I had an affair in 2015. My wife called my side chick this morning.

[AlainLocke]

...

 

[AlainLocke]

dp

 

[Rawster]

I hope you've prepared yourself mentally for the day the crazy nikka that got your wife pregnant drops the video of him fukking her and her sucking him off on Facebook or instagram.

It's pretty much a guarantee that if she let him go raw and nut inside of her that she also paid you back by letting him tape her doing some of the nastiest shyt ever.
And since he would threaten the life of her and his unborn child then he will have no moral objection to putting up a video of him fukking her in the ass on tumblr. What you put into the universe to hurt another you will receive back. Sometimes tenfold.

I hope you guys can get it together for the sake of the children, but that video is coming maybe tomorrow or maybe when you post a happy family vacation picture 10 years from now. And since it's in the phone of another man there is nothing you can do to stop it. I really do wish you nothing but positive interactions with you wife from this day forward. But you've done nothing to warrant good will at this point.
To lie and betray to the one person that will have your back thru thick and thin is a major character flaw. You are not to be trusted, not even by yourself, and until you rectify that you shouldn't expect anyone in your life to keep it real with you. the person you trust sleeping next to every night, knowing they can end your life with one swipe of a knife across your throat while you are completely defenseless doesn't feel you are trustworthy. Please fix this black man, this can turn into a murder-suicide at any time, and there is no guarantee that the children will be spared.

God bless and god speed, and I hope that whoever the god is that you look towards for guidance may give you the gift of loyalty. Because you behave like a godless man at this point. And I want more for you and your family.

 

[Giselle]

So you say instead of staying with her family and some sense of stability, she should leave and go seek therapy that she does not have access to.

There is no stability when in a relationship with a cheating male especially when she has mental/emotional issues. Yes, she should divorce and put her and her child in therapy. You are doing a terrible job if your family does not have medical care. Just proving my point of you being trash even further.

That I should drag my daughter through the process of a divorce and let the unborn son be born as a b*stard because some armchair psychologist said so.

First off, if you are a good person like you claim, there is no need to have a divorce that drags anyone anywhere. It is as simple as signing papers and showing up in court (none of which involves your daughter to be there). No drama involved.

Going through a divorce and having good mental/emotional health (which is common since millions of people have gotten divorced and turned out fine) is much better than going through seeing your mother who has developed mental/emotional issues b/c of your father's cheating continuously get disrespected by your father. Then having your ill mother abandon you bc of the issues that your father caused. On top of that, while you're with your father, he brings his side hoes home while you're there and your mother is gone. Trash like I said. Trust, that little girl knows what's going on. Staying with the mother will only teach her to allow that type of behavior. She'll end up just like her ill mother. You did nothing but damage those women. The best thing you could do is let them go. Be a single father since you want to fck around and take advantage of women. You can date and fck whoever and still be in your child's life.

Also, that child will not be a b*stard child. You are the husband, so you are the assumed father and you will be paying child support. If that's how your state is set up. If you really cared about that child at all and were a good person like you said, you wouldn't have called him a b*stard and you'd be a father to that child regardless of being divorced or not. You just told on yourself again. Trash ass male.

You are doing it all for the looks I bet, so you can be perceived as a type of person you are not.

Sorry to tell you, but I don't want my family to become another statistic.

I knew it! You are doing it for the looks. You don't really care.

FYI, you are alread a statistic. You are in the husbands who cheat group, husbands who abuse their wives, husbands who damage their kids or are terrible fathers, and males who have step kids. You are also in the people who stayed married but shouldn't have group. Google all of those. Studies have been done on all of those things and those things also make you a statistic.

Any and everyone can fit into a statistic, just not a negative one like you do. Divorce isn't negative when it is needed like in this situation.

When I saw something that gleaned in my eye and caught my attention, I did what I did.

Disgusting! This is exactly how I know you will surely cheat again and continue to damage that woman and the children.

& you know that woman is ill bc you even said that she'll never leave on her own. You are taking advantage of her. Disgusting.

And I also caution you with the talk about what you would never do because you never know what life has for you around the corner.

You should never say that you wouldn't fck another male bc you never know what life has for you around the corner. You should never say that you would steal or murder bc you never know what life has for you around the corner.

