Is there really a shortage of black men for black women to date/married? OR

[Blah1991]

Doesn't bother anyone. It's just ridiculous when Black women go on national TV and say there are no good Black men. Can you imagine how ridiculous it would be for "successful" Black men to go on national TV and say there are no "good" Black women around?

We'd all give those nikkas the look.

Black men do plenty of black female bashing so stop playing the victim.

 

[Blah1991]

No. No one on this earth deserves anyone.

Your next twist of logic will be to assume that the majority of "successful" Black women fall in the unicorn category, hence their only options are "good" Black men. But since "good" Black women shouldn't expect to find "great" Black men in abundance, why would a "good" Black man deserve a unicorn Black woman?

It's apparent where you were going.

Most Black women fall in the "good" category also. National income statistics support that claim.

How u drew that conclusion from my comment is astounding, but whatever.

 

[mamba]

Black men do plenty of black female bashing so stop playing the victim.

Lame nikkas on Youtube, yes. But, I've yet to see "successful" Black men on CNN, Nightline, ABC and shyt throwing Black women under the bus. It just doesn't happen.

Pharrell's dumb ass is still getting dragged on some #NewBlack shyt for some shyt he said on national TV. Can you imagine if that nikka had said something like "there are hardly any 'good' Black women left" on Oprah?

That nikka would have gotten dragged until all the meat came off his bones.

 

[Blah1991]

Lame nikkas on Youtube, yes. But, I've yet to see "successful" Black men on CNN, Nightline, ABC and shyt throwing Black women under the bus. It just doesn't happen.

Pharrell's dumb ass is still getting dragged on some #NewBlack shyt for some shyt he said on national TV. Can you imagine if that nikka had said something like "there are hardly any 'good' Black women left" on Oprah?

That nikka would have gotten dragged until all the meat came off his bones.

How about this. Both sexes should stop publicly attacking each other. Can we agree on that?

 

[mamba]

How about this. Both sexes should stop publicly attacking each other. Can we agree on that?

"Successful" Black men haven't thrown Black women under the bus on national TV and other major media. So, I'm not sure what you mean. It has been one-sided.

 

[mamba]

I don't care because I'm not most women. You don't know me or what my expectations are.

What are your expectations?

 

[Blah1991]

"Successful" Black men haven't thrown Black women under the bus on national TV and other major media. So, I'm not sure what you mean. It has been one-sided.

You're just looking to be the victim rather than trying to reach any consensus. Have a nice day sir.

 

[The Maverick]

Argue amongst yourselves instead of seeking a solution brehs and brehettes.

There is no shortage of good black men, contrary to beliefs. It seems like most people want to define good as making above average income. Or if the woman is college educated, the bare minimum for her "good black man" starts at her salary and hopefully makes more.

The thing is, it's a man's market once you start talking about men making 55k+. These dudes know the power they weild. By the time a woman is finished with her degree, is in the job market and entering her prime years, men haven't even scratched the surface of their earning potential. After all that time of having to chase women, they are now considered the prize in the dating market. So now a large percentage of women are all vying for the guys from the "small" pool of "good black man".

I'll say this. There are good black men out there, more than you think. But women best be prepared to compete.

 

[Kenny West]

You're just looking to be the victim rather than trying to reach any consensus. Have a nice day sir.

lol

To sum up almost every female's post in the thread

argue with women brehs

 

[Ashley Banks]

Argue amongst yourselves instead of seeking a solution brehs and brehettes.

There is no shortage of good black men, contrary to beliefs. It seems like most people want to define good as making above average income. Or if the woman is college educated, the bare minimum for her "good black man" starts at her salary and hopefully makes more.

The thing is, it's a man's market once you start talking about men making 55k+. These dudes know the power they weild. By the time a woman is finished with her degree, is in the job market and entering her prime years, men haven't even scratched the surface of their earning potential. After all that time of having to chase women, they are now considered the prize in the dating market. So now a large percentage of women are all vying for the guys from the "small" pool of "good black man".

I'll say this. There are good black men out there, more than you think. But women best be prepared to compete.

If a guy acts like he's too good for me or tries to make me compete for his attention, then he's DEFINITELY not the guy I want. Imagine having kids with or being married to someone like that? Sounds like misery.

