How do I eliminate my growing resentment towards women?

[Rozay Oro]

Because the game is rigged against us.

When we're kids, we're taught that girls are princesses, you have to treat them like princesses.
When we're adolescents, we're taught that "girls mature faster than boys" so you have to listen to them and do what they say.
As adults, women are "our equals" and yet somehow "happy wife happy life" became a thing.

And so we have all these types of things hammered into our heads from all directions since we're children.

Can anyone point to anything positive that women are taught about men (or girls about boys) at any point in their development? No, because no such thing exists.

It's "All men are pigs (or dogs or trash, depending on your age and generation)".
Men only want one thing....
etc... etc....

So we're playing the same game, but were playing by different rules.

...because...

What men want, is to meet a woman... just 1 woman... who finally lives up to the hype.
What women want, is a man who finally defies all their expectations about what they've been taught men are.

And most men play by those rules. So they struggle.

So how exactly do I play not by those rules?

 

[semicko82]

If you resent them because they reject you, you need to go get therapy.


Otherwise keep talking to women, respectfully and don't expect relationships/sex and eventually one will like you back.

 

[god shamgod]

Op doesn’t really want to change , go get some therapy instead of asking a bunch of no sex getting peers who resent women just like you for advice.

You’re gonna grow older and older with these same problems until you change. All y’all do is make habitual threads about this bullshyt instead of doing something about it

 

[semicko82]

Op doesn’t really want to change , go get some therapy instead of asking a bunch of no sex getting peers who resent women just like you for advice.

You’re gonna grow older and older with these same problems until you change. All y’all do is make habitual threads about this bullshyt instead of doing something about it

It’s a cold world breh nobody cares about a black mans feelings

 

[ThrobbingHood]

The best thing to do which worked for me is to not hang out with prettyboys or focus on other men's sex lives.

Even if you're getting a normal amount of p*ssy, these nikkas will make you look at women different.

I knew this one breh with blue eyes. He showed me his instagram DMs.

He had all sorts of bad ig models hitting him up first and willing to do anything he asks.

When I compare that type of shyt to how women react to me

This is exactly what happened to me when I had my first job during college. I didn’t struggle with the ladies in high school but I definitely wasn’t a head turner back then.

I worked in retail with this Drake looking nikka. He was around 6ft3. Let me tell you, the way women would approach him aggressively changed my whole outlook. It was hard not to be jealous and resentful at that age. And a man being jealous is one of the worst traits you can have.

Dude would talk about cereal for 30 minutes and women would stare at him like he just dropped some deep knowledge.
I had to be funny, witty and charming just to keep a woman interested at that age.

He’d show me pictures and text messages they would send him. I can’t lie, that shyt hurt being part of ugly gang back then. He was a cool guy so I didn’t want to project my insecurities onto him but damn... the way women would switch up around him was eye opening.

What’s crazy is that now I’m getting the same attention he was getting back then. It still feels weird because I guess I still have the Ugly Duckling syndrome. I’ve had women accost me in public, grabbing my dikk without a care in the world. I’m not saying it to brag, I’m saying how women don’t give a fukk about being a lady when they want to fukk you.

As a man, just focus on yourself. The world is shallow, life isn’t always fair. The only thing you can control is bettering yourself, and the rest will fall into place.

 

[Commish]

OP...

I may stand alone with this statement, but I do commend you for acknowledging that holding resentment towards women is unhealthy..

I actually know how you feel because I had the same sentiment at one point in my life and still working on changing my mindset, but..

Holding such sentiments will hinder you from evolving as a man, IMO..

Just know that women are flawed human beings just like men. Sure, there may be a lot of women who are on and/or with the bullshyt or have unrealistic expectations or are simply childish/immature and lack basic home training/social etiquette.

However, despite your experiences with women, there are just as many women out there who are solid, is receptive and kind, congenital , sexy, interesting, goal driven, stable, etc...

Please understand that you can't control shyt that is out of your control and no woman is going to be, act/behave nor respond to you the way you want all the time.

Learn to charge people to the game that don't have your best interest at heart or lacks enough interest in getting to know you and accepting you for you..

If a woman isn't trying to do something, build something with you, then shrug your shoulders, wish her well in her journey (you don't have to actually say this to one in person, btw..) and go on about your business...

Lastly, all that energy you are using on resenting women can also be used to self improve or simply be grateful for what you have because, best believe, there are people out there who have it considerably worse than yourself...