See how dumb that sounds?

People have morals values and choices. You made a conscious decision to cheat. Your morals and values say that it is not that bad to cheat. Many others have better judgment charachter and morals and will never cheat. People know what they will and won't do.

I guarantee you also that despite this fault in my life, thousands of those who I have impacted in one form or another believe I am a good person.

Bc you want them to believe that you are a good person, so you pretend to be one in front of them. But to the people who really know you, who are close to, who you are supposed to care about the most, they won't think so bc you treat them like trash. That is your true self. A trash ass person.

I simply told a truth but that does not make me a horrible person.

Your truth was disgusting bc of your trash decidsions. If you were a better person, your truth would have been positive.

Do you know how many people cheat?

So bc others do it, it's ok?

I'm pretty sure most people who cheat don't cheat on their mentally ill and emotionally damaged wives. They don't cause the mother to abandon the kids.They don't bring the partners to their home with the kids and introduce them while still married. They don't do it while claiming to almost never have time bc they are full time in school and at work. The people who do do that are called disgusting abusers. You are not the only one, there are a few more of you, but that doesn't make things any better.

My reality is good. Like I said, I've gotten shyt off my chest, started the process of healing wounds, and we good.

Here you go lying to yourself again.

Things will only get worse.

 

[Maxine Shaw]

it's funny cus freddy be putting on the cape for you BW online

They're always the fakest ones. I prefer my fukkboys loud and openly ignorant, like so many brehs here.

 

[Aufheben]

clown ass nikka

ain't you the same one that be trynna go around lecturing black men and shyt...meanwhile cheating on ur wife with multiple bytches, video taping it, leaving the videos out, getting hoes pregnant, playing pokemon like shyt is sweet like a fukking nerd...and all this in front of your lil children

then making light of the situation like shyt is sweet "caint giv side hoes da whole dikk now hhuhuhhuh"

then got nerve to talk about you a phd student and shyt ... nah you're just a scumbag negro. kill yourself

 

[shonuff]

Interesting obersvation. I love her and would do anything for her, but tbh, to be "in love" is something I don't know if either of us feel. She was probably felt in love with me when I came to get her from the A and we took each other back but idk if she is "in love" with me at the present. And vice versa. Honestly I'm just hoping that comes with time.

again i want to interject

not neccessarilly to you but to some of the otehrs as well

you have loveless marriages - i know everyone gets sold on this "soul mate" and you have to be in love with someone forever etc etc

that shyt is a myth it's a fantasy

people - adults change over time - everyone does - and you arent going to be "in love" by and large with one person forever - you might have a companion - you might have a friend ( if you are lucky) but its really crazy to see that belief in a fairytale about how people are husband and wife and are "in love" forever and ever - which is mostly on some Hollywood dime store novel shyt instead of the real world

real world is that marraiges until the last 30 or 40 years were business arrangements at best - and outside of a few western industrialized countries is still IS

all those people you see now that have been marreid for 30 40 and 50 years - that is usually because the women had no choice BUT to stay with a guy - in 1980 if a woman divorced shed be up the shyt creek socially and economicaly and NOT be married

19 -fukking - 80 and shyt still hasnt really changed much - this whole "single mom " shyt has only been running in the last 20 years or so - in 1990s you were shamed to be a single mom / wedlock mom

so lets not candy coat shyt - up until the very RECENT present women for the most part HAD to stay with dudes bc there was no other choice and dudes NOW are punished fiscally if they want to leave -

I don't fault you for wanting to fukk someone else - that's human nature - you can't beat that shyt you can only cope with it

 

[kevm3]

Man you could have passed your wife an std. This sounds like an episode of Jerru Springer.

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

clown ass nikka

ain't you the same one that be trynna go around lecturing black men and shyt...meanwhile cheating on ur wife with multiple bytches, video taping it, leaving the videos out, getting hoes pregnant, playing pokemon like shyt is sweet like a fukking nerd...and all this in front of your lil children

then making light of the situation like shyt is sweet "caint giv side hoes da whole dikk now hhuhuhhuh"

then got nerve to talk about you a phd student and shyt ... nah you're just a scumbag negro. kill yourself

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

There is no stability when in a relationship with a cheating male especially when she has mental/emotional issues. Yes, she should divorce and put her and her child in therapy. You are doing a terrible job if your family does not have medical care. Just proving my point of you being trash even further.


