Is Receiving Male Attention For Women Really That Serious?

[Raava]

as if they'll answer the hard questions.

Women answer hard questions all the time. Just because they aren't what some want to hear or believe doesn't mean they don't answer.

Human beings crave attention and acceptance. Men try act like they don't care if they get attention women. Threads in TLR prove that wrong everyday. PUA's and TFL dudes on youtube prove that wrong.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Yeah, there was a thread on this. A lot of woman become spiteful, vindictive and destructive if they see that their baby father no longer wants them or is with another woman. They may very well attack the woman too. That woman probably has some sort of mental issues though. To kill her children is something else.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Look at all these women that have answered

what does that mean?

 

[Aphrodite]

Yeah, there was a thread on this. A lot of woman become spiteful, vindictive and destructive if they see that their baby father no longer wants them or is with another woman. They may very well attack the woman too. That woman probably has some sort of mental issues though. To kill her children is something else.

Idk if you even heard of fetal abduction but I've researched it/watched cases documented on it and most of those women feel pressured by family/society to get pregnant/provide a family for their husbands/ boyfriends. Some of the women can not give birth or they can't carry out the terms of pregnancy. A lot of times those women get highs from the attention they receive during the fake pregnancies from their family/men.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Women answer hard questions all the time. Just because they aren't what some want to hear or believe doesn't mean they don't answer.

Human beings crave attention and acceptance. Men try act like they don't care if they get attention women. Threads in TLR prove that wrong everyday. PUA's and TFL dudes on youtube prove that wrong.

Not necessarily true. There is a difference for a need for human interaction and needless attention. Men don't use women for attention whereas women do. Women will have guys in their life that they use solely for attention. Those PUA and TFL dudes want to either get laid or get girlfriends. Plus they aren't the average dudes.Most of them are below average, socially awkward, or average but don't have that it factor to attract a lot of women. And some can, but the women they want don't want them, and the women taht want them they don't notice or don't want.

Men don't put women in the friendzone because they like the attention, someone admiring them etc whereas women do. Those are the differences.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Idk if you even heard of fetal abduction but I've researched it/watched cases documented on it and most of those women feel pressured by family/society to get pregnant/provide a family for their husbands/ boyfriends. Some of the women can not give birth or they can't carry out the terms of pregnancy. A lot of times those women get highs from the attention they receive during the fake pregnancies from their family/men.

I don't know what you mean by fetal abduction but yeah I've heard of people making up crazy stories or things for the attention.

 

[PlainSight]

Society ingrains in girls heads that male attention is important.
Your self worth is heavily measured by men.
How you look.
If you can give a man a family.
If a man will marry you.

Women are definitely socialized to associate their value with their proximity to men, often to extreme lengths. It reminds me of women who dull their sexual desire in order to "not be a hoe", but then are hit with the "prude" label simultaneously. It is similar for us, but slightly different - our self worth as it relates to women generally tends to be either how many of them we can "accumulate" or how women impact our reputation. The common thread seems to be objectification. In the sense that the woman is seen as a reward, a prize of sorts in either scenario.

In addition, most humans will look to receive positive external stimuli more often, and not receiving it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and unhappiness. I'd imagine that women are certainly not immune to this and are likely to feel negative about not receiving any male attention - and in my experience, most women seem to feel negative about their relationships with men in spite of getting attention, because the attention that they receive they consider to be undesirable.

Loads of factors IMO.

 

[Aphrodite]

I don't know what you mean by fetal abduction but yeah I've heard of people making up crazy stories or things for the attention.

Women who steal other women's babies/kidnap/murder the women and take the baby out of the other woman's womb to portray the baby as their own. As if they were really pregnant. It's not that common but it happens.

That was used an example of pressures put on women who may feel like they don't measure up to societal standards of what a successful/happy/well rounded woman is. Pregnant women get a lot of attention and pregnant women are important. Women who can give birth are significant to the world/life.

Cis women who can not give birth go through a lot of turmoil, especially if they prefer to carry the child themselves or make it appear that way. Now science is advancing though so things are working out.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Women who steal other women's babies/kidnap/murder the women and take the baby out of the other woman's womb to portray the baby as their own. As if they were really pregnant. It's not that common but it happens.

That was used an example of pressures put on women who may feel like they don't measure up to societal standards of what a successful/happy/well rounded woman is. Pregnant women get a lot of attention and pregnant women are important. Women who can give birth are significant to the world/life.

Cis women who can not give birth go through a lot of turmoil, especially if they prefer to carry the child themselves or make it appear that way. Now science is advancing though so things are working out.

yeah those are extreme cases.

 

[Raava]

Not necessarily true. There is a difference for a need for human interaction and needless attention. Men don't use women for attention whereas women do. Women will have guys in their life that they use solely for attention. Those PUA and TFL dudes want to either get laid or get girlfriends. Plus they aren't the average dudes.

Men don't put women in the friendzone because they like the attention, someone admiring them etc whereas women do. Those are the differences.

Men want female attention and use women for sex. They want to be lusted after and desired by women. That is one of the things a lot of men measure masculinity by. If you don't get female attention you are lame, loser, beta, etc... A ladies man, man's man.

Men do put women in the friendzones. Only for a lot of them they have friends with benefits zone because they still want sex but have no intention being in a relationship and/or interest in them past sex. There are some who do without sex but that is less common. There are plenty of men who are cool with women they know are attracted to them but don't see them in that way, and have the decency to not sleep with them.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Men want female attention and use women for sex. They want to be lusted after and desired by women. That is one of the things a lot of men measure masculinity by. If you don't get female attention you are lame, loser, beta, etc... A ladies man, man's man.

