Is there really a shortage of black men for black women to date/married? OR

[Axum Ezana]

to be honest there are a lot of people that front on the fukkin internet. then u got to deal with the trolls(whites) , blk feminist,the bitter people going through emotions and fukkin c00ns. none of these people speak for real black men and women.


I speak from what I see in real life. no sistas dating white men and no brothas marrying whites. its a small scale from I see in real LIFE. my life. the ones who do have been ran through already.

people on coli just like to look a certain way knowing well they aint bout shyt.

sistas go off of looks and swag first.


black men pick according to your hoe scale and how good u look. they also like educated women who have intelligence.

 

[philmonroe]

A person who lives within their means >>>> a person with "money" (whatever that means as that statement is almost relative)

Nah that's low key hater logic right there. Its almost implying that cats with money don't live within there means. While yes that happens to people with money just like regular earners which would you rather do it with 5 mill or 500k?

 

[Malik]

america is becoming an increasingly individualistic society, so using your situation as some sort of standard is dumb, but you're very quickly gaining a monopoly on stupid posts in this thread


This isn't national media dumbass.



But let's take it back for a second. Latinos are in a similar economic situation as us in America. So why aren't their women appearing in front of the nation to throw the men of their race under the bus? Why are they so comfortable "settling" for making families with the large majority of blue collar men in their community? Why do they build with the males of their race instead of rationalizing dating broke white men? Why hasn't their "standards" risen past 95% of the males in their community?

Don't answer that, the sensible discussion aint for you

That's because Hispanics have a community and we've lost ours for the most part. It's not a "Black" thing though. It's an "African American" thing. African, Jamaican, Haitian, Dominican and other Caribbean/West Indian women stick by their men. Never seen them throw their men under the bus. They still believe in building with their men....a lot of black women today ain't on that wave. Not all but, a lot. And the nikkas these women DO decide to build with are usually the grimy three felony having 2 kids by two other women type dudes. It's never with dependable Mike who works at the Post Office

 

[GiGi]

That's because Hispanics have a community and we've lost ours for the most part. It's not a "Black" thing though. It's an "African American" thing. African, Jamaican, Haitian, Dominican and other Caribbean/West Indian women stick by their men. Never seen them throw their men under the bus. They still believe in building with their men....a lot of black women today ain't on that wave. Not all but, a lot. And the nikkas these women DO decide to build with are usually the grimy three felony having 2 kids by two other women type dudes. It's never with dependable Mike who works at the Post Office

How are black women NOT sticking by black men when black men marry out at more than TWICE the rate of black women?

Among blacks, 24% of newlywed men married outside their race, compared with 9% of women.

Source:
http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2012/02/16/the-rise-of-intermarriage/

So that is 1 in 4 black men marrying interracially compared to a little less than 1 in 10 black women marrying out.

 

[Auger]

Nah that's low key hater logic right there. Its almost implying that cats with money don't live within there means. While yes that happens to people with money just like regular earners which would you rather do it with 5 mill or 500k?

That has nothing to do with being a hater

Notice how I didn't specify any income level, it more has to do with attitudes and discipline, just being fiscally responsible

 

[philmonroe]

That has nothing to do with being a hater

Notice how I didn't specify any income level, it more has to do with attitudes and discipline, just being fiscally responsible

It does to me because of how it is usually used and implied. You might not be a hater and I hope you're not but your using a suspected hater slogan lol Nothing personal man

 

[Malik]

@GiGi By going on national television and saying Black Men ain't shiit, for one, and constantly supporting films that perpetuate this tired narrative. I'm waiting for the Mexican Waiting to Exhale or the Diary of a Mad Chinese Woman. Y'all been shiiting on BM for 20 years.

 

[Auger]

It does to me because of how it is usually used and implied. You might not be a hater and I hope you're not but your using a suspected hater slogan lol Nothing personal man

You should at least know that having money and being well off is relative.

Having money and living within your means is not mutually exclusive, you can do both

 

[philmonroe]

You should at least know that having money and being well off is relative.

Having money and living within your means is not mutually exclusive, you can do both

Yeah its relative but I'm not here for the tricky language. We both know what it usually implies and what numbers they are (that determine having money) depending on what circle you're in. I never said you couldn't do both that was implied with your first quote because otherwise its really no need to mention living within your means is greater than money.