First off, if you are a good person like you claim, there is no need to have a divorce that drags anyone anywhere. It is as simple as signing papers and showing up in court (none of which involves your daughter to be there). No drama involved.

Going through a divorce and having good mental/emotional health (which is common since millions of people have gotten divorced and turned out fine) is much better than going through seeing your mother who has developed mental/emotional issues b/c of your father's cheating continuously get disrespected by your father. Then having your ill mother abandon you bc of the issues that your father caused. On top of that, while you're with your father, he brings his side hoes home while you're there and your mother is gone. Trash like I said. Trust, that little girl knows what's going on. Staying with the mother will only teach her to allow that type of behavior. She'll end up just like her ill mother. You did nothing but damage those women. The best thing you could do is let them go. Be a single father since you want to fck around and take advantage of women. You can date and fck whoever and still be in your child's life.

Also, that child will not be a b*stard child. You are the husband, so you are the assumed father and you will be paying child support. If that's how your state is set up. If you really cared about that child at all and were a good person like you said, you wouldn't have called him a b*stard and you'd be a father to that child regardless of being divorced or not. You just told on yourself again. Trash ass male.

You are doing it all for the looks I bet, so you can be perceived as a type of person you are not.



I knew it! You are doing it for the looks. You don't really care.

FYI, you are alread a statistic. You are in the husbands who cheat group, husbands who abuse their wives, husbands who damage their kids or are terrible fathers, and males who have step kids. You are also in the people who stayed married but shouldn't have group. Google all of those. Studies have been done on all of those things and those things also make you a statistic.

Any and everyone can fit into a statistic, just not a negative one like you do. Divorce isn't negative when it is needed like in this situation.



Disgusting! This is exactly how I know you will surely cheat again and continue to damage that woman and the children.

& you know that woman is ill bc you even said that she'll never leave on her own. You are taking advantage of her. Disgusting.


You should never say that you wouldn't fck another male bc you never know what life has for you around the corner. You should never say that you would steal or murder bc you never know what life has for you around the corner.

See how dumb that sounds?

People have morals values and choices. You made a conscious decision to cheat. Your morals and values say that it is not that bad to cheat. Many others have better judgment charachter and morals and will never cheat. People know what they will and won't do.



Bc you want them to believe that you are a good person, so you pretend to be one in front of them. But to the people who really know you, who are close to, who you are supposed to care about the most, they won't think so bc you treat them like trash. That is your true self. A trash ass person.



Your truth was disgusting bc of your trash decidsions. If you were a better person, your truth would have been positive.



So bc others do it, it's ok?

I'm pretty sure most people who cheat don't cheat on their mentally ill and emotionally damaged wives. They don't cause the mother to abandon the kids.They don't bring the partners to their home with the kids and introduce them while still married. They don't do it while claiming to almost never have time bc they are full time in school and at work. The people who do do that are called disgusting abusers. You are not the only one, there are a few more of you, but that doesn't make things any better.



Here you go lying to yourself again.

Things will only get worse.

God damn you sound green as hell. All i can say is you sound real invested in this shyt to type out mad paragraphs at 11:30. You wanna be right so bad, but there is this little thing called reality that keeps you from accepting the fact that
1. At the end of the day I could give a shyt less about what you think, it's not going to affect my actions, so all of those paragraphs are useless.
2. If she leaves, the benefits are done. And if there is a divorce, it's not that simple. Custody would have to be split between two people two states, not to mention the toll it would take on everyone involved. And the boy would be a b*stard. But no, Giselle knows everything! She's a legal moral expert who has never done any wrong in life! Not to mention that you can read the future and determine for the rest of my life I will be a cheating scumbag! Because people don't change. At least in Gisselle's world.