Men do put women in the friendzones. Only for a lot of them they have friends with benefits zone because they still want sex but have no intention being in a relationship and/or interest in them past sex. There are some who do without sex but that is less common. There are plenty of men who are cool with women they know are attracted to them but don't see them in that way, and have the decency to not sleep with them.

What you said isn't wrong but it's different. Sure men want to attract a lot of women because they are seen as more of a man because of it. But it ain't necessarily the fact that they can attract a lot of women, more so the characteristics of the man his aura, personality, confidence, leadership qualities etc. If it were based upon how many women a man can attract, then men would perceive male models as the most manly because those men attract more women than the average guy.

And it ain't even about attention, more so sex. How many women can you get in bed? The average guy isn't even having sex like that. Most men die with having less than 10 sexual partners. Most dudes aren't really thinking about that PUA bullshyt and how to attract a lot of women. It's the dudes that really struggle with it that do. Most dudes get girlfriends, and some the occasional fling here and there if not at all.

The male friendzone is different like you stated. It's sex only, not for attention. And as for a man having female friends that he knows lowkey likes him it's different, because he isn't leading them on into believing that he likes them, nor is he using them for attention or favors. I have been on that side many times before and I never used them for anything, I didn't feel some type of ego boost or hit them up when my phone's dry like women do. These guys are often good looking, whereas women can be average and still ahve men in the friendzone.

Women and men view attention from the opposite sex differently. Attention from a woman without sex is worse than no attention at all. Whereas women are more than fine with getting attention from certain men and not having sex with them.

There's a difference between a need for human interaction (one of maslow's hierarchy of needs) and a need for attention from the opposite sex so you feel sexually attractive. Do you think dad's with beer bellies are focused on being sexually attractive to women? Most men don't care about the attention of other women once they have a girlfriend, wife, etc.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Why was this moved to the Salon?

 

[Raava]

What you said isn't wrong but it's different. Sure men want to attract a lot of women because they are seen as more of a man because of it. But it ain't necessarily the fact that they can attract a lot of women, more so the characteristics of the man his aura, personality, confidence, leadership qualities etc. If it were based upon how many women a man can attract, then men would perceive male models as the most manly because those men attract more women than the average guy.

And it ain't even about attention, more so sex. How many women can you get in bed? The average guy isn't even having sex like that. Most men die with having less than 10 sexual partners. Most dudes aren't really thinking about that PUA bullshyt and how to attract a lot of women. It's the dudes that really struggle with it that do. Most dudes get girlfriends, and some the occasional fling here and there if not at all.

The male friendzone is different like you stated. It's sex only, not for attention. And as for a man having female friends that he knows lowkey likes him it's different, because he isn't leading them on into believing that he likes them, nor is he using them for attention or favors. I have been on that side many times before and I never used them for anything, I didn't feel some type of ego boost or hit them up when my phone's dry like women do. These guys are often good looking, whereas women can be average and still ahve men in the friendzone.

Women and men view attention from the opposite sex differently. Attention from a woman without sex is worse than no attention at all. Whereas women are more than fine with getting attention from certain men and not having sex with them.

There's a difference between a need for human interaction (one of maslow's hierarchy of needs) and a need for attention from the opposite sex so you feel sexually attractive. Do you think dad's with beer bellies are focused on being sexually attractive to women? Most men don't care about the attention of other women once they have a girlfriend, wife, etc.

The average woman doesn't have men crawling all over her all the time either.

If you don't get attention from the opposite sex how do you truly know you are attractive? Both men and women need and want attention from the opposite sex and it is important bottom line. You keep trying to spin it to be another thing. It's not. How would they even get sex without attention and sexual attraction besides rape? What do you think the attention women get is based on? Sex. True it seems sex is more important to men than women when it comes to these dynamics, but it is all sex based.

Men have used women they don't find attractive for sex, but also money, housing, food, gifts, whatever. Just because you haven't doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It is something of bragging rights to finesse women out of things. It is just a lot of the time physical act or sex is part of it. Women will take that out of the equation. If these same men woke up one day and were ignored by women trust me it will be an issue.

I see what you are saying I agree it is not the same in some ways. Women do naturally get more attention more chances for sex etc. But attention is important to everyone.

 

[SheWantTheD]

The average woman doesn't have men crawling all over her all the time either.

If you don't get attention from the opposite sex how do you truly know you are attractive? Both men and women need and want attention from the opposite sex and it is important bottom line. You keep trying to spin it to be another thing. It's not. How would they even get sex without attention and sexual attraction besides rape? What do you think the attention women get is based on? Sex. True it seems sex is more important to men than women when it comes to these dynamics, but it is all sex based.

Men have used women they don't find attractive for sex, but also money, housing, food, gifts, whatever. Just because you haven't doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It is something of bragging rights to finesse women out of things. It is just a lot of the time physical act or sex is part of it. Women will take that out of the equation. If these same men woke up one day and were ignored by women trust me it will be an issue.

I see what you are saying I agree it is not the same in some ways. Women do naturally get more attention more chances for sex etc. But attention is important to everyone.

I never said attention isn't important to everyone, but women perceive it as more valuable and place more importance on it.

 

[Raava]

I never said attention isn't important to everyone, but women perceive it as more valuable and place more importance on it.

That's all I was saying tho.