 

[marcuz]

Black men do plenty of black female bashing so stop playing the victim.

never on a national scale, hasn't happened once.

 

[GiGi]

Argue amongst yourselves instead of seeking a solution brehs and brehettes.

There is no shortage of good black men, contrary to beliefs. It seems like most people want to define good as making above average income. Or if the woman is college educated, the bare minimum for her "good black man" starts at her salary and hopefully makes more.

The thing is, it's a man's market once you start talking about men making 55k+. These dudes know the power they weild. By the time a woman is finished with her degree, is in the job market and entering her prime years, men haven't even scratched the surface of their earning potential. After all that time of having to chase women, they are now considered the prize in the dating market. So now a large percentage of women are all vying for the guys from the "small" pool of "good black man".

I'll say this. There are good black men out there, more than you think. But women best be prepared to compete.

Here's the thing....

When black women start to "compete" (and by "compete" I assume that you mean begin to conform to the standards of female desirability of the larger society) then the men of the larger society also begin to see those same black women as viable relationship options as well.

Many black men erroneously believe that black women have no other options beyond black men and this is simply false. A factor in the low intermarriage rate between black women and non-black men is partially due to black women (in the past and present) rejecting non-black men as partners. However, this is changing.

Black women are evolving. The natural hair movement is growing. The push to become healthier (exercising, veganism, healthier food choices, weight loss, etc.). The number of black women entering college and going on to pursue advanced degrees continues to rise. Black women are taking steps and positioning ourselves to prosper. And more black women are dropping the "only a black man" mantra and have moved on to doing what is best for themselves as individuals.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Here's the thing....

When black women start to "compete" (and by "compete" I assume that you mean begin to conform to the standards of female desirability of the larger society) then the men of the larger society also begin to see those same black women as viable relationship options as well.

Many black men erroneously believe that black women have no other options beyond black men and this is simply false. A factor in the low intermarriage rate between black women and non-black men is partially due to black women (in the past and present) rejecting non-black men as partners. However, this is changing.

Black women are evolving. The natural hair movement is growing. The push to become healthier (exercising, veganism, healthier food choices, weight loss, etc.). The number of black women entering college and going on to pursue advanced degrees continues to rise. Black women are taking steps and positioning ourselves to prosper. And more black women are dropping the "only a black man" mantra and have moved on to doing what is best for themselves as individuals.

I'm glad a lot of bw are starting to be more open, not saying that all successful bm think they're God's gift to women and women should be dying/competing to be with them, but enough do think like that. It's sad that a lot of bw used to (and a lot still do) actually break themselves to be with a guy like that because they felt like they couldn't date other races and those were the only men they had to choose from. I couldn't even imagine being friends with someone like that, let alone dating them. ugh.

 

[Scott Larock]

this thread is pathetic, typical bed wrench shyt, notice no women addressed white supremacy and the preference for black women in the workplace over black men.

 

[philmonroe]

Stop with the assumptions. Because I make statements about white supremacy impacting the Black family doesn't mean that I have dating problems. If you don't know what white supremacy has to do with the black family then you are either white and don't believe in white supremacy or Black and in denial about the History of the Black family in the U.S.
“If those who are already disadvantaged are now marrying less and so missing out on these beneficial properties of marriage, that could cement cycles of disadvantage and intergenerational inequality.”Several studies have found that having a steady job and a good income are important factors in determining whether someone gets married.
Because blacks and those with less education face disadvantages in the labor market, they might tend to hold off marriage longer, thereby increasing gaps in marriage rates. But income only explains a part of these gaps, Schneider says.
http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/1...influences-whether-you-get-married/30149.html

:erroneous:

Stop comparing thousands of years of catering to and uplifting the white woman to a Black woman's plight. If a Black woman having to toughen up to survive in a hostile society turns a Black man off then maybe she is better off without said Black man. Marriage rates in the U.S. are declining; whether she is a hostile or docile Black woman.
“What people own, not just what they earn or know, shapes entrance into marriage and so may perpetuate disadvantage across generations.”
http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/1...influences-whether-you-get-married/30149.html

Shut your stupid ass up I didn't say you had a problem idiot. Read with understanding. shyt is the worse when people get emotional an start seeing shyt that ain't there. I didn't imply or say you personally have problems. I don't fukking know you and said I was speaking in generalities sensitive person