I read through all of that trash you typed, and yeah, you just want to blame me. I been told you it took two to create this, but nah, you want to perpetuate that patriarchal myth that the man causes everything and that women can do no wrong. Even if they have been arrested for domestic violence shyt. IT TAKES TWO. YOU WANT TO BASH AND shyt AND WHEN A nikka TELLS YOU THAT SHE AINT PERFECT EITHER, ITS LIKE IM TALKING FRENCH OR SOMETHING AND YOUR DUMB ASS CANT COMPREHEND THAT shyt. You're a trash ass woman incapable of empathy for someone outside of your gender identity, fukk you, fukk the bullshyt logic you trying to put of there without looking at the whole situation.

At the end of the day, I'm good, my family is good, and I don't know why I'm sitting over here arguing with someone who probably has been through nothing in life. Maybe college. But still immature in their thought process. That's on me though.

clown ass nikka

ain't you the same one that be trynna go around lecturing black men and shyt...meanwhile cheating on ur wife with multiple bytches, video taping it, leaving the videos out, getting hoes pregnant, playing pokemon like shyt is sweet like a fukking nerd...and all this in front of your lil children

then making light of the situation like shyt is sweet "caint giv side hoes da whole dikk now hhuhuhhuh"

then got nerve to talk about you a phd student and shyt ... nah you're just a scumbag negro. kill yourself

You get half a bar, fukk you nikka.

 

[4fossa]

Take the L and move on

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

I hope you've prepared yourself mentally for the day the crazy nikka that got your wife pregnant drops the video of him fukking her and her sucking him off on Facebook or instagram.

It's pretty much a guarantee that if she let him go raw and nut inside of her that she also paid you back by letting him tape her doing some of the nastiest shyt ever.
And since he would threaten the life of her and his unborn child then he will have no moral objection to putting up a video of him fukking her in the ass on tumblr. What you put into the universe to hurt another you will receive back. Sometimes tenfold.

I hope you guys can get it together for the sake of the children, but that video is coming maybe tomorrow or maybe when you post a happy family vacation picture 10 years from now. And since it's in the phone of another man there is nothing you can do to stop it. I really do wish you nothing but positive interactions with you wife from this day forward. But you've done nothing to warrant good will at this point.
To lie and betray to the one person that will have your back thru thick and thin is a major character flaw. You are not to be trusted, not even by yourself, and until you rectify that you shouldn't expect anyone in your life to keep it real with you. the person you trust sleeping next to every night, knowing they can end your life with one swipe of a knife across your throat while you are completely defenseless doesn't feel you are trustworthy. Please fix this black man, this can turn into a murder-suicide at any time, and there is no guarantee that the children will be spared.

God bless and god speed, and I hope that whoever the god is that you look towards for guidance may give you the gift of loyalty. Because you behave like a godless man at this point. And I want more for you and your family.

Thats real. All I can do is do better moving forward.

 

[Youhadasparkwhenustarted]

Reminds me so much of my baby daddy and me. I swear I was gonna kill him one way or another. I did everything in my power to hurt him and he did the same to me. Yes the love was there but it was just an all around toxic relationship all a round and neither of us was happy. I finally walked away for good and my life has been sooooooo much better.

I say all that to say don't beat yourself too much. Sounds like both of y'all have done dirt so beating yourself up at this point is a waste. 10 years is a looooooong time so I'm sure both of y'all have a number of resentments pent up towards each other. I can tell there's a lot more to this story that's not being said but I've read enough to know that both of y'all would benefit from being separated for a minute and figuring out some things. I've been on my self improvement tip heavy all year and my relationships have improved soooooo much. who knows what the future holds for y'all you're both stil young, maybe with time and maturity y'all will work it out. But definetly just take some time out for yourself and learn yourself. You deserve it and so does your daughter.

I bet it does:knicksrose::knicksrose::knicksrose:

 

[TheNig]

The longer this continues, someone will get hurt or just as badly, one of the women will hurt themselves.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

not to make light of your misery but this thread coming from you is very ironic

based off everything youve presented in this thread, you need to leave your wife and gain some self esteem

there is no way you can salvage the relationship, the fact that you are shows how little self worth you have

sometimes co parenting is the best situation for the family. you fukked up and lost the chance at maintaining a stable nuclear family

think about your child, do you really want her around such dysfunction? your child is probably going through it too smh

the best thing you can do is be single and abstain from sex for a WHILE. focus on finishing your PhD and raising you child