@freddykruegeronapill
I have been married for a while and been with my wife for a decade as well. Your problem is one I see with a lot of married men, I'm not throwing stones but you can't be married and a womanizer as well. Taking sexually explicit videos and pics of a side bytch is sloppy as hell. Nikka at the time you did that you weren't some bachelor living alone. That alone sat off a reactionary chain of events.
People cheat for different reasons, but you said once your wife left you became a "male thot". So it sounds like you weren't seeking companionship or conversation because that was lacking with your wife, you was seeking ass. Maybe that was always there breh and it was nothing your wife could've did to change that. You wanted to be on some mafioso type of shyt as a married man with a goomar. Sounds cool but it never works out well.
I would never tell anyone what to do. But you're a married man with a lot to lose, dude you should've just went on BP or something of that nature and wet your beak. Pay a bytch to leave and not to fukk. Side pieces may be fun in the interim but it can become toxic after a while and never ends well. This ain't the 70s-80s the days of having a long term mistress are over, even the thots want you to throw everything away so they can move into your house.
Good luck breh.