You made the first step in accepting a flaw that you have and I believe deep down you are seeking insight and wisdom from breh(ettes) here which is cool. Some people will give you tough love because that is their way of helping you while others will be more empathetic and attempt to offer you some sage advice from a non judgmental point of view..

You will be alright, it is just a part of growing up and learning about yourself. Shake the resentment and free yourself, breh!!

 

[semicko82]

This is exactly what happened to me when I had my first job during college. I didn’t struggle with the ladies in high school but I definitely wasn’t a head turner back then.

I worked in retail with this Drake looking nikka. He was around 6ft3. Let me tell you, the way women would approach him aggressively changed my whole outlook. It was hard not to be jealous and resentful at that age. And a man being jealous is one of the worst traits you can have.

Dude would talk about cereal for 30 minutes and women would stare at him like he just dropped some deep knowledge.
I had to be funny, witty and charming just to keep a woman interested at that age.

He’d show me pictures and text messages they would send him. I can’t lie, that shyt hurt being part of ugly gang back then. He was a cool guy so I didn’t want to project my insecurities onto him but damn... the way women would switch up around him was eye opening.

What’s crazy is that now I’m getting the same attention he was getting back then. It still feels weird because I guess I still have the Ugly Duckling syndrome. I’ve had women accost me in public, grabbing my dikk without a care in the world. I’m not saying it to brag, I’m saying how women don’t give a fukk about being a lady when they want to fukk you.

As a man, just focus on yourself. The world is shallow, life isn’t always fair. The only thing you can control is bettering yourself, and the rest will fall into place.

How you go from uglygang to ladies man?

 

[---]

He doesn't even have male friends. He doesn't have a woman problem, he has a social problem. A lot of guys who talk about hating women, rarely have a good social circle so you realize it's the not women that are the issue, it's the guy.

Facts, all facts!

 

[ThrobbingHood]

How you go from uglygang to ladies man?

Bare in mind, I was ugly gang during puberty. Most of us are.

I made a lot of changes physically. I started working out, eating more healthily. Made sure I was well groomed. I started growing into my looks more. I dressed more fly.

Having said that, your physical exterior may get your foot in the door... but having a solid mouth piece >>>>> anything else. Being in ugly gang was a blessing because it forced me to be more outgoing, which means you have to learn how to engage in small talk with women, be funny, witty and charming.

Most importantly, I had friends who had mad game. If you hang around people like that long enough, you’ll pick up tips and develop your own game. If I played with Michael Jordan for years, I may never be as good as him but I’ll learn a lot of his best techniques by playing with him. No different than being around ladies men, you pick up their skills and apply to your own.

Some brehs are born with the cheat code in life, being blessed with the genetic lottery. Some of us have to work hard for it. I’m glad I’m in the latter category because looks will eventually fade, a mind can only get sharper and brighter as you get older. And that’s what will keep a woman engaged with you.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

So how exactly do I play not by those rules?

Learn to focus on yourself and understand your worth.

Understand that men are the prize, and that it's the job of women (all women, everywhere collectively... even our mothers and sisters) to convince you otherwise.

Don't let them convince you otherwise.

Example:

Couple years ago I knew a breh who was a carpenter. Young breh, maybe 28 years old. Not supremely handsome, but a good dude with a good head on his shoulders. But he was heavy into Instagram and shyt and it had done a number on his mind.

He was describing that he was having trouble meeting women. He said that women were turned off when he told them he was a carpenter, because they wanted a white-collar dude, or a baller or a dude with more potential or whatever.

So I thought on this for a minute and asked...

"What do these women bring to the table?"

He paused, confused and asked what I meant.

I said...

"You're a carpenter... which means that if you get one of your electrical brehs, a plumbing breh, an HVAC breh, and a breh who pours concrete... the five of you collectively could build any of those women a house with your bare hands."

I paused to let him think on that. Then I said...

"If you combined the five most competent women you've been rejected by, what could they accomplish, collectively? They could probably take a hell of a selfie. Maybe one of them is a nursing student. Maaaaaybe one of them can kinda cook. But really, what do they bring to the table?"

I could see on his face, breh was ........ So then he asked, "Ok, knowing that, what do I do? I still have to tell them I'm a carpenter."

