours she didn't do anything to deserve you not being in her life. I can already see the mom making co-parenting a living hell though. Good luck

 

[Harry Sax]

Baby gone come out lookin like 4 different nikkas and a cac

 

[SunnyD]

So she feels like she hit a lick right ? I’ll also assume the other guys are no where to be found. I wholeheartedly believe in paternity tests for those reasons alone. I don’t think anyone could fault you regardless of what choice you make. Don’t sign a thing. She’s already proven she makes piss poor life altering decisions. .she can’t be trusted.

 

[Arianne Martell]

@Fiji Water which state do you all live in?

 

[Fiji Water]

Wait and get a paternity test. Who cares what she thinks about it, she openly told you she was having sex with others, what is the solution otherwise?

How do y'all get involved with these people

I downloaded bumble.

 

[tater]

You know you can get a paternity test now if she'll agree. It's worth a try.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Baby gone come out lookin like 4 different nikkas and a cac

U wrong for this breh...

 

[Fiji Water]

@Fiji Water which state do you all live in?

It's Las Vegas, NV. I wish I had enough money to be Sam Rothstein about all of this.

 

[Fiji Water]

Baby gone come out lookin like 4 different nikkas and a cac

I legit said to myself that child is gonna end up looking like a AI generated image.

 

[Big Mountain Hélà]

If you sign and dna test says it’s not yours, courts say you’re still legally responsible for an 18yr bid

 

[Arianne Martell]

It's Las Vegas, NV. I wish I had enough money to be Sam Rothstein about all of this.

Checkout the laws regarding paternity in that state and move accordingly.

Im also team paternity test first. Then fight for joint custody If you are the father.

 

[Fiji Water]

So she feels like she hit a lick right ? I’ll also assume the other guys are no where to be found. I wholeheartedly believe in paternity tests for those reasons alone. I don’t think anyone could fault you regardless of what choice you make. Don’t sign a thing. She’s already proven she makes piss poor life altering decisions. .she can’t be trusted.

I don't have a large family so having a child is really important to me. I believe she's using that vulnerability to try and manipulate me. Like, all I want is proof so I can confidently raise a child that I know belongs to me. But everyday it looks more and more like I'll be Santa and the tooth fairy at most.