 

[The Maverick]

If a guy acts like he's too good for me or tries to make me compete for his attention, then he's DEFINITELY not the guy I want. Imagine having kids with or being married to someone like that? Sounds like misery.

Welcome to how it feels marrying a woman.

Here's the thing....

When black women start to "compete" (and by "compete" I assume that you mean begin to conform to the standards of female desirability of the larger society) then the men of the larger society also begin to see those same black women as viable relationship options as well.

Many black men erroneously believe that black women have no other options beyond black men and this is simply false. A factor in the low intermarriage rate between black women and non-black men is partially due to black women (in the past and present) rejecting non-black men as partners. However, this is changing.

Black women are evolving. The natural hair movement is growing. The push to become healthier (exercising, veganism, healthier food choices, weight loss, etc.). The number of black women entering college and going on to pursue advanced degrees continues to rise. Black women are taking steps and positioning ourselves to prosper. And more black women are dropping the "only a black man" mantra and have moved on to doing what is best for themselves as individuals.

I agree with your post. I'm all for black women self improving. Making the dating climate better for everyone. To be honest with you, women limit themselves more than they should. They choose to narrow their pool of potential mates. That's why folks say to be realistic, because with the very particular standards that some people have, it's difficult to find someone who fits. That goes for both genders.

 

[mamba]

Argue amongst yourselves instead of seeking a solution brehs and brehettes.

There is no shortage of good black men, contrary to beliefs. It seems like most people want to define good as making above average income. Or if the woman is college educated, the bare minimum for her "good black man" starts at her salary and hopefully makes more.

The thing is, it's a man's market once you start talking about men making 55k+. These dudes know the power they weild. By the time a woman is finished with her degree, is in the job market and entering her prime years, men haven't even scratched the surface of their earning potential. After all that time of having to chase women, they are now considered the prize in the dating market. So now a large percentage of women are all vying for the guys from the "small" pool of "good black man".

I'll say this. There are good black men out there, more than you think. But women best be prepared to compete.

That's the thing. Brehettes think "great" Black men are just going to fall in their lap because they have a p*ssy and can throw on a hair hat.

A "great" man of any race can have his pick of the litter across a pretty large age range.

 

[mamba]

That's because Hispanics have a community and we've lost ours for the most part. It's not a "Black" thing though. It's an "African American" thing. African, Jamaican, Haitian, Dominican and other Caribbean/West Indian women stick by their men. Never seen them throw their men under the bus. They still believe in building with their men....a lot of black women today ain't on that wave. Not all but, a lot. And the nikkas these women DO decide to build with are usually the grimy three felony having 2 kids by two other women type dudes. It's never with dependable Mike who works at the Post Office

You're right, breh. It's primarily an AA thing. Ethiopian, Eritrean, Nigerian and other Caribbean brehs don't have to put up with all this shyt. Then again, a lot of Nigerian women are starting to be influenced by the c00n shyt in American media. So, we'll see what happens.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Welcome to how it feels marrying a woman.

Come on, not all women are like that. I do know some women that are like that though and I seriously wonder why their bfs/husbands deal with it.

 

[mamba]

@GiGi By going on national television and saying Black Men ain't shiit, for one, and constantly supporting films that perpetuate this tired narrative. I'm waiting for the Mexican Waiting to Exhale or the Diary of a Mad Chinese Woman. Y'all been shiiting on BM for 20 years.

Brehettes always shyt on nikkas in the media. Can you imagine if Barack Obama had a white wife? That nikka would have gotten dragged in the media by Black women.

As a matter of fact, that nikka probably even wouldn't be President right now if he had a cac wife. Black brehettes would have been all on that "no good black men, white women taking all our good men" mess.

 

[GiGi]

@GiGi By going on national television and saying Black Men ain't shiit, for one, and constantly supporting films that perpetuate this tired narrative. I'm waiting for the Mexican Waiting to Exhale or the Diary of a Mad Chinese Woman. Y'all been shiiting on BM for 20 years.

We all know that other groups do not air their dirty laundry the way that black Americans tend to do. However, many Asian women loudly and proudly proclaim their preference for pink peen (The Joy Luck Club) and Hispanics marry out more than any other group but both of these groups do not bash in the public forum.

Black men, in the collective, express their disdain for black women in the mates that they choose and in the misogynistic lyrics in hip hop and R&B. And yes, black women ran to Ricki Lake and Oprah to complain when we should have been silently working on ourselves and looking inward. Absolutely NONE of it is RIGHT.