I said, "If you really wanna play the game, do this. Go down to the post office and grab one of those LLC kits. Start an LLC. It will cost you about $200 dollars. Once that's done, you are a business owner. So now when you go on dates, instead of telling women that you're a carpenter, you tell them that you own a carpentry business. You'll be doing the exact same work and making the exact same money, but being a 'business owner' is more social-media acceptable than being a 'carpenter'. But understand that this is a tactic that will only work on what will end up being the wrong kind of woman. You'll eat off this, but you'll be eating popcorn when you should be looking for steak. The right kind of woman won't care what your job title is. She'll care about how you treat her and how you provide for her."

The point of this story: Women are largely worthless, but social media and simps have given them the bravado to demand whatever they want from men who, logically, should be out of their league. I'm not saying to hate women, but don't put them on a pedestal either. Their shyt stinks just like ours.

Men are the builders, the protectors, the providers. Understand your worth; hold out for a woman who inspires you to boss up to your potential. Hold out for a woman who makes you feel like you you never wanna tell another lie. And understand that it is ok not to have a woman at all, or to cut a woman off if she's acting up.

In the meantime, focus on yourself; because you don't get women by chasing them, you get women by being better than them.

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

Re spill

He resents the game we have to play. He feels like he is losing but he doesn't realize this shyt like a RPG. You gotta level up your skills and develop the emotional tools to be successful.
Yea as men we have some draw backs in this game but we also have some advantages. You gotta learn how to work it to your favor.

Real shyt that RPG analogy is one of the best I've heard when it comes to being man or even just a human being.

shyt takes a lot of grinding to get where you want to be. Like my 2K myplayer. It took me months but I finally got to 88 overall and now I can play these nikkas and not embarrass myself on the court

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Real shyt that RPG analogy is one of the best I've heard when it comes to being man or even just a human being.

Imma start using that shyt.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Learn to focus on yourself and understand your worth.

Understand that men are the prize, and that it's the job of women (all women, everywhere collectively... even our mothers and sisters) to convince you otherwise.

Don't let them convince you otherwise.

Example:

Couple years ago I knew a breh who was a carpenter. Young breh, maybe 28 years old. Not supremely handsome, but a good dude with a good head on his shoulders. But he was heavy into Instagram and shyt and it had done a number on his mind.

He was describing that he was having trouble meeting women. He said that women were turned off when he told them he was a carpenter, because they wanted a white-collar dude, or a baller or a dude with more potential or whatever.

So I thought on this for a minute and asked...

"What do these women bring to the table?"

He paused, confused and asked what I meant.

I said...

"You're a carpenter... which means that if you get one of your electrical brehs, a plumbing breh, an HVAC breh, and a breh who pours concrete... the five of you collectively could build any of those women a house with your bare hands."

I paused to let him think on that. Then I said...

"If you combined the five most competent women you've been rejected by, what could they accomplish, collectively? They could probably take a hell of a selfie. Maybe one of them is a nursing student. Maaaaaybe one of them can kinda cook. But really, what do they bring to the table?"

I could see on his face, breh was ........ So then he asked, "Ok, knowing that, what do I do? I still have to tell them I'm a carpenter."

I said, "If you really wanna play the game, do this. Go down to the post office and grab one of those LLC kits. Start an LLC. It will cost you about $200 dollars. Once that's done, you are a business owner. So now when you go on dates, instead of telling women that you're a carpenter, you tell them that you own a carpentry business. You'll be doing the exact same work and making the exact same money, but being a 'business owner' is more social-media acceptable than being a 'carpenter'. But understand that this is a tactic that will only work on what will end up being the wrong kind of woman. You'll eat off this, but you'll be eating popcorn when you should be looking for steak. The right kind of woman won't care what your job title is. She'll care about how you treat her and how you provide for her."

The point of this story: Women are largely worthless, but social media and simps have given them the bravado to demand whatever they want from men who, logically, should be out of their league. I'm not saying to hate women, but don't put them on a pedestal either. Their shyt stinks just like ours.

Men are the builders, the protectors, the providers. Understand your worth; hold out for a woman who inspires you to boss up to your potential. Hold out for a woman who makes you feel like you you never wanna tell another lie. And understand that it is ok not to have a woman at all, or to cut a woman off if she's acting up.

In the meantime, focus on yourself; because you don't get women by chasing them, you get women by being better than them.

Dap plus rep. Excellent post breh.

 

[DivaForever]

Post a pic and ill tell you why they reject you lmao

 

[Mandarin Duck]

If you resent them because they reject you, you need to go get therapy.


Otherwise keep talking to women, respectfully and don't expect relationships/sex and eventually one will like you back.

I don't think it's as easy as just talking to women and eventually I'll find one that likes me back because that hasn't happened for me throughout my entire life.